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Been caught speeding

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speedy49 · 31/01/2023 01:00

Help sorry I know this isn't AIBU but traffic

Tonight literally 15 mins ago so 00:40 ish I was driving home about a 10 minute journey on a road with a 60mph limit.
I was doing about 80. Yes I know I was in the wrong please dont bash me.
Then I got to my turning, turned in, and realise there was a police car behind me pretty much the whole time.
Now I'm freaking out because I know I was speeding and I know they were behind me. But they could have pulled me over and didn't, didn't even flash me?
I don't have any points, never paid any fine, never taken a speed awareness course.
Has anyone ever had a similar experience, if so did it end in a ticket or not?
Very worried, please be kind I know I was in the wrong

OP posts:
Otterock · 31/01/2023 09:19

I got caught going 7pm over (by a camera) and had to do a course. I’m surprised they didn’t pull you over going 20 over the limit but you may get a letter

NerdyBird1 · 31/01/2023 09:19

No I won’t accept criticism from an unhinged uptight loon, and you’re opinion doesn’t mean shit to me. It happened, I’m over it, I was over it after about 4 seconds and I learnt my lesson.

You make yourself sound like dick. I've gone a few miles over but never 90 in a 60. That is stupid and you've not learned anything👍

So embarrassing at your age, you could probs be my mother if you were driving 20 years ago.

Scottishgirl85 · 31/01/2023 09:19

You deserve the highest penalty and fine. A relative was killed by a speeding driver, you are the lowest of the low. Why were you in such a hurry to go 20mph over the limit? I hope it was more important than someone's life.

otherwayup · 31/01/2023 09:18

@TheObstinateHeadstrongGirl

It's up to you if you have a little cry about it. I couldn't give a shiny shit.

And bore off is such a tiresome response for someone with such an impressive but clearly misleading username!!

Icedlatteplease · 31/01/2023 09:18

PattyBladell · 31/01/2023 08:58

@Icedlatteplease I never said his speed was the only cause. But if he hadn't been doing that speed then he wouldn't have been there at that exact moment in time.

By the same logic If you have been going faster ( especially faster than the speed limit) you wouldn't have been there at that exact moment in time either.

If neither of you ever drove a car neither of you would have been there either.

It's easy to blame speed, but speed really wasn't the reason for the accident. I am very sorry for what you have been through. Cars have not been good for humans yet we all still drive them

TheObstinateHeadstrongGirl · 31/01/2023 09:17

tommika · 31/01/2023 09:15

People on here always spout this nonsense as if it’s impossible to drive within the speed limit

This is one of my favourites. Everyone who states that it is impossible to maintain speed is admitting to being incapable of maintaining control of a vehicle

Who used the word impossible?

I don’t think anyone is justifying their speeding, but you can’t turn back time, it happens, and almost all speeding incidents result in no one being hurt, so hand wringing over something you can’t change is futile

tommika · 31/01/2023 09:15

Kanaloa · 31/01/2023 01:29

People on here always spout this nonsense as if it’s impossible to drive within the speed limit. You knew it was wrong to drive 80mph, you chose to do it anyway, you now care because you may have been caught. For what it’s worth, I do not drive 20 miles over the speed limit. I drive within the speed limit. It simply isn’t in my mind to ever think of just ignoring it and then panicking that I might get caught. We did have a close family member badly injured (left permanently damaged) by a speeding driver so perhaps that’s why I don’t feel people should ‘be kind’ to me if I choose to speed.

People on here always spout this nonsense as if it’s impossible to drive within the speed limit

This is one of my favourites. Everyone who states that it is impossible to maintain speed is admitting to being incapable of maintaining control of a vehicle

TheObstinateHeadstrongGirl · 31/01/2023 09:14

YourGazeHitsTheSideOfMyFace · 31/01/2023 09:12

Round here at night you might encounter plenty of things other than moving cars on the main road (60) at night:

a cyclist

someone walking a dog

a broken down car with no working electrics, so no lights

a deer running across the road

a fallen tree

(these are all things which drivers have collided with on main roads in my area in the past year or so)

Driving at 80 is ‘off the scale insane’ on a single carriageway road in the dark with no street lighting. Just because you’ve not hit anything so far, doesn’t mean it doesn’t happen. Risk assessment says that you avoid even an unlikely to happen risk if the consequences would be catastrophic.

It really isn’t off the scale.

If cyclists aren’t in high vis and dog walkers step out into the road then it’s their own stupid fault I’d they get hit, no matter what the speed.

coffeeginandkindness · 31/01/2023 09:13

Hello speedy
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Hopefully you won't get a ticket
I don't know about the ins and outs of the legal part

What I would say is take this as a warning:wake up call.

I was you. Driving home late at night, after a loooong ray just focusing on getting home in a semi familiar route
In what I thought was a 60 zone tootling through.

I Saw a flash in the mirror, realisied I was in the outskirts of a village and had hit the 30 without noting the sign,
I was going 54!! 😱
Utterly panicked that I was going to lose my license

I got away with it but I have been completely faithful to all limits since

Hope you are okay and not upset by other posters here today.

TheObstinateHeadstrongGirl · 31/01/2023 09:13

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lunar1 · 31/01/2023 09:13

Honestly they should take the license away when people speed to that extent, never mind 'please be kind' for fucks sake.

Hopefully you will have to do a course and see the reality for patients like mine who's lives are forever destroyed by feckless idiots.

YourGazeHitsTheSideOfMyFace · 31/01/2023 09:12

TheObstinateHeadstrongGirl · 31/01/2023 08:15

Neither do 8. A clear, empty road at a speed that isn’t off the scales insane - how can you crash into cars that aren’t there?

Round here at night you might encounter plenty of things other than moving cars on the main road (60) at night:

a cyclist

someone walking a dog

a broken down car with no working electrics, so no lights

a deer running across the road

a fallen tree

(these are all things which drivers have collided with on main roads in my area in the past year or so)

Driving at 80 is ‘off the scale insane’ on a single carriageway road in the dark with no street lighting. Just because you’ve not hit anything so far, doesn’t mean it doesn’t happen. Risk assessment says that you avoid even an unlikely to happen risk if the consequences would be catastrophic.

DRS1970 · 31/01/2023 09:09

So what you are saying is that you are happy to break the law, and put peoples lives in danger, and only worry about it if you think you have been caught... What a messed up attitude!

Icedlatteplease · 31/01/2023 09:09

NerdyBird1 · 31/01/2023 08:46

This is really something else. Even 90 on a motorway is too much. Really bad

Why? For example Germany has no mandatory speed limits, even their recommended speed limit is 10 mph higher than our mandatory.

Truth is the 30mph in a built up area is way more dangerous than 90mph on an empty motorway.

But it depends how you define bad

Hellsmovie · 31/01/2023 09:06

speedy49 · 31/01/2023 01:50

With respect, this thread isn't about how bad of a crime (legally or morally) speeding is. It was about whether others have had a similar experience and what the outcome was.

Thanks to those who have actually replied with something helpful 🙏🏼

Your wasting your time. MN users are perfect In every way, they never speed.(not me, I speed every time I'm in a car)

You weren't pulled over I'd imaging you will be fine . But I'd keep an eye in the mail for the next 2wks .

NerdyBird1 · 31/01/2023 09:05

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Pathetic childish attitude. Accept criticism if it was '20 years ago' and stop being so stroppy and defensive.

90 in a 60 is selfish. Not killing someone's is the bare minimum you can do. Round of applause for you

TheObstinateHeadstrongGirl · 31/01/2023 09:04

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TheObstinateHeadstrongGirl · 31/01/2023 09:03

otherwayup · 31/01/2023 06:56

How hideous.
And the fact you use a ridiculous emoji says it all.

Oh do bore off - should I got and self flaggelate and cry about it? It was 20 years ago, no one was hurt, get over it (I have)

WrendaleCountryDogs · 31/01/2023 09:01

Hopefully you have been caught and will get a hefty fine 😡

TinyTornado · 31/01/2023 09:00

Oh dear OP - you were always going to get your head bitten off here for this one. Maybe a post on piston heads would give you better results:)
But for what it’s worth, I think you’ll be ok, they have to follow you for a certain distance, because they are moving too, so it’s difficult to get an accurate read. They would also have to have a calibrated speedometer to prove this.
I’m pretty sure that if they were going to give you a ticket, they would have done.

Useit · 31/01/2023 09:00

Limit for speed awareness at 60 is 75, OP may have been only doing that though as speedos can measure a lot over at higher speeds, DH's does in his car about 5mph

PattyBladell · 31/01/2023 08:58

@Icedlatteplease I never said his speed was the only cause. But if he hadn't been doing that speed then he wouldn't have been there at that exact moment in time.

NerdyBird1 · 31/01/2023 08:57

BenCoopersSupportWren · 31/01/2023 08:45

OP was speeding. Not doing 24 in a 20mph but 80 in a 60 - in the dark. God help anyone who got in her way - they wouldn't have had a chance.

To be scrupulously fair they wouldn’t have stood much of a chance at 60 either.

It could've been the rear end of a car rather than a pedestrian. It would make a difference.

Icedlatteplease · 31/01/2023 08:56

PattyBladell · 31/01/2023 08:35

@3kidswouldfinishanyoneoff of course he wouldn't have hit me because he wouldn't have been going through the junction at the same time as me, he would have been a few seconds later meaning I would have made it through safely. And yes, He had a dashcam which showed his speed. Anything else you would like to pick apart?

I hate to pull apart what you went though but I'm guessing the actual cause of the accident wasn't the speed. It was the fact someone made a mistake at the junction.

clairelouwho · 31/01/2023 08:56

It is easy to speed. However, there’s a difference between being one or two miles over and twenty miles over the limit.

be grateful you didn’t cause an accident and hurt or kill someone. If you get a fine and points you earned it and deserve it.

maybe have more consideration and thought for other road users and less on “oh my god will I get punished for doing this dangerous thing that I already knew was dangerous and wrong and illegal but did it anyway because hey ho my time is more valuable than someone else’s life!”

you don’t care about the potential dangers you put upon other people. You only care about not getting caught.