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Neighbour rang the police on us!

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Lonelymum27 · 20/03/2023 22:31

Miss busy body next door has just called the police on us! 10 minute argument and I went off upstairs to bed with DS. We’re both absolutely knackered DS isn’t sleeping so this has taking a toll on us and this is what caused the argument.

she’s rang the police on a few people on the estate before over nothing really,nothing I’d get worked up about.

police have just came banging down our doors and windows blue lights shouting police !gave us the shock of our lives left within minutes as they seen we was fine.

We feel absolutely humiliated now! AIBU to go round in the morning or should I just leave it?

OP posts:
Annon1234 · 20/03/2023 23:20

I thought people that don’t argue with their partners were mythical creatures but apparently they all just congregate on here. Who knew.

PaterPower · 20/03/2023 23:19

If the neighbour has form for calling the police out then I’d bet she’s not doing it because she’s concerned for the OP.

I’m not sure I’d go around to have it out with her, but I’d certainly not be apologising / thanking her either.

Original poster
Lonelymum27 · 20/03/2023 23:18

@Lovelydaytomorrow I don’t believe that one bit sorry.

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TomatoSandwiches · 20/03/2023 23:18

Doesn't matter why she did it tbh, you were making a nuisance of yourselves, if she can hear it that badly imagine your poor baby having that noise in the same house.
You need to calmly talk to your DP in the morning, you can't keep shouting at each other it's not healthy.

AnneLovesGilbert · 20/03/2023 23:18

slimshadyfan · 20/03/2023 23:15

Give OP a break. She is a tired new Mum. We have all been there when we have raised our voices over the slightest thing due to sleep deprivation. Ignore your neighbour OP, you know her motives better than us. I wish you a restful nights sleep x

No. Absolute bollocks we’ve all done that. OP sounds like a nightmare neighbour and the woman forced to live near her and listen to it is well within her rights to report her disruptive/abusive/antisocial behaviour to the police.

And no child has ever slept better because they witnessed their parents screeching at each other loud enough to disturb people who aren’t even in the house.

Lovelydaytomorrow · 20/03/2023 23:17

slimshadyfan · 20/03/2023 23:15

Give OP a break. She is a tired new Mum. We have all been there when we have raised our voices over the slightest thing due to sleep deprivation. Ignore your neighbour OP, you know her motives better than us. I wish you a restful nights sleep x

No, I've never had a 10 minute shouting argument with my husband. Is this genuinely seen as normal to some people?

Jux · 20/03/2023 23:16

Your child should not be hearing you yelling at each other. Your neighbours shouldn't have to hear it either.

Stop whinging because someone cared about what might happen, especially when there's so much publicity about VAWG - she's quite rightly concerned that you and your child might be one of the next statistics(or even that you might kill your husband!). You ought to be thanking her for her concern, giving her a bunch of flowers or bottle of wine and apologising.

Keep your voices down.

Lovelydaytomorrow · 20/03/2023 23:16

We've had two kids in the last 4 years, very very little sleep, and we've never once screamed at each other.

I've also only once lived next door to neighbours who did scream at each other. (Have lived in lots of terraced houses over the years) It's really, really not normal behaviour to do so, no matter how tired. A couple of times I was very close to calling police, but one of the couple would leave, and I'd hear the other on the phone, so wasn't too worried. If a child had been involved, I'd have 100% called them.

ijustwannahaveagoodnight · 20/03/2023 23:15

Lonelymum27 · 20/03/2023 23:12

I appreciate you all think she done it out of the kindness of her heart but that isn’t the case.

I don’t think she did it out of the kindness of her heart. I imagine she did it cos she was fucking raging at your inconsiderate behaviour

slimshadyfan · 20/03/2023 23:15

Give OP a break. She is a tired new Mum. We have all been there when we have raised our voices over the slightest thing due to sleep deprivation. Ignore your neighbour OP, you know her motives better than us. I wish you a restful nights sleep x

Doyoumind · 20/03/2023 23:14

It's possible that there's something in her past that makes her worry about argument and violence. She isn't being a busy body. I rang the police on my neighbours once. I was scared of being called a busy body but I was more scared someone was going to get seriously hurt. I was terrified for them.

Original poster
Lonelymum27 · 20/03/2023 23:14

So no one here has argued in front of their child? I’ve barely slept in 2 bloody days!

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ladydimitrescu · 20/03/2023 23:13

You're right to be mortified - appalling behaviour in front of your child. Your neighbour isn't the issue.

Original poster
Lonelymum27 · 20/03/2023 23:12

I appreciate you all think she done it out of the kindness of her heart but that isn’t the case.

OP posts:
ZeldaWillTellYourFortune · 20/03/2023 23:11

GettingThereCharleyBear · 20/03/2023 23:07

Why are you shouting at each other like that in front of your son? 😢

Exactly. The poor kid.

You need to get control over yourselves. If you know people can hear you, keep your voices down. Let alone what you are doing to the child with all of that strife.

BMW6 · 20/03/2023 23:11

Lonelymum27 · 20/03/2023 23:00

We live in a new build so you can hear everything 😩

When we got a new car and was selling our old one she told us to move it even though it wasnt effecting her. We bought a lazy spa hot tub in the summer she was slamming doors all day.

Well as you are aware that the neighbours can hear everything BEHAVE YOURSELVES

As for the hot tub ..........🙄🙄

Yesthatismychildsigh · 20/03/2023 23:10

Noisy neighbours are a pain in the arse. Yes, go round tomorrow, prove (even more) that you’re a scruff. And you don’t even know that it was her. If this is real.

Alargeoneplease89 · 20/03/2023 23:10

How do you know she rang the police on other people?

Anyway I would personally go round and apologise for the noise disturbance and joke about the lack of sleep but thank you for the concern.

Why antagonise the neighbour especially when you believe she rings them on others?

midsomermurderess · 20/03/2023 23:09

She'll probably feel vindicated if you turn up at her door tomorrow shouting the odds.

sadieshavingashindig · 20/03/2023 23:08

You're not exactly painting yourselves as model neighbours tbqh

24KaratCucumber · 20/03/2023 23:08

How many women are dead right now because their neighbour didn't want to get involved when they heard screaming and yelling?

Instead of being annoyed, take it as a sign that things aren't right.

MistyMountainTop · 20/03/2023 23:08

You sound like the neighbours from hell

ArcticSkewer · 20/03/2023 23:08

There's no need to pretend you are on the cast of Shameless

GlassBunion · 20/03/2023 23:08

Just stop shouting.
Police don't generally immediately pop round for just shouting.

Maybe you were screeching murderous things.

GettingThereCharleyBear · 20/03/2023 23:07

Why are you shouting at each other like that in front of your son? 😢

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