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Neighbours

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IHaveNoSpecialTalent · 25/03/2023 01:18

So we live in a block of flats. Our buzzer just rang as our neighbours had forgotten their keys so could I buzz them in. I replied with "for fucks sake"'and let them in, they woke me DH and DCs and apparently I'm in the wrong. I'll be up at 7am tomorrow (well today I guess)?to take one DC to sports so AIBU to knock on their door then to check that have their keys in case they need to get in while we're out?

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sodthesodoff · 09/09/2023 00:43

Webmeister999 · 09/09/2023 00:32

Grow up and dont sweat the small stuff.

I know that's what you should do

Good luck!

Webmeister999 · 09/09/2023 00:32

Grow up and dont sweat the small stuff.

sodthesodoff · 09/09/2023 00:25

Webmeister999 · 09/09/2023 00:22

I used to live in a tower block and people were always ringing to be buzzed in. By habit I turned my buzzer off if I was not expecting anyone. Quite often I forgot about it for days. I live in a house now with a ring type doorbell but the sound is turned off at present.

What's wrong with you?

You reply to a zombie thread from March. But you don't even give any advice just waffle on about your own experience.

You literally reopened an old thread to talk about yourself.

Webmeister999 · 09/09/2023 00:22

I used to live in a tower block and people were always ringing to be buzzed in. By habit I turned my buzzer off if I was not expecting anyone. Quite often I forgot about it for days. I live in a house now with a ring type doorbell but the sound is turned off at present.

Onemyownhere · 26/03/2023 09:16

IHaveNoSpecialTalent · 25/03/2023 19:28

To those asking how they got in to their flat, they have a key box outside the flat but not one for the front door.
I was irrationally angry as I'm peri menopausal and suffering from insomnia so being woken up is bloody torturous right now.
I'm off to try and turn the buzzer off with a kirby grip, have a glass of wine and chill out!
Have a great weekend folks

I thought the buzzer switch isn't working? Were u able to switch it off?

HappyHolidays22 · 25/03/2023 20:05

Enjoy your evening OP!

Northernsouloldies · 25/03/2023 19:33

Op you had every right to be pissed off, hopefully it's a one off n the silly fuckers sort out having a front door key. 😁

TheSnowyOwl · 25/03/2023 19:31

As a one off, it wouldn’t bother me.

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IHaveNoSpecialTalent · 25/03/2023 19:28

To those asking how they got in to their flat, they have a key box outside the flat but not one for the front door.
I was irrationally angry as I'm peri menopausal and suffering from insomnia so being woken up is bloody torturous right now.
I'm off to try and turn the buzzer off with a kirby grip, have a glass of wine and chill out!
Have a great weekend folks

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GoodChat · 25/03/2023 18:26

Ducksinthebath · 25/03/2023 18:16

You can let someone know you’re inconvenienced without swearing though.

Yep - if OP had said "do you realise what time it is?" They'd almost certainly have apologised.

outwiththeoldinwiththenewish · 25/03/2023 18:25

Total over reaction to helping a neighbour out. If it was the second or third time I'd get it, but swearing and then coming on a forum to slag them off..? God forbid you ever need help!

Ducksinthebath · 25/03/2023 18:16

You can let someone know you’re inconvenienced without swearing though.

drpet49 · 25/03/2023 17:27

Figmentof · 25/03/2023 08:00

I think there was no need to swear at them. It is hardly the end of the world, did you really want them to sit outside all night.

I think it was right that the neighbours knew they have inconvenienced someone.

Im99912 · 25/03/2023 17:03

Just switch the buzzer off at night when you go to bed

GoodChat · 25/03/2023 16:57

JudgeRudy · 25/03/2023 16:56

Who actually said you're in the wrong? The neighbours? Of course you're not. It's a reasonable reaction to some extremely antisocial behaviour......however saying that....if I was in a similar situation to your neighbours I'd be inclined to do the same. It was a disruption to your evening to help someone in an emergency. They should have hung their heads, thanked you profusely and scurried in quietly. I'd be expecting an 'apology visit' today....maybe a card/wine/cicolates too.

Presumably her H as it woke him up too

JudgeRudy · 25/03/2023 16:56

Who actually said you're in the wrong? The neighbours? Of course you're not. It's a reasonable reaction to some extremely antisocial behaviour......however saying that....if I was in a similar situation to your neighbours I'd be inclined to do the same. It was a disruption to your evening to help someone in an emergency. They should have hung their heads, thanked you profusely and scurried in quietly. I'd be expecting an 'apology visit' today....maybe a card/wine/cicolates too.

Mammyloveswine · 25/03/2023 16:45

Twinedpeaks · 25/03/2023 15:58

How did they get into their flat?

This?

Zooeyzo · 25/03/2023 16:29

Why are you in the wrong? Have they or DH said something? Must have been friends of your neighbours if they don't have keys

MaryHinges · 25/03/2023 16:26

Twinedpeaks · 25/03/2023 15:58

How did they get into their flat?

Good point. Thought they forgot their keys?

Toottooot · 25/03/2023 16:20

I'll put it down to a drunken one off but heaven help them if it happens again.

Ooh what you going to do next time?

Onemyownhere · 25/03/2023 16:01

IHaveNoSpecialTalent · 25/03/2023 15:31

Just back in. It took a lot of willpower but I didn't knock as we were leaving this morning.
They only moved in a couple of months ago so don't know them other than to say hello if we happen to bump into each other. No idea if they tried other flats.
The switch to turn the buzzer off broke a long time ago but is now a priority to get fixed!
I doubt they'll come round to apologise. I'll put it down to a drunken one off but heaven help them if it happens again.

In that case i would speak to them when i see them and explain at least they can have some understanding why u acted the way u did ( i would to tbh) the day they buzzed ur buzzer.

Twinedpeaks · 25/03/2023 15:58

How did they get into their flat?

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IHaveNoSpecialTalent · 25/03/2023 15:31

Just back in. It took a lot of willpower but I didn't knock as we were leaving this morning.
They only moved in a couple of months ago so don't know them other than to say hello if we happen to bump into each other. No idea if they tried other flats.
The switch to turn the buzzer off broke a long time ago but is now a priority to get fixed!
I doubt they'll come round to apologise. I'll put it down to a drunken one off but heaven help them if it happens again.

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Onemyownhere · 25/03/2023 08:29

IHaveNoSpecialTalent · 25/03/2023 04:37

I know you're right but I'm sleep deprived and dealing with a lot of stress right now so early morning karma is very appealing.

I can understand ur frustration like another poster suggested maybe u can switch off ur buzzer so u can't hear it before u and ur family go to bed to sleep.

callthataspade · 25/03/2023 08:02

Do you have a switch to turn your buzzer off? I used to live in a flat. We'd just turn it off at night. The light flashed but it didn't make a noise.

But yeah. Unless they bring some chocolates and flowers to apologise they're twats

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