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I keep getting at Dd

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Goodbyesunhellomoonio · 23/01/2023 17:54

Feeling so guilty most days as I feel i’m always telling Dd, 4, 6 off recently.
She just doesn’t listen to anything I say, is disobedient, rude at times, shouts and hits sometimes. She’s also v bright, v sweet and loving and we adore her. I just feel she never stops doing things she’s not supposed to…annoying the dog or jumping and climbing all over the sofa, getting food out of the fridge etc etc. She’s very intense and extra.
I realise these are probably things kids this age do?
End up feeling really guilty every night for not having more patience with her 😒

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Ericaequites · 23/01/2023 18:42

Jumping on furniture is unacceptable, inappropriate, and good neither for the furniture nor the child. It’s fun, but jumping outside is better.

WolfFoxHare · 23/01/2023 18:41

Try counting. Counting when you’re talking to her - ‘I’m going to count to five and I want you to have picked up those toys/put your shoes on/stopped jumping on the sofa by the time I get to five’ and counting to ten in your head before you snap at her because you’ve told her FOUR TIMES already today to do xyz.

My DS can be very aggravating so I do sympathise - especially with how crap you feel afterwards - and really if there’s anyway you can keep your temper, you’ll both be a lot happier.

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Goodbyesunhellomoonio · 23/01/2023 18:41

@Smartiepants79 I just keep reiterating the same thing again and again…how she must ask before just taking food, how she has to leave the dog alone etc. If it comes to a head and she still keeps doing it, I’ve stopped her weekend treats (has £2 at the weekend to choose what she likes) that does bother her, but not enough to stop.
I use lots of positive reinforcement when things are going well..I don’t know, she just seems to find doing the annoying things much more fun, just wish she could calm a bit, it’s a lot.

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Goodbyesunhellomoonio · 23/01/2023 18:38

@TinaYouFatLard I know..I just don’t seem to have any patience for it

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Goodbyesunhellomoonio · 23/01/2023 18:37

@yousmellnice Sorry, 4 years, 6 months

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Smartiepants79 · 23/01/2023 17:57

Other than ‘telling her off’ how do you deal with her when she is jumping on the furniture or taking stuff without asking?
Annoying the dog is potentially very dangerous.
What are the consequences and how are you positively encouraging the good behaviours?

TinaYouFatLard · 23/01/2023 17:56

Pick your battles - jumping and climbing on the sofa is fun.

yousmellnice · 23/01/2023 17:55

Ia she 4 or 6?