Aggressive school mum

Would you be up for inviting her and her son over after school one day or maybe meeting at a park? Just thinking that if you can both see them playing then firstly it will put both your minds at rest and secondly, you can help them sort their differences out together.

I think you need to completely refuse to discuss it privately with her and insist on going through the school. I mean sometimes you can resolve things but it sounds like it's beyond this now.

Just have it out by the school gates in front of everyone

A simple, "neither of them should be pushing/hitting, I've told ds this and I've asked the school to keep an eye on them, feel free to do that same", should be enough. Then just keep repeating to her to take it up with the school as you can't do anything else because you are not there when it happens.

Do you know who actually started it? Was it your son? If so would it hurt to admit that and say you have spoken to him about it

You really don’t want to have tension ongoing for the next five years if you can avoid it

It makes the school run very uncomfortable

You’ve both had your say, especially her by the sounds of it. So block her number now and if approached on playground tell her to speak to the teacher. Do you know another mum who can be there to support you? I hate this kind of thing. I would definitely alert the teacher/head teacher as well that she’s making you feel really uncomfortable.

I think a simple message of

'im not willing to discuss this anymore and the number of messages you are sending on something I don't consider worth getting upset over isn't achieving anything. I'm now going to block/mute this conversation and consider this done and dusted'

Should suffice.

She's ultimately just a bit sad, clearly likes to find offence in anything and can't deal with things in an adult manner. Stuff her.

I hate parents like this. I had it myself when mine were in primary school. Kids fall out 🤷🏻‍♀️

I often see parents threatening other parents in Facebook statuses. So aggressive

You need to inform the school. And completely stop engaging with this mum. Block her from your phone.

I had similar with a school mum (complicated by my working there as well) and I ended up politely telling her that I found our interactions stressful and unnecessary so I was blocking her on all channels. I then told school so they were aware. She was furious, and has tried various things to get at me since but life is far more peaceful!

Approach the school, the teacher in question and tell them what is happening. My 4 year old had a problem with another kid she always played with, but this kid would push her, and once did so she caught her back on the edge of a glass door. I approached the teacher and explained, I did not want my daughter to be no one´s punching ball and would say to push back. they were separated to different tables with a couple other kids changed too and it has worked. No further problems. I did tell her, maybe that friendship was ending and she was starting new ones.

Just ignore her or tell her if she has an issue to take it up with the school and then don't engage with her any further

Call the school, explain the problem and ask if a member of staff can be around incase of an unwanted altercation.