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Lonelymum27 · 2023-03-20T22:31:36+00:00

Miss busy body next door has just called the police on us! 10 minute argument and I went off upstairs to bed with DS. We’re both absolutely knackered DS isn’t sleeping so this has taking a toll on us and this is what caused the argument. she’s rang the police on a few people on the estate before over nothing really,nothing I’d get worked up about. police have just came banging down our doors and windows blue lights shouting police !gave us the shock of our lives left within minutes as they seen we was fine. We feel absolutely humiliated now! AIBU to go round in the morning or should I just leave it?

user1492757084 · 20/03/2023 23:52

If your neighbour can hear you and is upset then your son can hear you. Take an anger management course. Practice living in a civilised respectful home and listening to each other. Consider what each other thinks and speak to each other more quietly.
Loud outbursts never improve any situation unless you are warning someone of an impending car about to run them over.. And shouting frightens kids.

monsteramunch · 20/03/2023 23:52

Lonelymum27 · 20/03/2023 23:18

@Lovelydaytomorrow I don’t believe that one bit sorry.

You don't believe people haven't ever had a ten minute shouting match in front of their child loud enough for a neighbour to hear? I think it's sad (and worrying) that you think that's normal tbh.

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Lonelymum27 · 20/03/2023 23:52

Kids were in bed baby DS was awake in his cot and we was on top of the stairs. Probably the worst place to be shouting at each other as the walls are thin but hey! It is what it is.

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Hellybelly84 · 20/03/2023 23:51

Everyone has had arguments in front of their kids (when completely knackered), but there’s a big difference between two tired parents having a minor argument and screaming at each other enough to concern the neighbours.

I’d knock on the door tomorrow and explain the situation with not sleeping etc and apologise.

monsteramunch · 20/03/2023 23:51

Lonelymum27 · 20/03/2023 23:14

So no one here has argued in front of their child? I’ve barely slept in 2 bloody days!

Loud enough in front of a young child for someone to hear and call the police? I don't think most people have done that, no.

monsteramunch · 20/03/2023 23:50

If she could hear you shouting then your poor little boy must have been really frightened considering how loud it must have been in your home where he was bless him.

MrNook · 20/03/2023 23:49

Lonelymum27 · 20/03/2023 23:40

I don’t think we need counselling for being exhausted. We’ve never been this tired in our life! We have 2 DCS at school we run an online business together baring in mind baby DS is with us whilst we go to the office too. We don’t get a break and unfortunately tonight we’ve had ago at each other.

Do you were actually shouting like that in-front of 3 children?! Even better!

Eranzer · 20/03/2023 23:49

mrsfollowill · 20/03/2023 23:41

Can't believe you were shouting at each other loud enough for the neighbour to hear! and for 10 mins. Don't you know how to have a 🐍snake hissing argument late on? Seriously your poor DS doesn't need to hear it or your neighbours- reign it in and your no-one will call the police on you. We all get stressed but you don't need to involve everyone.

Agreed. Learn the hiss!

MountainChalet · 20/03/2023 23:49

I would have done the same as your neighbour. A girl near where we live was stabbed to death recently by her partner. Apparently someone heard a scream but no police was called. Your neighbour did the right thing.

MrNook · 20/03/2023 23:46

If I heard a woman with a young child being shouted at I'd probably ring the police as well, especially if it went on for 10 minutes and your son was there. she might've thought you were being abused, she did the right thing,

slimshadyfan · 20/03/2023 23:44

OP, i hope you are ok and that your baby is asleep now. My advice is to step away from this thread. If only we could all be as perfect as the previous posters? Wake up tomorrow after (hopefully) a good nights sleep and feel better.
Talk with you DH in the morning and promise each other that you won't give your neighbour a chance to meddle again.
There is a lot of snobbery on this thread and it is upsetting.
I only joined Mumsnet recently as I had a question to ask about my dog. I had so many wonderful and helpful responses.
Maybe stay away from AIBU in the future? It doesn't seem very nice to me, hope you are ok x

HerrenaHarridan · 20/03/2023 23:42

I will remain eternally grateful to the neighbours who called the police when they knew what they were hearing was not ok.

There is not doubt in my mind we owe them both our lives

mrsfollowill · 20/03/2023 23:41

Can't believe you were shouting at each other loud enough for the neighbour to hear! and for 10 mins. Don't you know how to have a 🐍snake hissing argument late on? Seriously your poor DS doesn't need to hear it or your neighbours- reign it in and your no-one will call the police on you. We all get stressed but you don't need to involve everyone.

PinkButtercups · 20/03/2023 23:41

Quite not white.

PinkButtercups · 20/03/2023 23:40

For them to come with their blues on they must've been pretty concerned.

Shouting is not okay and I'm sure you're aware of this now.

Everyone can have disagreements but shouting is crossing the line.
Especially in front of kids.

Hopefully you've learnt a lesson now but it's done. No point going round there she could see that as white intimidating.

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Lonelymum27 · 20/03/2023 23:40

I don’t think we need counselling for being exhausted. We’ve never been this tired in our life! We have 2 DCS at school we run an online business together baring in mind baby DS is with us whilst we go to the office too. We don’t get a break and unfortunately tonight we’ve had ago at each other.

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MaggieThatchersFridge · 20/03/2023 23:38

I don’t think your neighbour is the problem here tbh. Maybe consider some relationship/communication counselling together instead?

Train007 · 20/03/2023 23:36

I have had a family for thirty years and have never heard any shouting…not even the teenagers! Shouting is not ok .

Embelline · 20/03/2023 23:35

Tbh you sound like the nightmare neighbour here!

smooththecat · 20/03/2023 23:35

<We bought a hot tub> You’ve basically told all of your neighbours to go fuck themselves.

JudgeJ · 20/03/2023 23:35

Annon1234 · 20/03/2023 23:20

I thought people that don’t argue with their partners were mythical creatures but apparently they all just congregate on here. Who knew.

Who knew? Who believes them more like!

Greenfairydust · 20/03/2023 23:35

Your neighbour has no idea of why you are shouting so loud.

You could be a victim of domestic violence for all she knows...and if you have a kid it is another reason for her to be concerned about what could be happening in your house.

What would you ''go around'' for? unless you are planning to apologise...

''When we got a new car and was selling our old one she told us to move it even though it wasnt effecting her. We bought a lazy spa hot tub in the summer she was slamming doors all day.''

Frankly, you sound like a nuisance/thoughtless neighbour.

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Lonelymum27 · 20/03/2023 23:35

gettingolderbutcooler · 20/03/2023 23:26

How on earth do you know who called the police?

We are only connected to her we have an alley in between the other house.I went out the front with the police too and the windows were twitching.

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Soakitup37 · 20/03/2023 23:34

my 8 yo has never seen me have a screaming match with anyone. I have never shouted at or in the proximity of my 8 or 8mo.

come to think of it I’ve never had had one with anyone. to have an argument /disagreement with someone does not equate so loud the police get called.

that you can’t believe that could be true says a lot. Maybe start there.

the neighbour is the least of your problems here.

TheShellBeach · 20/03/2023 23:30

Allthegoodnamesarechosen · 20/03/2023 23:22

Were they the grammar police?

Behave.