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Been caught speeding

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speedy49 · 31/01/2023 01:00

Help sorry I know this isn't AIBU but traffic

Tonight literally 15 mins ago so 00:40 ish I was driving home about a 10 minute journey on a road with a 60mph limit.
I was doing about 80. Yes I know I was in the wrong please dont bash me.
Then I got to my turning, turned in, and realise there was a police car behind me pretty much the whole time.
Now I'm freaking out because I know I was speeding and I know they were behind me. But they could have pulled me over and didn't, didn't even flash me?
I don't have any points, never paid any fine, never taken a speed awareness course.
Has anyone ever had a similar experience, if so did it end in a ticket or not?
Very worried, please be kind I know I was in the wrong

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GoodChat · 31/01/2023 10:14

Thanks for the info @Icedlatteplease - I'll mention it Smile

TheObstinateHeadstrongGirl · 31/01/2023 10:13

whataboutsecondbreakfast · 31/01/2023 10:08

You can’t just take NO responsibility for your safety - to the point where you’re purposefully putting yourself in a dangerous situation - and moan when it all goes wrong.

I just don't agree that anyone deserves to be hit by a car just because they're not wearing hi-vis.

Of course they should wear it - but drivers should also be anticipating hazards and driving accordingly. As a driver you can't just plough into someone and say it's their fault you killed them.

Also regardless of whether your hazard is a person, a deer or a broken down car, you'll still crash and possibly total your own car and potentially get done for dangerous driving 🤷🏻‍♀️

You don’t get arrested for dangerous driving for hitting a deer FFS.

And you can drive by “anticipating hazards and driving accordingly” and still not see someone who is essentially camouflaged and behaving dangerously. Hitting them is not always your fault, and thankfully the law does exercise common sense. We aren’t expected to always drive around in a state of terror just in case some fuckwit with no Road sense is in the middle of the road suddenly.

But if you do wander out on a fast road late at night wearing all black and walking on the actual road, what do you expect? You’re an idiot and it is your fault if you get hit

CosyFanTucci · 31/01/2023 10:11

It’s also the sense of entitlement of speeding drivers that gets up people’s noses, that they’re somehow special or know better so rules don’t apply to them.

Ariela · 31/01/2023 10:10

Embrace the fact that if you were speeding, with any luck you'll be within the limits to take a speed awareness course. These are so useful in educating the public about the dangers of speeding, how to be more aware of the speed limits and your speed etc.

Meanwhile, given the price of fuel, it's worth considering why you were going that fast. Far, far more economical to drive more gently, at a lower speed.

whataboutsecondbreakfast · 31/01/2023 10:08

You can’t just take NO responsibility for your safety - to the point where you’re purposefully putting yourself in a dangerous situation - and moan when it all goes wrong.

I just don't agree that anyone deserves to be hit by a car just because they're not wearing hi-vis.

Of course they should wear it - but drivers should also be anticipating hazards and driving accordingly. As a driver you can't just plough into someone and say it's their fault you killed them.

Also regardless of whether your hazard is a person, a deer or a broken down car, you'll still crash and possibly total your own car and potentially get done for dangerous driving 🤷🏻‍♀️

Insideallday · 31/01/2023 10:04

Just don’t drive over the limit from now on and you won’t be worried about getting a ticket

Icedlatteplease · 31/01/2023 10:03

GoodChat · 31/01/2023 09:54

@Icedlatteplease nothing. Other party got 3 points for dangerous driving and the car was a write off but nothing else got paid out. It was pretty shocking, in all honesty.

Speed wasn't the cause of the accident but it was the cause of the level of injury.

3 years you have to make a claim

MrsSkylerWhite · 31/01/2023 10:03

LakeTiticaca · Today 09:59
Of course all mumsnetters always, but always drive at tthe speed limit

until they dont........“

Would be surprised if the majority of people don’t observe speed limits. I do 🤷‍♀️

ichundich · 31/01/2023 10:02

speedy49 · 31/01/2023 01:00

Help sorry I know this isn't AIBU but traffic

Tonight literally 15 mins ago so 00:40 ish I was driving home about a 10 minute journey on a road with a 60mph limit.
I was doing about 80. Yes I know I was in the wrong please dont bash me.
Then I got to my turning, turned in, and realise there was a police car behind me pretty much the whole time.
Now I'm freaking out because I know I was speeding and I know they were behind me. But they could have pulled me over and didn't, didn't even flash me?
I don't have any points, never paid any fine, never taken a speed awareness course.
Has anyone ever had a similar experience, if so did it end in a ticket or not?
Very worried, please be kind I know I was in the wrong

If they caught you, you won't qualify for a speed awareness course because you did 20 more than was allowed.

TheObstinateHeadstrongGirl · 31/01/2023 10:02

@AtomicRitual i really enjoyed my speed awareness course! I learned so much that was actually useful and it was a non judgmental environment. I now don’t need to see a sign to know the speed limit anywhere, I can tell from the road layout/lights/central reserve thanks to what I learnt on the course.

I also had mine when I was on maternity leave and I remember how nice it was to have a day out away from blending food, breastfeeding and navigating nap time 😂

GoodChat · 31/01/2023 10:01

TheObstinateHeadstrongGirl · 31/01/2023 09:59

Also on MN if anyone ever admits to speeding it’s ALWAYS ‘33 in a 30’. Followed by some excuse or insistence it’s the only time they’ve ever sped.

I don't agree with anything else you've said but this made me laugh because it's so true

LakeTiticaca · 31/01/2023 09:59

Of course all mumsnetters always, but always drive at tthe speed limit

until they dont........

AtomicRitual · 31/01/2023 09:59

Back to OP's original question though. It will likely depend on what type of police car it was.

If it was a traffic car with ANPR and cameras, then yes, you may very well get a ticket later.

Local beat car - unlikely to have the tech to monitor your speed.

Ultimately, if they were keeping pace with you, then there's a good chance of a ticket I think.

Icedlatteplease · 31/01/2023 09:59

GoodChat · 31/01/2023 09:54

@Icedlatteplease nothing. Other party got 3 points for dangerous driving and the car was a write off but nothing else got paid out. It was pretty shocking, in all honesty.

Speed wasn't the cause of the accident but it was the cause of the level of injury.

Your sisters insurance company was slacking. A debilitating accident with life long injuries and a dangerous driving conviction should have been a significant payout (it would have automatically been seen to the large loss team) was the other party uninsured? If it wasn't too long ago it may not be too late to make a claim

TheObstinateHeadstrongGirl · 31/01/2023 09:59

Also on MN if anyone ever admits to speeding it’s ALWAYS ‘33 in a 30’. Followed by some excuse or insistence it’s the only time they’ve ever sped.

Kanaloa · 31/01/2023 09:59

TheObstinateHeadstrongGirl · 31/01/2023 09:57

Because she hasn’t posted a grovelling apology to MN? She obviously is sorry but the question was around the logistics of issuing a fine and points. Why does she need to go into detail about how she definitely regrets it? Why do you even need that from the OP?

How is she ‘obviously sorry?’ She says ‘I was doing 80, please be kind.’ Just like the rest of the post, all she is interested in is not facing any consequences of her action.

And I don’t need or want a groveling apology. But I also don’t need it want to be ‘kind’ (ie just shut up) to someone who is happy to break the law but wants sympathy and babying when they might face the very clear and obvious consequences of their behaviour.

AtomicRitual · 31/01/2023 09:58

TheObstinateHeadstrongGirl · 31/01/2023 09:34

On the speed awareness course I was surprised by how many people denied they were speeding or made excuses. Or moaned about the existence of the speed camera van. “I didn’t see it in time”. That’s the whole point 😂 “The van was hiding” - oh you couldn’t have been speeding then 🤣

It’s the same people who moan about getting a parking ticket. Don’t park over your time and you won’t get a ticket.

So many people say how good speed awareness courses are - I'd like to go on one, but don't really want to get caught speeding to do so!

I got a parking ticket yesterday. Knew I'd overstayed the allowed time when I got back to my car, so expected it and paid it this morning. It was a private car park that so many people bleat on about it not being valid, etc, but ultimately I knew when I parked there that it had a two hour limit and I stayed 2.5 hours, so the ticket was inevitable. I'd agreed to that risk when I parked there. It was late at night and £50 was actually more preferable than having to park further away and get public transport!

In terms of speeding, I've never sped off the motorway. We've got one road near us where a 60 reduces to a 30. I swear I must be the only person that slows down to 30 before the sign. The amount of people I've had tailgating me is ridiculous.

I have sped on motorways in the past, but 80 is my limit. Now I'm getting older I can't be bothered with that either. I'm not in that much of a hurry or going that far that 10mph is going to get me anywhere significantly quicker.

If I do ever get caught speeding I'll just accept it was because I was reckless and deserve the consequences.

"Don't do the crime if you can't face the time"!

Shade17 · 31/01/2023 09:58

Driving at 80 is ‘off the scale insane’ on a single carriageway road in the dark with no street lighting.

I think you’re a little naive there when it comes to speeds that people actually do. I’d put ‘off the scale insane’ at more like 150mph. I keep my high speed shenanigans for the track and Germany these days but in my younger, less law abiding days would regularly see those kind of speeds. I’d say I’ve been lucky to get away with some of the crazy things I’ve done.

lieselotte · 31/01/2023 09:57

Germany has no mandatory speed limits, even their recommended speed limit is 10 mph higher than our mandatory

This is a myth - a lot of German motorways DO have speed limits.

And those that don't, don't have accidents, just fatalities.

TheObstinateHeadstrongGirl · 31/01/2023 09:57

Kanaloa · 31/01/2023 09:55

Like it is very much implied that op is not sorry for driving illegally, and that she does not plan on changing her ways. She just wants to know if she might get away with it.

Because she hasn’t posted a grovelling apology to MN? She obviously is sorry but the question was around the logistics of issuing a fine and points. Why does she need to go into detail about how she definitely regrets it? Why do you even need that from the OP?

Kanaloa · 31/01/2023 09:55

Like it is very much implied that op is not sorry for driving illegally, and that she does not plan on changing her ways. She just wants to know if she might get away with it.

Kanaloa · 31/01/2023 09:54

WeekendInTheBoondocks · 31/01/2023 09:52

Well, there is breaking the speed limit and breaking speed limit. Occasionally I go 33 on a 30, by mistake and I correct myself, but going 80 in a 60 is 20 mph over the speed limit, that’s over the speed limit of a motorway, let alone the national speed limit on a single carriage road. 80 is simply ridiculously fast. If you were to be in an accident at 80 mph, both you and the driver of the other car would be seriously injured, if not killed.

Plus there’s the fact that it wasn’t a mistake. The occasional mistake (while unacceptable) is understandable because we’re just humans. But op (although she says she was wrong) didn’t make a mistake. She didn’t misunderstand the speed limit or have a broken speedometer or only realise afterwards etc. She decided 60 was too slow and she wanted to illegally drive 20 mph faster, and now she wants people to ‘be kind’ because she’s worried her decision might come back to bite her.

GoodChat · 31/01/2023 09:54

@Icedlatteplease nothing. Other party got 3 points for dangerous driving and the car was a write off but nothing else got paid out. It was pretty shocking, in all honesty.

Speed wasn't the cause of the accident but it was the cause of the level of injury.

lieselotte · 31/01/2023 09:53

They do if they are wearing all black, on the actual road late at night on a 60mph road. You can’t just take NO responsibility for your safety - to the point where you’re purposefully putting yourself in a dangerous situation - and moan when it all goes wrong

I agree. Pedestrians need to stop wearing black coats in the winter as well (and I am one of them -well, dark purple and navy!). Everyone should be wearing some form of hi-vis.

TheObstinateHeadstrongGirl · 31/01/2023 09:53

In fact it was idiots driving right up my rear that often made me speed up.

The only action ever in this case is to slow down. If they hit you going slow it won’t cause as much damage if they hit you going fast.

Im petty though and I revel in going really slow for cars who start to tailgate me! But I also do it for my own safety