Neighbour rang the police on us!

Yes op you need to go around to apologise to your poor neighbour. Maybe some flowers too. Hope you don't scare your neighbour like that again shouting so loud.

Of course people argue with their partner. Me and my husband argue aswell. But no screaming at all. Especially not in front of the kids.

i called the police on shouting neighbour
they didnt bang on the door,
they came round quietly

ten minutes is a long time to be shouting.
lack of sleep caused this?

Your 2 primary age school children slept through 10 minutes of a shouting match in the house and the police arriving with sirens on, shouting and banging on the door??

I wish my neighbours would take this on board. Nobody is in danger. I would call the police if it was at that stage.
Just sick of hearing them shout at each other.

Given how perfect the majority of people are on here it really surprises me how our society isn’t utterly faultless.

I think yours giving some of these posters too much credit, tbh. Do you think someone sneering about OP’s grammar or hot tub have her best interests at heart?! If they were so concerned, there wouldn’t be laughing emojis all over the place.

Sanctimonious much?

’Insist on working’?! Most of us don’t have a choice 🙄

OP didn’t ask for advice on her whole life set up. Talk about patronising. You may or may not be right, but I’m pretty sure new parents losing sleep and babies crying is entirely normal. Or are you going to tell us your babies never cried because you are just better at everything?

I grew up in a shouty household and I've needed lots of therapy. Once the police were called on my parents and this is my most vivid memory from my primary school years. It isn't nothing.

If you're tired you need to choose a colour and use it to explain "irrational, irritable and overwhelmed" - e.g "DH, I am code green right now. I'm going upstairs"

Are you in a Housing Association / shared ownership property? These use cheaper materials to build party walls.

Another OP who only really engages with those who respond with thexwords she wants to hear
The OP will never acknowledge that her and DSs behaviour was wrong: the neighbour will eternally be wrong, as will the responders here who do not agree with her

Who would live in a house with twitching windows?!

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 Thank you!

Leaving aside our many non-conflict zen relationship posters (who all seem to be veteran forum trolls...), and taking OP at face value, what no-one seems to have picked up on it that this neighbour isn't your normal concerned party who's agonised and fretted and finally called 999. She is the Police Calling Lady who sits and waits for an opportunity to summon some trouble for people who have displeased her. I used to live next to one of those and can confirm many police callouts for normal arguments, legally parked cars, kids playing nicely etc because I saw/heard it too and I'm not mad.
(Her greatest hit was getting my neighbours door knocked in for a welfare check. Reason for call: Cat crying indoors all weekend, no sign of neighbour, worried human is hurt. Reality: Neighbour away for weekend, cat keeps miaowing because he's deaf and he miaows all the time. After that one we all made sure to exchange numbers with neighbours and keep each other updated on whereabouts.)

@ExasperatedbyJanuary I think posters want others reading who may be in similar relationships to understand that it's not normal, it's not ok and you should maybe consider whether this is a healthy relationship that should continue.

Personally I'm never entirely sure whether any of the stories on here are true, but they will reflect someone's life and people don't have to accept that kind of treatment.

i would call the police on the basis you bought a hot tub
And she has rung the police, not rang

@ScentOfAMemory seriously??.

my neighbour is famous for it in our street. She even called the police on her 15 year old son who accidentally dropped his keyboard for criminal damage.

Not everyone who calls the police is a perfect person

You could go around OP.. I called the Police on my neighbours too for a loud screaming match. Like its all good if you two know why you're fighting.

I'm on the outside and if those neighbours end up harming each other then the whole"oh we should have intervened" theatrics would begin.

So yeah. Your neighbour should Call the cops as often as needed.

Keep in mind that might put you on social services radar though so you might want to look into the root of the problem (exhaustion) and what you can do about that

Another chipping in to say it's not normal to have 10 minute shouting arguments. 18 years here, of course we get cross with each other sometimes, but we don't shout and scream at each other. A brief raised voice of frustration is not going to bring the police to the door.

Poor child, I can't imagine how upsetting it must be to witness your parents fighting like that.

but you would be moaning yourxarse off if a woman was being assaulted at home and the police didn't come, orca neighbour didn't take any action

My thoughts exactly. Some deeply nasty posters on this thread. Real hardcore nastiness.

If you think OP is really struggling, why oh why would you come out with all this ‘we never argue’, ‘no one in my family has ever shouted’, along with sneering at the hot tub and asking if she sits in the front garden? Such shameless snobbery and nastiness- possibly a new low.

Sorry OP. Hope you’ve had some sleep.

@ScentOfAMemory you do realise that their are batshit crazy people out there that do call the police at a drop of a hat?

My DS has had some weird and wonderful call outs for nothing.

Other than listening to deal or no deal is difficult, because it's summer holidays and the children next door are playing in the garden!

If he can't cope with the baby why don't you take time off work and let him manage the business?

That way you get time away from each other and breathing space too.

How very unfortunate that such a perfect person is the victim of such a lot of complaints to the police.