Does anyone else hate Mother’s Day?

My mum died two years ago and looking back through my FB memories I'm now really glad that I posted 'twaddle' about her every year on mothers' day.

She had a horrendous start in life and had dragged herself up from nothing. I often told her how much I loved her but on special days like today and birthdays, I deliberately posted because I was so proud of her.

I think she liked those posts too because it reminded her that though she'd started out with nothing and spent much of her young adult years alone, in later life she had a husband and kids and grandkids and friends who thought she was fabulous.

'Twaddle' to some. Lovely memories for others.

YANBU, I completely agree. I am so grateful my mum is alive and well, and she is a fantastic, lovely mum. But I detest Mother's Day for the constant gloating posts on social media and how shit it makes people feel. It's so unnecessary.

Then you have the posts on here where mums feel like shit because their kids or other halves didn't bother making an effort for them.

Probably going to get some stick here but the worst ones are "happy heavenly Mother's Day" or "happy Mother's Day to my mum in heaven" year after year.
Same on birthdays and day of death. It's constant and pointless "happy 87th birthday to my mum in heaven" except she died when she was 53.

Well I feel like crying. No acknowledgment of Mother’s Day at all from my 21yo, hasn’t said happy Mother’s Day to me, hasn’t got me a card. My mother is dead. All in all a really shit day and to be honest I’m fucking done with Dd.

I don't like it. I call it Motherfuckers Day ( in my head). My own mum died when she was 44. I was widowed when my kids were 4 and 9 so have organised my own Mothers day and birthday and christmas for years.
My teenage DSs both made me a nice card. We went out for lunch mid week. But today is like any other Sunday- supermarket shop, preparing and washing up meals, badgering about homework. No one is in a good mood- and because I decided to see what would happen if I didn't make all the effort with conversation, lunch time was largely silent.

I don't hate Mother's Day but I do hate the messages for mothers who have died on fb? I really can't understand it? Who is it actually for?

Yes it's crap, my mum is a rubbish mum, DP lost his mum years ago, DS is autistic so doesn't see the point and DSD is a teen so doesn't care either. Makes a lot of people feel sad or disappointed.

Isn’t there a study that shows the happiness of a relationship is inversely proportional to how often it appears on social media?

I think it can be nice to show a public appreciation of someone but should not be an expectation. I’ve written happy Mother’s Day to my mum on instagram because I think it’s nice to show her a bit of extra appreciation today but she’d never expect it! At the same time, my husband hasn’t put anything about me on social media but we’ve had a wonderful day out together with my son. If he had I’d be like aw that’s sweet but the fact he hasn’t doesn’t matter one bit to me!

Not sure i believe anything I see on SM, especially not public showing off.
In that respect I can't get on board with hating a day because other people claim they do it better

I think rituals are good and you make your own rituals to suit Mother's Day. It doesn't have to involve lots of money but these events can have a positive impact on us, and especially on children.
Sadly, many people feel the lack of ritual that they desire and this has a negative impact instead.

My mum passed away years ago, I feel indifferent about Mother's Day this year. I actually like seeing some of my friends publicly announce their love for their mums, though some posts I'm sure are just for show. They did make jealous in the past, but not really anymore. More thoughtful about what sort of relationship I could have had with my mother.

Hate is a very strong word. Maybe come off social media for a bit if it makes you feel jealous and crap.

Also dislike Mother's Day. My mum died 30 years ago, when I was 18. It would have been her 72nd birthday today as well.

Both my children are adults and have "remembered", this year - I told my husband several weeks ago that I would be upset if they forgot - he has worked hard on reminding them.

I'm glad to see some of the social media posts are more sensitive. Part of me says, it's just another day, part of me feels envious of those people that have had their mothers in their lives for all of their lives.

My mother didn’t believe in it, she said the new version of mother’s day with cards etc. came over with the American Troops during WW2 and so we have never celebrated it. I feel much the same about Halloween - Guy Fawkes has a much more anarchic feel to it :) and not nearly such a commercial rip-off.

I hate it. I also hate valentine's Day. I hate any day where I'm told what to think or do. It's the anarchist in me.

I dont celebrate it, if I could get away with it, I wouldnt celebrate Christmas or Easter either.

But I am a massive grinch about spending money that society thinks I should

It is all nonsense and OTT. The husbands are probably forced to by demanding partners and know they have to do this or get a moody partner.

I think public declarations of love are sweet and I do get jealous sometimes as none are ever for me. I like seeing them, each to their own I guess.

I don't hate Mothers Day but I hate all the moaning on here about it.

I cringe at the whole social media fest but that's just the day and age we live in. I just scroll past and roll my eyes.

If it's making you hate Mother's Day, or anything for that matter, it's probably time you came off SM.

I hate the social media bollocks too. I’m not jealous, my husband (and kids) are fab and really make me feel special and looked after. It’s just all so performative. And dull. If you think your wife is the best mum in the world, tell her!

I find it hard, I lost my mum over 20 years ago, now a mum myself to two teen dc. It's generally a mixture of me feeling sad wishing I could see my own mum, entertaining my mil, and in more recent years my dc almost being coerced into showing their love for me with cards and gifts! I think maybe I wish the day just to be very very low key. Maybe I'll do exactly what I want to do next year!

Of course other people hate mothers and fathers day. Don't look like it's going away anytime ever though.

I, too, hate Mothers Day, also have my Mum still alive and a good relationship, but the endless gushings on Facebook irritate me so much I stay off it today.

Used to annoy me when I had a bigger presence on SM and the kids were young. The notion from well wishers that I'd actually get a break never happened due to DHs job, my job and young children. There was also extreme competition in so many ways (who would start a competition over depth of snow for e.g.), I deleted my account rather than unfriend 90% of people. I seem to have mellowed now the DC are older and I have under 40 friends on Facebook - I barely check it these days.