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Ash9420 · 02/04/2023 18:54

Hi everyone
I’m 12+2 today just wanted to get peoples opinions really…
Im I being unreasonable in telling my partner that his out of order for only thinking about himself when he goes to the shop buys himself alcohol and other things he knows I can’t have comes home flaunts them in front of me without even so much as thinking about an alternative for me? His response is ‘I’m being selfish and life sucks’

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Ash9420 · 02/04/2023 19:43

No he wasn’t which is why I don’t understand why it’s suddenly become a habit. I was away for my grandmothers funeral, I came home and had to financially do everything. I found out the rent wasn’t paid, we had no bed no fridge or washing machine and I’ve sucked it up and put all my money into the house because that’s what you do. Yes im only 3 months into it but it hasn’t been easy to deal with at all, I’ve been riddled with anxiety having suffered with 2 previous loses, terrible morning sickness the past 5 weeks which I’ve had to go on medication for, some days I can’t even get out of bed because I’m constantly sick. The smell of alcohol I cannot stand. I’m not trying to be in the slightest unreasonable

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MrsDoylesDoily · 02/04/2023 19:31

Was he drinking every day before the pregnancy?

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 02/04/2023 19:31

Yes he sounds quite selfish imo. No need for him to give up completely but drinking every day is going to be expensive and also doesn’t suggest he’s realised what things will be like when the baby comes along.

teaandtoastwithmarmite · 02/04/2023 19:31

I think yab a bit u.

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Ash9420 · 02/04/2023 19:29

I’m not asking him to give it up, I simply said to him it would have even been nice to get me a bottle of juice, im not asking for the world, I’ve had such a horrible time with this pregnancy to date,.. it’s more the fact that he never thinks about me when his the one doing the shopping. And also drinking everyday is one thing specially when we have so much important things to be saving our money for atm

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Lefteyetwitch · 02/04/2023 19:12

What do you mean by flaunts? Does he actually rub it in or just sit there enjoying his things?
At only 12 weeks is there a reason you can't obtain your own things

TomatoFrog · 02/04/2023 19:03

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Shoxfordian · 02/04/2023 19:02

He shouldn’t have to give up things he likes but he doesn’t need to be a dick about it

AnneLovesGilbert · 02/04/2023 19:01

Have you asked for an alternative? He shouldn’t have to stop drinking because you’re pregnant. Apart from alcohol what do you feel he’s having that you can’t?

You’ve got months of pregnancy ahead of you and life with a baby is full of compromise so I’d let go of chippiness if you don’t want to me miserable for the foreseeable future.

BibbleandSqwauk · 02/04/2023 18:58

Ok well I don't think expectant fathers should have to give up alcohol etc no, but it sounds like he's not remotely into this pregnancy at all and you may have a hard road ahead. I'm sorry.