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Hen do or don’t

32 replies

Curiousness · 24/01/2023 17:25

Have been invited to a hen do (whole weekend away from home, so expensive, not just a night out) but only invited to the evening party of the wedding.

To me if you’re invited to the hen you should also be invited to the actual wedding??

Had something similar a few years back with another friend, is this the norm?

Thoughts??

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CheeseDreamsTonight · 24/01/2023 17:44

I was recently asked to a hen and none of the wedding! The shame! I declined

BlueBlueBlueWinter · 24/01/2023 17:43

I find it very odd that you're close enough to her to be invited to the hen do but not to the whole wedding, especially if it's a weekend away.

neverknowinglyunreasonable · 24/01/2023 17:41

Hen do problems? Sounds like you're just too far down the pecking order. It might leave you feeling fowl but not worth getting in a flap.

StephanieSuperpowers · 24/01/2023 17:38

If it's an expensive overnight thing, I don't think I'd go unless I had been a bit further up the guest list. For evening wedding guests, surely there's an evening portion of the hen night?

Leeds2 · 24/01/2023 17:34

I think it is quite rude to ask someone to the hen, and not to the whole day of the wedding, but I have seen it mentioned quite a few times on MN so obviously not uncommon!
Personally, I wouldn't go and would suspect that I had only been invited to help keep the costs down for everyone else.

Thepeopleversuswork · 24/01/2023 17:31

Totally depends on the situation. If it’s a close friend or family member maybe odd and worth asking. If it’s no one you are that close to they probably just want someone they think will fit the party mood. If it’s an expensive ballache I wouldn’t feel any obligation.

OhHeyBabe · 24/01/2023 17:28

Would depend how close I was to the hen, how much I liked her and if I could afford it.