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Been caught speeding

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speedy49 · 31/01/2023 01:00

Help sorry I know this isn't AIBU but traffic

Tonight literally 15 mins ago so 00:40 ish I was driving home about a 10 minute journey on a road with a 60mph limit.
I was doing about 80. Yes I know I was in the wrong please dont bash me.
Then I got to my turning, turned in, and realise there was a police car behind me pretty much the whole time.
Now I'm freaking out because I know I was speeding and I know they were behind me. But they could have pulled me over and didn't, didn't even flash me?
I don't have any points, never paid any fine, never taken a speed awareness course.
Has anyone ever had a similar experience, if so did it end in a ticket or not?
Very worried, please be kind I know I was in the wrong

OP posts:
GooseberryCinnamonYogurt · 31/01/2023 07:01

Kanaloa · 31/01/2023 01:06

I know you’re bleating about ‘please be kind’ and ‘I know I was wrong’ but well that’s life. You say you know you were wrong, driving far over the speed limit illegally. If you do things that are wrong/illegal, you will have to face the consequences of those things. That’s not ‘unkind’ it’s fair.

Think if it another way - if someone mowed a loved one of yours down speeding at 80 miles per hour you wouldn’t be saying ‘oh be kind, they know it was wrong.’ If anything surely knowing it’s wrong but not caring unless you’re caught is worse than not knowing it’s wrong.

How sanctimonious you are.

Quinoawoman · 31/01/2023 06:58

If you do get a ticket, it's not the end of the world. You can do the speed awareness course instead of getting points on you licence (or you could 15 years ago when it happened to me). The course was totally cringe with lots of shame-faced people shoved in a tiny hotel conference room but actually had great content and was quite interesting.

otherwayup · 31/01/2023 06:56

TheObstinateHeadstrongGirl · 31/01/2023 01:03

And I was going 90 in a 60 that night I was followed 😬

How hideous.
And the fact you use a ridiculous emoji says it all.

Tessisme · 31/01/2023 06:54

WestBridgewater · 31/01/2023 06:28

If they were going to prosecute you they would have pulled you over. They probably ran your registration through the police National computer saw everything was in order and as it was late followed you to make sure you got home safe or they just happened to be going in the same direction. Either way it sounds like you need to be checking your mirrors a bit more often when you’re driving as well as slowing down.

Make sure she got home safely? What planet are you on?

3kidswouldfinishanyoneoff · 31/01/2023 06:54

Op, try not to worry.

C1N1C · 31/01/2023 06:52

speedy49 · 31/01/2023 01:50

With respect, this thread isn't about how bad of a crime (legally or morally) speeding is. It was about whether others have had a similar experience and what the outcome was.

Thanks to those who have actually replied with something helpful 🙏🏼

I've seen these posts before. You're not hoping for anything other than that comfort and glimmer of hope that people have done this before and gotten away with it.

You might, you might not... you'll know on two weeks. Brown envelope and likely speed awareness course.

Tessisme · 31/01/2023 06:50

Sorry, but it's not unkind to say that driving 20mph over the speed limit reeks of sheer selfishness and stupidity. It's merely pointing out the bleeding obvious. I don't feel like being kind to a reckless driver. If you don't receive a speeding fine through the post, then count yourself lucky and use the experience to think about how fast you drive in future, even if it's only to avoid a fine, rather than giving a hoot about other road users. Same result I guess.

SilentNightDancer · 31/01/2023 06:49

I'm terrified of driving on country roads because of people who drive on them far too fast.

I don't see what the issue is. If you speed, you might get a fine, points or a speed awareness course. Presumably anyone who drives 20mph over the limit is comfortable with all of those potential outcomes, otherwise they wouldn't speed.

And no, I've never driven at 80 in a 60 zone. Can't say that I've never nudged over the speed limit, but certainly nowhere to that extent. Not sure how that's being 'holier than thou'.

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BibbleandSqwauk · 31/01/2023 06:40

@Oblomov22 my son was hit by a car. His fault, he ran out from behind a parked car. Very very luckily, the small car was being driven at about 20mph. If it had been going at 34 he'd be dead and the drivers in jail. So maybe we should stop thinking it's "easy" to go over the limit. It's also easy not to. its what speedometers are for.

WestBridgewater · 31/01/2023 06:39

Think of it this way, you were driving 1/3 rd, 33% over the limit. Would you drive at 40 in a 30 not expect to be prosecuted?
I think you have had a lucky escape.

CosyFanTucci · 31/01/2023 06:34

It would be nice to see the speed limits in this country enforced and for people like the OP to lose their licence, if only for a few months. Doing 65 in a 60 is about 10% over the limit but doing 80 is more than 30% and would make a massive difference to hazard perception, response time and braking distance. It doesn’t sound like this was a one-off, only that there may have been a police car around this time. People who have lost loved ones to dangerous drivers aren’t inclined to ‘be kind’ to them.

Thefaceofboe · 31/01/2023 06:33

My cousin and his dog got killed by a speeding car just before Christmas while he was out on a walk. Bit sad you’re only concerned about a fine

Barleycat · 31/01/2023 06:32

Presumably this was on a rural road with a speed limit of 60 as you have said there were no lights? You're lucky you didn't end up wrapped round a tree, it would probably be safer for the rest of us if you had tbh. I hope you do get a fine, and points.

WestBridgewater · 31/01/2023 06:28

If they were going to prosecute you they would have pulled you over. They probably ran your registration through the police National computer saw everything was in order and as it was late followed you to make sure you got home safe or they just happened to be going in the same direction. Either way it sounds like you need to be checking your mirrors a bit more often when you’re driving as well as slowing down.

GoodChat · 31/01/2023 06:27

Oblomov22 · 31/01/2023 06:10

It's really easy to speed. I see people speeding every day on 20,30,40 roads, 60 roads. 80 on a motorway. It's easy to do above 34 on a 30 road.

It's easy to run someone over if you're that oblivious to what you're doing, too.

StalkedByASpider · 31/01/2023 06:27

Hey OP. I think it's really easy to unconsciously drive a bit faster very late at night when there's no-one else on the road and you're just trying to get home. It's not ideal but it's nothing like doing 50 in a 30 when there are kids around or the roads are busy.

I really, really don't think you'll hear any more. They'd have pulled you over on the spot, and also breathalysed you (probably but not definitely) for driving fast late at night.

But definitely view it as a lucky escape and try to keep an eye on your speedometer when it's late. I have to focus to make sure I don't speed. I find when it's very late, the roads are empty and I'm thinking about stuff as I drive, it's easy for the speed to creep up. So maybe just try to make an extra effort to stick to the limit - you don't want this kind of scare again as next time it could be a ticket and points.

I'm pretty sure you'll be OK.

SecretSophie · 31/01/2023 06:24

Another poster requiring all replies to "be kind" , or in other words agree with OP.

You post, you get replies. Stop trying to control that.

Merrymouse · 31/01/2023 06:19

As others have said they need specific equipment to issue a speeding ticket.

Police can obviously pull you over for driving dangerously, but that didn’t happen here.

whataboutsecondbreakfast · 31/01/2023 06:18

TerfOnATrain · 31/01/2023 06:16

You’ll probably get a speed awareness course letter OP. It’s unlikely you will be up before the magistrates if that’s what is worrying you.

If she does get a letter, she probably won't be entitled to a speed awareness course because of how far over the limit she was.

DH was caught speeding a couple of years ago and if you were more than a certain amount over the limit it was straight to a fine and points. I can't remember the cut off for a court appearance though.

Bingbangbongbash · 31/01/2023 06:18

Oblomov22 · 31/01/2023 06:10

It's really easy to speed. I see people speeding every day on 20,30,40 roads, 60 roads. 80 on a motorway. It's easy to do above 34 on a 30 road.

It’s easy to speed when you don’t think or care about the consequences.

It’s easy to speed when you decide to put other road users at risk of maiming or death.

It’s easy to speed when you don’t care about the most vulnerable road users like children and elderly pedestrians.

It’s easy to speed when you think your time is more important than other people’s safety.

It’s easy to speed when you think you’re a better driver than everyone else - even though you don’t have the brains to spot a police car.

It’s easy to speed until you kill someone.

TerfOnATrain · 31/01/2023 06:18

Posted too soon, I meant to add - if they’ve evidenced you.

they would very likely have pulled you over unless they had bigger fish to fry that night.

TerfOnATrain · 31/01/2023 06:16

You’ll probably get a speed awareness course letter OP. It’s unlikely you will be up before the magistrates if that’s what is worrying you.

Oblomov22 · 31/01/2023 06:10

It's really easy to speed. I see people speeding every day on 20,30,40 roads, 60 roads. 80 on a motorway. It's easy to do above 34 on a 30 road.

PurpleFlower1983 · 31/01/2023 06:07

I think you will be fine as they would have pulled you over at the time. Learn from this though, 20mph over the speed limit is really shitty behaviour.