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Been caught speeding

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speedy49 · 31/01/2023 01:00

Help sorry I know this isn't AIBU but traffic

Tonight literally 15 mins ago so 00:40 ish I was driving home about a 10 minute journey on a road with a 60mph limit.
I was doing about 80. Yes I know I was in the wrong please dont bash me.
Then I got to my turning, turned in, and realise there was a police car behind me pretty much the whole time.
Now I'm freaking out because I know I was speeding and I know they were behind me. But they could have pulled me over and didn't, didn't even flash me?
I don't have any points, never paid any fine, never taken a speed awareness course.
Has anyone ever had a similar experience, if so did it end in a ticket or not?
Very worried, please be kind I know I was in the wrong

OP posts:
NalaNana · 31/01/2023 09:53

I think you'll be fine as they didn't pull you over then and there. I was followed by a police car in the dark once (doing 20 over the speed limit too) and didn't realise as there was no street lighting. They pulled me over for speeding and said they could issue me with points/fine but essentially couldn't be arsed with the process. To be honest I think they just wanted to check I wasn't drunk or anything!

WeekendInTheBoondocks · 31/01/2023 09:52

speedy49 · 31/01/2023 01:24

Of course I knew there was a car behind me, but when it's dark you can't tell what colour it is because of the headlights facing you. It was only when we got to nearish home with lots of streetlights I saw it was yellow and blue.

And I do not believe that any of you have never ever broken the speed limit

Well, there is breaking the speed limit and breaking speed limit. Occasionally I go 33 on a 30, by mistake and I correct myself, but going 80 in a 60 is 20 mph over the speed limit, that’s over the speed limit of a motorway, let alone the national speed limit on a single carriage road. 80 is simply ridiculously fast. If you were to be in an accident at 80 mph, both you and the driver of the other car would be seriously injured, if not killed.

TheObstinateHeadstrongGirl · 31/01/2023 09:51

GoodChat · 31/01/2023 09:49

No insurance company is going to refuse you insurance for 3 points. It'll just be slightly more expensive.

Exactly!

When we have hired cars in recent years though only I could as I have 0 points whereas DH has 3 and many places just won’t hire to people who have points!

Its a rarity though really, having to hire a car, for most people

Madeintowerhamlets · 31/01/2023 09:50

I think you SHOULD do a speed awareness course as it might change the way you think. And I say that as someone that has done a speed awareness course. I live in a London borough that is very hot on speeding cameras & fines. I was doing 23mph in a 20 zone & at the time I was annoyed as I was only slightly over & hardly ever go over the speed limit. In fact it was idiots driving right up my rear that often made me speed up. However since I’ve done the course I’ve realised it is really not worth it & I’m not risking a ticket because some knob near behind wants me to drive faster.

Icedlatteplease · 31/01/2023 09:49

GoodChat · 31/01/2023 09:42

@TheObstinateHeadstrongGirl it happens. My sister was hit by another driver speeding out of a junction on an otherwise empty dual carriageway and now has a life limiting disability, so you speed like a twat if you want to, if you're happy to take the risk of destroying someone else's life.

Just because it hasn't happened this time doesn't mean OP is a good or cautious driver. She's proven she's not. If someone had pulled out in front of her she wouldn't have had time to react.

What happened with the insurance claim? Im hoping your sister got some private healthcare as a result....

Speed would not have been the cause of the accident Though.

GoodChat · 31/01/2023 09:49

Catspyjamas17 · 31/01/2023 09:48

Well honestly I don't know what your worried about unless your dependant on your licence having zero points

Hiring a car. Getting insurance.

No insurance company is going to refuse you insurance for 3 points. It'll just be slightly more expensive.

Catspyjamas17 · 31/01/2023 09:48

Well honestly I don't know what your worried about unless your dependant on your licence having zero points

Hiring a car. Getting insurance.

Hello12345678910 · 31/01/2023 09:47

Well honestly I don't know what your worried about unless your dependant on your licence having zero points

It's a fine and points or 100 odd quid on a speed awareness course and no points..
It's not a big deal...

Though, maybe try not speeding 🤦‍♂️

GoodChat · 31/01/2023 09:46

Theluggage15 · 31/01/2023 09:44

I don’t understand why, if the police are so concerned about dangerous speeding they didn’t pull you over then and there instead of following you, presumably speeding themselves, for about 10 minutes which is a very long way at 80mph.

They didn't do either. She never got pulled over.

Butchyrestingface · 31/01/2023 09:45

Nah I just don’t give a shit and that seems to bother you

Not sure what you're wittering on about now.

Theluggage15 · 31/01/2023 09:44

I don’t understand why, if the police are so concerned about dangerous speeding they didn’t pull you over then and there instead of following you, presumably speeding themselves, for about 10 minutes which is a very long way at 80mph.

TheObstinateHeadstrongGirl · 31/01/2023 09:43

Butchyrestingface · 31/01/2023 09:38

*And crying about it constantly or making twatty comments won’t make me give a shit or feel bad, so I’m not sure what your point is actually in persistently mentioning it.

I haven't "persistently" mentioned it.

Are you expecting an apology or something?

Definitely not. You seem quite pleased with yourself if anything.

Nah I just don’t give a shit and that seems to bother you

TheObstinateHeadstrongGirl · 31/01/2023 09:42

whataboutsecondbreakfast · 31/01/2023 09:39

Many cyclists don’t wear high-vis. Many do. If you don’t take responsibility for your own safety you only have yourself to blame if you get hit. Not quite the same as a badger is it.

What a nasty thing to say.

Nobody deserves to get hit by a car.

They do if they are wearing all black, on the actual road late at night on a 60mph road.

You can’t just take NO responsibility for your safety - to the point where you’re purposefully putting yourself in a dangerous situation - and moan when it all goes wrong.

That like me jumping into the middle of the ocean with no flotation aids and saying “Huh - I don’t deserve to struggle to swim in the middle of the sea.

GoodChat · 31/01/2023 09:42

@TheObstinateHeadstrongGirl it happens. My sister was hit by another driver speeding out of a junction on an otherwise empty dual carriageway and now has a life limiting disability, so you speed like a twat if you want to, if you're happy to take the risk of destroying someone else's life.

Just because it hasn't happened this time doesn't mean OP is a good or cautious driver. She's proven she's not. If someone had pulled out in front of her she wouldn't have had time to react.

BodenCardiganNot · 31/01/2023 09:41

This 'be kind' shite is beyond annoying.

tommika · 31/01/2023 09:41

speedy49 · 31/01/2023 01:00

Help sorry I know this isn't AIBU but traffic

Tonight literally 15 mins ago so 00:40 ish I was driving home about a 10 minute journey on a road with a 60mph limit.
I was doing about 80. Yes I know I was in the wrong please dont bash me.
Then I got to my turning, turned in, and realise there was a police car behind me pretty much the whole time.
Now I'm freaking out because I know I was speeding and I know they were behind me. But they could have pulled me over and didn't, didn't even flash me?
I don't have any points, never paid any fine, never taken a speed awareness course.
Has anyone ever had a similar experience, if so did it end in a ticket or not?
Very worried, please be kind I know I was in the wrong

It’s most likely that this won’t be followed up, but it’s not impossible and a fine could arrive in the post

Should that happen your choices will depend on the specific speed and the local policy on speed awareness courses

However you said ‘about 80’
Which speed measurement are you going by?
Car speedometers in the UK generally over estimate your true speed as manufactures are not permitted to show under estimated errors
If your speedometer said 80 then you could have been actually doing in the region of 75-77
If it was ‘up to 80’ in the region of 75 then you may have been doing 70

The police behind you probably didn’t stop you because they were not interested in you whilst they were travelling to something else , they could still have monitored you to a degree and would have stopped you if they saw more, such as wobbling across the lane, erratically driving etc

If you (get a passenger to) compare a sat nav or phone navigator against your speedometer (for some distance) then you will get a general idea of your actual speed in relation to the speedometer
(don’t use that to justify going faster)

TheObstinateHeadstrongGirl · 31/01/2023 09:40

Re the man in Salisbury - again, don’t walk home pissed in the middle of the night on a dark road. It’s the basics of getting home safely.

However - I find it hard to believe a professional driver wouldn’t know you’d run someone over

I’ve never hit anyone, not even an animal, but I’ve hit kerbs and it feels like a massive bang so I can only imagine what running over a person would feel like. Sounds like a shitty defence from the cabbie

JudgeJ · 31/01/2023 09:39

speedy49 · 31/01/2023 01:00

Help sorry I know this isn't AIBU but traffic

Tonight literally 15 mins ago so 00:40 ish I was driving home about a 10 minute journey on a road with a 60mph limit.
I was doing about 80. Yes I know I was in the wrong please dont bash me.
Then I got to my turning, turned in, and realise there was a police car behind me pretty much the whole time.
Now I'm freaking out because I know I was speeding and I know they were behind me. But they could have pulled me over and didn't, didn't even flash me?
I don't have any points, never paid any fine, never taken a speed awareness course.
Has anyone ever had a similar experience, if so did it end in a ticket or not?
Very worried, please be kind I know I was in the wrong

I recently parked somewhere I'd parked before in order to go into Argos and collect an order. As I was putting it into the boot, less than 10 minutes later, a parking attendant came up to me and said I was parked in a disbaled bay! When I looked there was nothing painted on the road and I knew it didn't used to be but apparently they don't need to paint on the road now and the sign had been turned round. The attendant was OK about it, he knew I had only been a few minutes and the sign was turned round but had he wanted to book me I would have accepted it, I'd inadvertantly done wrong.

When my late OH gave up time to run the village Speedwatch they were subjected to all kinds of abuse from speeders, especially Mums on the school run! Moi?
If you do wrong you should be willing to accept the consequences and be glad of the times you've got away with it!

whataboutsecondbreakfast · 31/01/2023 09:39

Many cyclists don’t wear high-vis. Many do. If you don’t take responsibility for your own safety you only have yourself to blame if you get hit. Not quite the same as a badger is it.

What a nasty thing to say.

Nobody deserves to get hit by a car.

Butchyrestingface · 31/01/2023 09:38

*And crying about it constantly or making twatty comments won’t make me give a shit or feel bad, so I’m not sure what your point is actually in persistently mentioning it.

I haven't "persistently" mentioned it.

Are you expecting an apology or something?

Definitely not. You seem quite pleased with yourself if anything.

Icedlatteplease · 31/01/2023 09:37

tommika · 31/01/2023 09:30

And@TheObstinateHeadstrongGirl

A number of years ago outside Salisbury a body was found in the road

It was subsequently established that a man was walking home from the pub, was hit by a taxi that didn’t see him.
The taxi driver heard and felt something, reversed (running him over again) and still couldn’t see anything
Then drove off running him over for a third time

I've heard that story about a driver travelling at 30mph... speed really isn't the cause of that accident

MrsSkylerWhite · 31/01/2023 09:37

TeamHerbivore · Today 01:11
I hope you get fined and points. Please be kind, ffs, how about please don’t speed. 🙄“

This.
Pathetic.

TheObstinateHeadstrongGirl · 31/01/2023 09:36

Butchyrestingface · 31/01/2023 09:35

Again, get over it, I did!

What was for you to get over? You got away with it. Confused.

Repeating the same bizarre, meaningless catchphrase over and over won't suddenly make it less nonsensical.

And crying about it constantly or making twatty comments won’t make me give a shit or feel bad, so I’m not sure what your point is actually in persistently mentioning it. Are you expecting an apology or something?

TheOrigRights · 31/01/2023 09:36

You were going too fast to be eligible for a speed awareness course, so you will most likely get a fine and points.

Butchyrestingface · 31/01/2023 09:35

Again, get over it, I did!

What was for you to get over? You got away with it. Confused.

Repeating the same bizarre, meaningless catchphrase over and over won't suddenly make it less nonsensical.

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