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Changing room etiquette

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mfbx5sf3 · 04/03/2023 09:29

I take my son to a swimming lesson on a Saturday morning. There are three large communal bays in the ladies and a clear sign that says children and boys can use only use bay 3 and the other two bays are adult only. Recently when we are getting changed after swimming a lady (late 60s/ early 70s) has started coming into the bay full of children, stripping off and standing in front of the large mirrors where the hairdryers are and blow dries her body head to toe. Literally dries her hair, lifts up her breasts to get underneath, dries her pubes and bends over to do down her legs. This means if you have small children and would like to dry their hair you need to position them next to the lady so they get quite the eye full. AIBU to think this isn’t really appropriate? There’s tons of room in the adult only bays (practically empty) and the third bay is always packed with all the children who have been in lessons. The mens room has a sign in their third bay asking only adults with children to use that bay during lessons. WIBU to ask for he same consideration in the ladies?

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35965a · 04/03/2023 11:22

Definitely speak to reception about it. It sounds like you are exaggerating but I have seen this behaviour in changing rooms on one or two occasions and the people doing it actually seem to enjoy making others uncomfortable and it is not OK.

WaltzingWaters · 04/03/2023 11:22

YANBU. I’m certainly no prude but that’s just not necessary, especially when there are bays without kids in available, seems odd she’d use that one. Talk to staff about it and ask for the same sign up as the men have.

Justtryandstaycalm75 · 04/03/2023 11:16

I'm amazed how anyone (of any age) would do this.
It's obviously highly inappropriate in front of children.

I'm wondering if she may be confused as I don't think anyone would do this in normal circumstances.

I think someone needs to have a quiet word with her.

AppleKatie · 04/03/2023 11:11

Yanbu

Id have called you a liar/exaggerating until last week when I was on a communal changing room and a similarly aged lady walked stark naked from the changing bit round a corner past the showers to a corridor with a long mirror (on way to poolside) and stood body lotioning herself from head to toe. It was startlingly exhibitionistic.

I was baffled rather than offended but then I wasn’t trying to get kids changed and could walk past quickly.

Original poster
mfbx5sf3 · 04/03/2023 11:10

Yep driers in all bays. I think the appeal of bay 3 is that it’s closest to the showers.

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cocksstrideintheevening · 04/03/2023 11:07

Do they have dryers in the other bays? Sounds very bizarre behaviour.

Highlandflingbling · 04/03/2023 10:48

That’s not on. I’m no prude either, but what is this lady thinking?

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mfbx5sf3 · 04/03/2023 10:12

Glad it’s not just me being a prude!

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TellSomeoneElse · 04/03/2023 10:01

For goodness sake, I’m normally pretty ‘live and let live’ but that’s just weird and, yes, inappropriate. The same signs as in the mens would make sense really.

Sweetmotherofallthatisholyabov · 04/03/2023 09:58

I'd ask. My place has a sign that says hair dryers are only for hair on your head. And I never really understood it. Until now.

Kitkatcatflap · 04/03/2023 09:58

Request the same sign as men and tell reception about her drying behaviour.

Nimbostratus100 · 04/03/2023 09:56

ask for the same sign to be put up in the ladies

Blackalice · 04/03/2023 09:55

That sounds grim! I would definitely request the same sign as the men have.

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