So, hear me out,
I just put into tiktok and Instagram infertility and have scrolled through hundreds and hundreds of women devastated by infertility.
Not one male? I understand men aren't as open with emotions but I still find it very odd that not one man is devastated about infertility to make content about it, really?! Not one.
It made me think, are men just not that bothered and most of the time dragged along this parenting journey? (Of course I know some men are upset by infertility I'm not saying every single guy is unbothered but it strikes me as very odd that not one single man wants to voice his opinion on it)
Now the next thing is, every single piece of information is about the devastation of infertility. Not one helpful bit of information about the positives it can bring, or how to positively deal with it instead of letting it crush your whole life.
Nothing about how not everyone suffering infertility is 'devastated' and some just accept it and can still be relatively happy.
I was saddened by how toxic these messages are and how infertility appears to be one narrative - it's the most terrible thing that can happen to a woman.
That's not helpful to everyone, at all.
I'm infertile and of course, have bad days but on the whole I'm quite happy with life and not Devastated but this stuff made me feel like maybe I should be.
It's just sad how society makes us feel like women should lose hope with life basically if they can't have children. It's very sad.