Wedding Seating

Maybe she isn't really aware of how dependent an 11 month is. Say that she doesn't need to worry about providing any food (cheaper for them!) just a high chair next to you, or you can bring your own

Can't stand bridezillas who call the shots like this. I'd either leave the baby with a babysitter and go child free (maybe that's what she's after), or don't go at all. Personally, I initially would have got the baby minded so I could go and enjoy the day night childfree, but I wouldn't make this decision because of a bridezilla I'd fully decline the invite.

At best this is sheer madness, at worst it's a huge health and safety issue.

I would definitely be declining! The bridezilla is nuts if she thinks this "Child table" will work successfully with 3 year olds.🙄

Totally bonkers!

Bloody hell, even without your 11 month old, a table of toddlers sitting on their own - what could possibly go wrong?

I’d want to go along just to witness the carnage TBH.

This is one of the things I'd bring up with her when she has an 11 mo.

Bizarre. We had a couple of children's tables at our wedding, but with a paid adult babysitter at each one. Plus they were all over 6 or so and mostly cousins.
No way should a baby be eating away from parents, especially if no adult is present at the kids' table.

I've just realised she won't budge so you've already spoken about it. I wouldn't go.

An 11 month old might choke. Terrible idea. I'd pack some food for him and sit him on my lap.

I’m usually very much of the ‘do as the couple ask or don’t go’ but this would push it for even me, it’s a silly idea. I’d either get her looked after for the day/night or I wouldn’t go.

11 months old isn’t a kid, it’s a baby and babies need to eat with parents.

Ridiculous. Is she normally thick? Or was it just 'he's a kid so can go on the kids table' without really thinking?

Either she’s very stupid (always a possibility, with people) or she doesn’t really want kids there but doesn’t want to say so, and hopes you’ll decline.

Go for it! Let her endure the pudding throwing, screaming chaos that will ensue!

I’d just reply “sounds great to eat a meal in peace. Have you hired a nanny to look after the kids then?”

The bride sounds incredibly stupid. I wouldn’t be leaving an 11 month old at a kids table.

No kids here, can’t stand them so spend as little time as possible with them and even I know children that age can’t be left to eat alone. I don’t think the problem on the bride’s part is a lack of experience with children: it’s terminal stupidity.

This. Doesn't sound like any of the children are old enough to be sat away from their parents, this is bonkers.

What a prat

She clearly has no idea. Just go along, sit your baby on your lap and watch the chaos of a table full of 3 year old unfold and then when they have to inevitably rearrange the seating plan just drag a high chair over to you.

She’s being ridiculous. Young children need to be supervised. All preschoolers should really be sitting with their parents.

Sometimes a couple hire childcare for weddings, are you sure they're not doing that and planning to have an adult or two sat at the table entertaining/ helping them?

Either way, it's very unreasonable to deny your request to have your child sit with you (whatever age the child is). I wouldn't go if they insisted on it.

Noooo she can’t be serious!? My little boy is nearly 2 and couldn’t sit on a table with just other kids and no adults.. I mean it would be delightful to enjoy a meal without having to watch him / entertain him / be robbed of my own food instead of eat his own but just noooo.. 11 months is just way too young and as if you’d be able to just sit at another table worry free. She is ridiculous and I can’t wait for her to have children and realise.. because we all do it (although even I would’ve known how ridiculous this was pre kids!)

I honestly think there’s no help for some people. That is just plain stupid.

Not a chance. Kids need to sit with their parents, I’d say minimum 7 for a kids table and even then would depend on the temperament of the child and how well all the children know each other too (all cousins, fine, non related who just met that day, nope)
It’s a terrible idea and I’d be direct with the bride. Kids and parents will be up and down and it’ll be distracting, especially during a long wedding meal. Her best bet for well behaved kids is to sit them with their parents.

I don't think her seating plan is going to work out the way she imagines 😂

I have an 11month old and there is no way she could sit at a table without me. She can feed herself some foods but she would throw them and scream loudly. She also wouldn’t like to see me the other side of the room and not be close. I think the bride has misjudged what an 11 month old will be like.

i know you’ve contacted her and she wants adults to enjoy the meal but no parent will sit back happily whilst their children are at another table as they will be worried about what they will get up too. Will there be any adults at this children’s table?

I know you’ve contacted the bride already. I would either contact her again and say that your baby cannot sit alone so you’ll need to decline the invite.