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Been caught speeding

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speedy49 · 31/01/2023 01:00

Help sorry I know this isn't AIBU but traffic

Tonight literally 15 mins ago so 00:40 ish I was driving home about a 10 minute journey on a road with a 60mph limit.
I was doing about 80. Yes I know I was in the wrong please dont bash me.
Then I got to my turning, turned in, and realise there was a police car behind me pretty much the whole time.
Now I'm freaking out because I know I was speeding and I know they were behind me. But they could have pulled me over and didn't, didn't even flash me?
I don't have any points, never paid any fine, never taken a speed awareness course.
Has anyone ever had a similar experience, if so did it end in a ticket or not?
Very worried, please be kind I know I was in the wrong

OP posts:
TheObstinateHeadstrongGirl · 31/01/2023 07:56

I think some of you need to exert more authority in your real lives because the school mistress nonsense happening in here, which isn’t the least but helpful to the OP, is beyond OTT and pathetic and indicative of some sort of desperation to piss someone off.

Do you want to all be told you’re a better person than the OP? Would that make you happy?

GoodChat · 31/01/2023 07:55

3kidswouldfinishanyoneoff · 31/01/2023 07:08

No comments about the police who were driving behind you doing the same speed.

If course there'll be posters on to say they're allowed, and of course they were trying to keep up with you blah d blah.

Every single driver on this thread has been guilty of speeding at one time or another.

She never said the police were doing the same speed. Just that they were behind her. That doesn't mean immediately behind her tailgating.

chupachump · 31/01/2023 07:54

My post last night was deleted, I assume because I used a naughty word. There's so much nastiness on these boards but tell someone not to drive like a .... and it gets deleted.

Priorities huh.

Vaselining · 31/01/2023 07:51

The speed limit is far too low in this country.

Moopsi · 31/01/2023 07:50

80k in a 60k limit area is ridiculously dangerous. And your defensiveness of it is worrying. I hope you don't do it again and kill someone next time.

Icedlatteplease · 31/01/2023 07:49

Most accidents aren't caused by speed.

The injuries may be exacerbated by speed but 60 to 80 vs a pedestrian wont make a blind bit of difference they both have a low chance of survival.

The one of the most dangerous thing you can do on a road is turn right, especially accross the path of a pedestrian. Most people will still do turn right without a second thought.

Fund raising speeding fines really have skewed perception of risk

Tessisme · 31/01/2023 07:46

@WestBridgewater Surely if they had been concerned about her safety, they would have been more likely to pull her over before she wrapped her car round a tree rather than waiting until after the event. I know not all police officers are arseholes, but I'm presuming most of them have a bit of common sense. She was driving at 80mph in a 60mph zone. They were probably busy on a call out, rather than following her to make sure she was safe. Unless we're all living in an episode of Heartbeat.

Astralitzia · 31/01/2023 07:46

I'm not going to have a go at you for speeding since plenty of others have already done that, but if you are prepared to speed then you need to accept that you might get points or a fine for it.

If you can't accept that, then don't speed. If you do get one in the post, accept it with good grace, and think about what's more important for you in the future - going fast, or having a license.

Icedlatteplease · 31/01/2023 07:43

Kanaloa · 31/01/2023 01:06

I know you’re bleating about ‘please be kind’ and ‘I know I was wrong’ but well that’s life. You say you know you were wrong, driving far over the speed limit illegally. If you do things that are wrong/illegal, you will have to face the consequences of those things. That’s not ‘unkind’ it’s fair.

Think if it another way - if someone mowed a loved one of yours down speeding at 80 miles per hour you wouldn’t be saying ‘oh be kind, they know it was wrong.’ If anything surely knowing it’s wrong but not caring unless you’re caught is worse than not knowing it’s wrong.

Statistically it's not overly likely you will mow someone down at that time of night whether you were driving at 40 or 80 unless there were standing in the middle of the road

Patineur · 31/01/2023 07:40

I'm a bit surprised that. you're freaking out. You must have known you were risking this every minute that you were speeding? If you take a risk you need to be prepared to accept the consequences.

ReneBumsWombats · 31/01/2023 07:35

MN is the land of holier-than-thou sanctimony, so it's funny to get pushback on it for one of the few things that actually is a moral issue: driving safely and legally.

GenuinelyDone · 31/01/2023 07:30

It's not holier than thou to obey the speed limit.

Obeying the speed limit doesn't mean you're a slow driver.

And it's easy to speed if you're a fuckwit who doesn't pay enough attention when driving.

I personally hope OP does get a fine, but unfortunately like many of the selfish and feckless will probably get away with it and will be on here in a few months reassuring the next selfish feckless driver they won't have any consequences for driving dangerously.

KillingLoneliness · 31/01/2023 07:23

And no, I've never driven at 80 in a 60 zone. Can't say that I've never nudged over the speed limit, but certainly nowhere to that extent. Not sure how that's being 'holier than thou'.

Exactly this, I live in the country, all the roads from my house are country lanes with 60mph limits, not once have I ever reached 60 as it would be absolutely ridiculous and completely unsafe to go at that speed. It’s a limit not a target.

follyfoot37 · 31/01/2023 07:22

Be kind?
So when someone is doing 20mph over the limit around you/your offspring/your relative you will ask whomsoever is killed/injured to be kind to the driver?
Entitled arrogance of the hughest order. V selfish

mummyh2016 · 31/01/2023 07:19

You would've been pulled over and even then they need evidence. Out of interest I presume the police car was keeping up with you so also speeding?
Those saying would you do 50 in a 30, there's a massive difference in roads that are a 30/60. 60 is NSL and when I think of the roads I regularly use that are NSL they are major A roads and country lanes. Roads that don't have pedestrians walking down. Obviously speeding increases the likelihood of there being an accident but I wouldn't say OP was 'lucky' to not hit anyone as there wouldn't have been anyone to hit on those sort of roads unless you mean other vehicle drivers.

BubziOwl · 31/01/2023 07:19

FanGurrl · 31/01/2023 02:01

I'm sorry but I truly can't believe all the holier than thou attitudes on here. The majority of drivers don't stick to the speed limit all the time. You only have to travel on any motorway to see that. Driving slowly does not necessarily make you a better or safer driver!
OP I hope you don't get a fine this time. This experience has probably made you more vigilant of your speed anyway!

Driving slowly might not make you a better or safer driver, but driving within the speed limit certainly does.

KillingLoneliness · 31/01/2023 07:18

I’m sorry but no sympathy OP, why the fuck were you doing 80!? It’s people like you that kill others ffs.

Redebs · 31/01/2023 07:14

I'm sick of people saying it's normal to speed. These are probably the kind of drivers that tailgate me when I slow to 30 when going through a village or overtake dangerously on a country road when I'm doing 60.
I had to put a sticker in my window saying I'm driving at the limit. Not a snarky, passive-aggressive message, just a straight 'be aware' one. It helped a bit, but there are still plenty of gits who get nasty about being behind someone trying to be safe.
Speeding is dangerous and selfish. It's not ok.
People used to have a similar blasé attitude to drink-driving, but nowadays if you do it you will be villified and rightly so.
The consequences of speeding are potentially deadly. Every day lives are lost or ruined.

OP you need to change your attitude.

blippyissilly · 31/01/2023 07:12

TheObstinateHeadstrongGirl · 31/01/2023 01:03

And I was going 90 in a 60 that night I was followed 😬

Grow up

blippyissilly · 31/01/2023 07:12

Start being more responsible

You've got off this time, take it as a warning though

BubziOwl · 31/01/2023 07:10

SavoirFlair · 31/01/2023 01:33

And I do not believe that any of you have never ever broken the speed limit

Ah this old one again… weirdly enough I don’t do 20mph more than the speed limit; or even 10mph more. I need my licence for work. I don’t want to hit people or risk hurting them. Ever.

look, I’m not going to bash you for speeding, others have and will…

but I can’t get past your total lack of self awareness about why it’s important not to speed.

Your focus seems to be solely on if you’ll get fined. If there was no police car behind you, would you have even given it a second thought?

Yeah this one winds me up, when people act incredulous and assert that anyone who doesn't do (insert immoral behaviour) simply must be lying.

I have accidentally done one or two miles over the limit from time to time if I'm not paying attention. That's not okay, and I should be paying more attention. But it's not the same as deliberately speeding, or going 10 miles over the limit (let alone 20!) - both things I've very genuinely never done.

3kidswouldfinishanyoneoff · 31/01/2023 07:08

No comments about the police who were driving behind you doing the same speed.

If course there'll be posters on to say they're allowed, and of course they were trying to keep up with you blah d blah.

Every single driver on this thread has been guilty of speeding at one time or another.

WestBridgewater · 31/01/2023 07:04

Tessisme · 31/01/2023 06:54

Make sure she got home safely? What planet are you on?

So it’s completely unreasonable to believe that an officer saw presumably a lone female driver and followed just to see what their driving was like for longer, saw them arrive and left it at that? They might have been waiting to see if they could pull them over for speeding but decided not to because it was late and they didn’t want to do the paperwork. We’ll never know. Not all officers are arseholes you know.

ReneBumsWombats · 31/01/2023 07:04

Oblomov22 · 31/01/2023 06:10

It's really easy to speed. I see people speeding every day on 20,30,40 roads, 60 roads. 80 on a motorway. It's easy to do above 34 on a 30 road.

It's really easy to speed.

It is indeed easy to drive like a dangerous moron, yes, which is why so many dangerous morons do it.

Penalty seems unlikely, OP, but that's a shame because it sounds as though that's the only thing you're worried about and therefore the only thing that will stop you. Unless something worse happens first. Are you going to keep on speeding at 20 mph over the limit?

GooseberryCinnamonYogurt · 31/01/2023 07:03

Of course I knew there was a car behind me, but when it's dark you can't tell what colour it is because of the headlights facing you. It was only when we got to nearish home with lots of streetlights I saw it was yellow and blue.

And I do not believe that any of you have never ever broken the speed limit^
^
Exactly OP - there are a lot of righteous drivers, who I guess have never driven 40 in a 30 for example.