Does anyone else hate Mother’s Day?

When I was young, my Mum used to say that it was 'mothering sunday' which meant it was a day for her to treat me! Her Mum passed away when I was about 4, so she kind of made it a different kind of thing. My Dad did nowt as far as I know. His Mum died when he was about 16.

Maybe my family is weird though, as my dad would buy valentines chocolates for me, but nothing for my mum! She never minded and found it cute.

Now I do get her flowers and a card, but going to lunch on the day can be hectic and busy. So many blokes taking their wives/ Mums out, and you just know they probably never ever take them out any other day of the flipping year!

yes I hate it .When kids were small I loved their cards but that's as far as it goes, also hate fathers day ,the expectation to do something just because others are🙄

Thankfully I don’t do facefuck, it’s vomit inducing on so many levels. My niece is one of them apparently, her whole bloody life is on there. Honestly I don’t know how people find the time, she has two kids and they both work full time.

it’s like keeping up with the Kardashian’s. My ex hairdresser used to put so much shit on it and professed to suffer with social anxiety, PLEASE! don’t insult my intelligence. And what’s with businesses only being contactable via facefuck 🤷‍♀️

its lovely to Google my name and nothing comes up, so reassuring, bliss!

Meh. Take no notice of SM. I always find the people who post the most about how marvellous everything is... are actually the ones having the shittiest time...

I despise the 'what did you get' rubbish. I like it when people discuss having a relaxed time with family, but the competition over whose children love them the most by who gets the most presents is ridiculous.

I got nothing today, no cards etc, and I don't care. I have a loving child and DH, I don't need materialistic possessions to prove love.

I absolutely loathe Mother’s Day. Mainly because I have a mother who was very emotionally abusive to me but yet every Mother’s Day expected the royal treatment and for me to make a huge effort despite her being an appalling mother, so the day has very negative connotations. Like others, I also hate the mass social media posts and how everyone is in competition with each other on it and I also agree that the public displays of love and gratitude are nauseating. Maybe I’m a cynic but I chose to have my daughter and it’s my job to love and care for her and as much as I want her to be grateful and appreciative of her good life, I don’t feel I deserve a reward for simply doing what I should be doing as her mum. Rant over!

The endless social media posts are so tiresome...even the ones that mention those who have lost their mums. I know mine is dead thanks...no need to be reminded

I appreciate you don't get it but everyone's grief journey is different. Some find comfort in the strangest of things.

In our case, because of lots of different complicated reasons we don't have a grave.

@takeawayandwine so why not go to the grave or a place they loved or reminds you of them? Even keep a journal. I don't know I just don't get it

I hate the social media side of today to. It looks so competitive. My own mother gets upset that I don't post a gushing tribute to her but I can't get my head around her need for me to shout to the world about her. I rarely post online as it is and I'm certainly not starting that drivel

@amiold I don't think it's attention seeking. For me it's like a gravestone...you use your (limited) words to say how you feel. Facebook can be like a gravestone.

Thanks @VioletLemon for your good wishes. Cheered me right up! I think it's good to not have high expectations- and good to not be a martyr and to organise your own fun! I threw a few nice beauty things into my shop - and I'd ordered myself 9 (nine!!!) Betty's fondant fancies which were delivered today . I've got some trash TV for this evening ( saved 2 episodes of Married At First Sight Australia).
I usually manage lunch time conversation on my own- anupbeat soliloquy with a few grunts from the teens.... but, just for today, I was hoping one of them might make an effort to bring some cheer....
Thanks for your reply.

I hate mothers day. I lost my mum 15 years ago and this day is a right smack in the face.

I absolutely loathe it. We don’t celebrate it in this house. My kids are absolutely fine with it.

i prefer the “love you” text or impromptu bottle of wine which they do and its much more personal.

this day is ever so painful and when i woke up this morning, i cried as i miss my mum.

My sister and I had a toxic narcissist for a mother who was horrible to both of us.
I hate all this mush about wonderful mum being your best friend and how you only get one mum who's such a special person etc etc

It makes me wonder what it must be like to have a normal mum 😢

@takeawayandwine yeah maybe but you don't need to look for attention to grieve. There are lots of other ways. I'm not talking about odd posts I'm talking about the constant

Yes, I’ve never celebrated the day, my kids know this. My birthday on the other hand….
Mira so crazy seeing all those purple buying flowers today in the shops, what a made up joke this day is

I love mothers day, but then I don't post about it on sm, or read others sm

Sending good wishes, love your description of your silent lunch. I hope you get a nice slot of time doing whatever the feck you want. I've seen none of my kids today, all away. Saw one yesterday but happily fannied about in bed all day while DH at work, honestly it's been brilliant. I'm not engaging with the hype and performative stuff again. I'm happy to be free of pressure. I think I'll be brave and roll this approach out for all ocassions.

Honestly, the only husbands I’ve seen do the gushy posts are the ones who are pretty crap husbands in real life 🤷‍♀️

I like the day but that’s because it’s about my family unit - I get a lie in and a load of homemade crafts tat and then it’s a normal day. I know I’m loved and appreciated because DH and kids tell me / show me at various points over the year, not just on the day.

I would stay off SM if you can, but I’d also take it with a grain of salt how genuinely wonderful the lives are of those people that feel they have to tell everyone how genuinely wonderful their lives are!

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I hate Mother's day. I lost my mama 23 years ago, My Children live abroad. Moonpig is kept in business for them. Of course, I am so grateful. My Step Children's bio Mother is dying and it could be today. Such a shit day.

Agree its just so boring. I have taken my mother a gift. Had one from my own dc.
But scrolling facebook is so boring. I think I would find it more interesting in seeing what they were having for tea/dinner.

SM effusive postings by DH/DP's is a big 🚩 for me.
Love a simple gesture from my children and that's it.

It can be part of grieving. It can be a way of publicly acknowledging 'this person existed. I miss them. I want them back'.

My mum passed at the age of 44 when I was 10 so I don’t celebrate Mother’s Day. Just another quiet day for me with family but I normally spend my Sundays with family anyway.