I keep getting at Dd

You don’t need to tell her off for any little thing she does that you don’t like or agree with. Otherwise when it is actually something that matters she won’t listen as it’ll be oh moms just moaning as usual.

some things kids do u just got to tolerate. Kids aren’t like adults they aren’t meant to sit still, adults don’t want to jump on the sofa kids do.

Sounds like you need to learn to lick your battles

I'm not sure I’d do this - she might end up resenting the dog which could cause future issues.

Read your 4 year old wild and wonderful louise ames bates. You re not alone it's testing! Getting outside helps or a kids you tube dance video for 10min

If losing her weekend allowance affects her, use that. Get a clear plastic container with a lid. Put her weekly allowance in the container, broken into small amounts, pennies, dimes, etc. Tell her every time she bothers the dog, she will lose one coin. When she bothers the dog, take her to the container and have her remove a coin and put it in a piggy bank to buy treats for the dog. As she visually SEES her money disappear and given to the dog, she will think twice.
On the weekend, take her to spend what money (if any) she has left and they let her use the piggybank money to buy the dog a toy or treat.

That's very common. Do you push through get her to keep walking or go home? I'll tell DC we need to keep walking as I know they still have energy to get out. You could try putting on music and encouraging her to dance instead of jump. I find redirection more useful at this age, a firm "we don't jump on furniture" followed by some redirection, "if your body feels like it needs to jump you can jump it out on the trampoline, if you're feeling wiggly we can put some music on you can dance to."

Sensory seeking behaviour can be a sign of ADHD or ASD, but children can be sensory seeking or sensory avoidant without being ND. If she's seeking increased sensory movement input that means her body is probably under reactive to movement.

Climbers and jumpers are looking for vestibular and proprioceptive input. It helps them know where their body is, gives them the feedback they need. If you google things like alternative sensory activities for climbers and jumpers or vestibular/proprioceptive input for jumpers you'll find a lot of ideas to work through. My jumper likes swinging and spinning. You can get toys that provide these inputs, sensory swings can go indoors if you have room.

If saying the words on repeat doesn't work and counting does, you absolutely can.
Amelia, put the door back and come out of the fridge.....Amelia,5! 4! Thank you for doing as I asked.

What is it about building forts and climbing over them that annoys you?

Provided that you also praise her when she is behaving well, give her cuddles when she is being sweet, there is no problem in constantly correcting her bad behavior

Yes sensory seeking is a sign - we’re dopamine-driven and always seeking the next hit!

we can also be incredibly focussed

She’s very little and may just be an energetic 4 year old but it’s worth considering as she gets older - my relationship with my mum was dreadful and I think a lot of that could have been mitigated if it had been recognised earlier

www.verywellmind.com/adhd-in-girls-symptoms-of-adhd-in-girls-20547

What are the consequences when she doesn’t listen? What has changed between when she didn’t do this and now?

I find I have to say things a thousand times before my 5yo remembers to do/not to do them without prompting. I just console myself that when I say "Do that!" or "Don't do this!", I only have to say it 999 times more before he actually assimilates it in his brain.

Hi op sensory seeking behaviors can look like adhd yes but doesn't necessarily mean that it is that, it Could be spd(sensory processing disorder) or she could just be a high energy child! You mentioned she hits, does she struggle to control her emotions?

It's been cold for quite a while, have you cut back on park trips etc? I know I used to in the colder weather.

Maybe look into local climbing centres they will have young children's sessions and let her channel it and wear how out.

Could you have a mini trampoline she could bounce on instead? I think you need to be firm about the dog.

She sounds like she's sensory seeking, my son is the same constantly on the go does a lot of the things you describe. Try and make sure she has plenty of outlets to move, space hopper, indoor trampoline, lots of outside time etc. I don't have much advice op it can be tiring when your child is constantly in action, but I stand with you in solidarity! Also try not to beat yourself up, just take each day as it comes and like someone else said picking your battles! X

She's still very young and her brain is still a long way from being fully developed try and keep that in mind and count to 10 yourself in your head before speaking to her unless she or someone else is in danger or something will get broken.

Don't bother taking treat money from her, consequences have to be immediate and linked to the 'crime'. Four year olds are unlikely to make the link or care about pocket money.

Don't tell her what not to do, young children don't hear the negatives you have to give them a positive direction, "Both feet on the floor" etc

You can never rule out neuro diversity, most children aren't picked up until well into their teens, try to find a positive outlet for this behaviour it might be naughty and willfull or she may not be able to help it and telling her off for something she may not be able to control is pointless.

She likes climbing and jumping on things? Get her a wobble board and a little trampette thing. Redirect her there everytime.
She annoys the dog? They can't be in the same room together.

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We have to tell DS to do everything 3-4 times at least. It’s enraging at times and I do lose my temper sometimes. DS has some concentration issues for which he’s on the SEND register at school - not bad enough to be diagnosed as ADHD or similar but bad enough to lack focus at times. Could there be any similar issues with your DD? Not to pathologise it - all my friends’ kids seem to need telling half a dozen times before they do what they’re supposed to do.

Try reading Calmer, Easier, Happier Parenting

I know how you feel! Do you redirect, eg "if you want to jump you can jump on the floor"? Dr Siggie on Instagram is good. And, as much as the name pains me to type, 'ourmamavillage'.

It sounds like she might need a bit more positive reinforcement.

also she sounds a bit sensation-seeking - any chance of ADHD? It’s often underdiagnosed in girls