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Paul Breach

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TulipsRule · 04/01/2023 09:10

For those of you who use TikTok, have you seen this Paul Breach Guy? What’s your opinions on him?
My cousins daughter showed me his videos, it’s quite alarming and I’m worried that he seems to get so much engagement on the platform which is really geared toward teenagers.

she’s explained the back story to me, he’s forty odd and got a 16/17 year old pregnant when he was 28 (I think). And he since has been allegedly messaging and creating content geared toward teenage girls. Most recently, he stayed in a hotel with a 19 year old with the pretence of taking photos, all starting to sound a bit Dahmer-esqe.

Forgive me if this isn’t accurate it is being relayed to me by a younger family member.

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AlwaysGinPlease · 04/01/2023 20:25

Those people defending him - you're part of a massive problem. Sickening.

PonyPatter44 · 04/01/2023 20:10

I just asked my 20 year old if she had heard of him. Her reaction? "Ugh yes, he's a massive nonce"!

Sparklesocks · 04/01/2023 19:58

I feel bad for his son, he must be aware of his dad’s online notoriety. I only hope the kids at his school don’t know who his dad is and he has a different surname or something.

He has said in the past he’s ‘immature’ as justification for meeting young women. I guess that means he’s absolved of any responsibility… 🫤😑

LookingForTipsNotPuns · 04/01/2023 19:33

Unicorn2022 · 04/01/2023 17:56

I wish people would realise that the more they promote or encourage him the richer he gets. Sometimes his lives pop up on my FYP and people are throwing thousands of gifts at him. He makes a fortune on cameos too. I heard he is earning £49k a month at the moment.

I don't think he's very intelligent but he's bright enough to know that what he is doing is making him a lot of money, so plays up to it all he can. People also do contact him and use him to increase their own clout.

I'm a similar age to him and had a 28 year old boyfriend when I was 16/17 and it wasn't considered perverted or disgusting then like it is now.

He is only considered creepy because he is ugly and looks like ham. If he looked like Jude Law or Ryan Reynolds (or handsome people in their 40s) he wouldn't be seen to be doing anything wrong by messaging or dating young women.

you were groomed
no self respecting 28 year old dates 16/17 year olds.

IrmaGord · 04/01/2023 18:53

I'm a similar age to him and had a 28 year old boyfriend when I was 16/17 and it wasn't considered perverted or disgusting then like it is now.

I'm older than 42 and I disagree. Even back then, me and my girlfriends would discuss what it would be like to date someone that much younger and we all thought men that did it were creeps.

Badhead · 04/01/2023 18:53

I can't go on Tiktok without being tormented by The Green Green Grass guy showing up on my fyp. He gives me the ick.

Gerrataere · 04/01/2023 18:49

He earns a fair bit, but a lot of it would get swallowed by his travels. Hotels, trains, fast food, that’s a fair few hundred a month. We don’t know what he pays towards housekeeping his dad’s place. You’d bloody hope he pays child maintenance. Platforms like TT also take a good cut. But absolutely not 49k a month - I think at very best it’s 2-3k, and obviously that would be a fluctuating amount.

GinoVino · 04/01/2023 18:39

Oh come on! Don't be ridiculous! This man isn't earning anywhere near £49k a month! Not even a year! He makes out he's earning loads on cameo etc because, as demonstrated here, people are gullible and believe it. Then that lures more people in, gives him more attention. He was still popping off to the job centre to sign on until recently! Also, no man earning a decent amount of money would live in their dads bathroom and wear the same old crusty boxers and jumper everyday!

caravanbuckie · 04/01/2023 18:11

heard he is earning £49k a month at the moment.

Yet still living in his dads spare room?

Runtotheshop · 04/01/2023 18:09

He lives in his dads bathroom literally.

He is a very dangerous "man" who's stock reply is normally along the lines of. I asked for a smiley picture. She contacted me first. He is a classic groomer.

Gerrataere · 04/01/2023 18:07

Sorry, I should say Paul doesnt have any of that. As I’m sure is clear.

Gerrataere · 04/01/2023 18:06

Unicorn2022 · 04/01/2023 17:56

I wish people would realise that the more they promote or encourage him the richer he gets. Sometimes his lives pop up on my FYP and people are throwing thousands of gifts at him. He makes a fortune on cameos too. I heard he is earning £49k a month at the moment.

I don't think he's very intelligent but he's bright enough to know that what he is doing is making him a lot of money, so plays up to it all he can. People also do contact him and use him to increase their own clout.

I'm a similar age to him and had a 28 year old boyfriend when I was 16/17 and it wasn't considered perverted or disgusting then like it is now.

He is only considered creepy because he is ugly and looks like ham. If he looked like Jude Law or Ryan Reynolds (or handsome people in their 40s) he wouldn't be seen to be doing anything wrong by messaging or dating young women.

Again I disagree with your last part. Leo DiCaprio is being pulled up about dumping women as soon as they turn 25 for example. Plenty of people pull up gross Hollywood men, they’re usually just drowned out by fanatics. Paul’s physical appearance is the least of it, men like the ones you mentioned have more than just looks. They have money and power, with that they expect a pretty young thing on their side. Hell, most of the time a beautiful woman is just a prop or object to them, to use as a façade of imagery due to their position. Paul does have any of the above. So when a man’s motivation is purely sexual, where there is no balance or ‘give and take’, yes it does become more ‘creepy’ than the general role-playing those in a higher position carry out.

Unicorn2022 · 04/01/2023 17:56

I wish people would realise that the more they promote or encourage him the richer he gets. Sometimes his lives pop up on my FYP and people are throwing thousands of gifts at him. He makes a fortune on cameos too. I heard he is earning £49k a month at the moment.

I don't think he's very intelligent but he's bright enough to know that what he is doing is making him a lot of money, so plays up to it all he can. People also do contact him and use him to increase their own clout.

I'm a similar age to him and had a 28 year old boyfriend when I was 16/17 and it wasn't considered perverted or disgusting then like it is now.

He is only considered creepy because he is ugly and looks like ham. If he looked like Jude Law or Ryan Reynolds (or handsome people in their 40s) he wouldn't be seen to be doing anything wrong by messaging or dating young women.

CarPoor · 04/01/2023 17:43

Hillary17 · 04/01/2023 14:54

I don’t like the guy and the dancing is a bit cringe… and know I’m in the minority in saying he legally hasn’t done anything wrong. Being creepy or cringe isn’t illegal. The girl that was pregnant was 17 years old (happens all the time), he sees his child and they were together for years. The women he took photos of was 19 and doing it for her Only Fans… Sadly all these women are adults and can make their own choices. It might be creepy to have a 20 year age gap but it happens, it’s always happened and little is going to change that. If you’re concerned about your daughters engaging with him, have a conversation with them about general internet safety.

He's not met her in a club or at work. She's an escort who advertises barely legal services. He's actively sought her out, knowing she's only 19 and vunerable and a SW, and looks like a child. She has either been paid or he's using his social media presence to get her to do what he wants. It didn't "just happen" he specifically made it happen, and there's a pattern of him being involved with barely legal girls when he's 10+ years their senior.

She may feel in control because she's getting attention but he is the one with the power over her. Do you think she wants to sleep with a cringy, red faced middle aged man? He's grooming and advertising it to the whole fucking world

CarPoor · 04/01/2023 17:34

He's a creep and I think he gets off on hiding in plain sight.

His recent stunt was hinting about sleeping with a 19yo, whilst filming her for OF. She is a SW and advertises herself as 'barely legal escort', she has been a SW from a very young age and is clearly very vunerable, with a history of self harm.

How much closer can you skirt to the law without admitting to being a pedophile? He knows full well what he's doing, it's like hes gloating because he can't be arrested for taking some photos with a 19yo but he's advertising that he likes girls who look 12yo. He's a dangerous man, I used to think he was deluded but now I think it's an act to attract teenage gurls

I try not to engage because I think it fuels him. He needs to be arrested

AllThingsServeTheBeam · 04/01/2023 16:47

He is disgusting. And he should get banned from all social media if you ask me. He shouldn't be encouraged

Justanothermanicmondayy · 04/01/2023 16:34

He makes me cringe. I remember seeing him on tik tok for the first time and thinking wtf is going on here…. Still feel the same way! Chris Ingham from the Ingham family also gives me the same creepy vibes!

TulipsRule · 04/01/2023 16:25

Mizzpah · 04/01/2023 15:33

I believe it was reported at the time - but if I remember correctly the response from the authority he worked for was basically they can’t do anything because he doesn’t work for us anymore.

he behaviour and notoriety has made it so he will be unlikely be able to ever get a job in care again (or any job for that matter), so that may be the only good thing to come about from his TikTok “career”

I’m so glad that his career in care is over. He shouldn’t be round those who don’t have capacity by the sounds of it.

this thread has been very enlightening

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monicagellerbing · 04/01/2023 16:11

He's a ridiculous man child who only talks to young girls on his lives, he thinks he's gods gift looks-wise when in fact he looks like Billy Bear ham. He's completely up his own arse and got a 16 year old pregnant when he was 29. He's disgusting

Yourteaisgettingcold · 04/01/2023 15:55

Grooming another person doesn't have an age constraint or limit.

Mizzpah · 04/01/2023 15:33

I believe it was reported at the time - but if I remember correctly the response from the authority he worked for was basically they can’t do anything because he doesn’t work for us anymore.

he behaviour and notoriety has made it so he will be unlikely be able to ever get a job in care again (or any job for that matter), so that may be the only good thing to come about from his TikTok “career”

GinoVino · 04/01/2023 15:28

Hillary17 · 04/01/2023 14:54

I don’t like the guy and the dancing is a bit cringe… and know I’m in the minority in saying he legally hasn’t done anything wrong. Being creepy or cringe isn’t illegal. The girl that was pregnant was 17 years old (happens all the time), he sees his child and they were together for years. The women he took photos of was 19 and doing it for her Only Fans… Sadly all these women are adults and can make their own choices. It might be creepy to have a 20 year age gap but it happens, it’s always happened and little is going to change that. If you’re concerned about your daughters engaging with him, have a conversation with them about general internet safety.

Actually no. Grooming vulnerable women IS illegal, whatever age you or they are. This 19 year old girl he's recently been entangled with is quite clearly, a very young, vulnerable sex worker with mental health issues. She signed up to OF the day she turned 18 and advertises herself as 'barley legal'. You do not have to be over the age of constent for it to not be considered illegal.

Gerrataere · 04/01/2023 15:10

Hillary17 · 04/01/2023 14:54

I don’t like the guy and the dancing is a bit cringe… and know I’m in the minority in saying he legally hasn’t done anything wrong. Being creepy or cringe isn’t illegal. The girl that was pregnant was 17 years old (happens all the time), he sees his child and they were together for years. The women he took photos of was 19 and doing it for her Only Fans… Sadly all these women are adults and can make their own choices. It might be creepy to have a 20 year age gap but it happens, it’s always happened and little is going to change that. If you’re concerned about your daughters engaging with him, have a conversation with them about general internet safety.

With all due respect, saying things like this doesn’t help. Girls do not magically mature once they hit 17/18/19. If anything this is the point that they are most vulnerable. Thinking you’re an adult with none of the life experiences to go with it, prime for being taken advantage of. Just because ‘it happens all the time’ doesn’t make it ok, we’re meant to be in a progressive society that’s making the world safer for girls and women. Attitudes like this make it very difficult to make it happen.

Grown men choose young girls for a reason. They’re easier to control, they don’t know themselves yet, they can be easily moulded into the person that man wants them to be rather than their own person. It should never be excused. ‘It happens’ is the reason these men get away with it, whilst the girls they use end up paying with for it for the rest of their lives, usually not just with mental trauma but left raising children from the situation whilst the men in question move on to their next victim.

Theopossumwasmeantforme · 04/01/2023 15:04

BarkingUpTheWrongTreeAgain · 04/01/2023 14:50

I didn't mind her but started dislike her before the snapshot eye stuff when she carried a raw chicken and pork over the top of her butter to plop in the slow cooker and had her hands all over the slow cooker without washing them.

That's pretty rank. She's a nurse too isn't she?

Gerrataere · 04/01/2023 15:00

To add to the fantastic post above, he’s also been ‘highly intense’ towards other women. One, he tried to move in with after 3 weeks of knowing. Took everything with him to her home including his birth certificate. She got very annoyed very quickly and that’s how he’s ended up living with his poor dad.

He has a habit of dating women with children. When one separated from him, he made a fake insta account of her and her child, and only followed her real account back. He was in a relationship with another young woman and called her daughter ‘his girl’.

He got catfished to meet another 19 year old. When she turned out not to be real, he made a half joking video holding a condom saying ‘guess I won’t be needing this’.

He used to visit his son in the early days of being on TT, but reading between the lines it seems he hasn’t seen him in months. Especially since he admitted to a legal document being in place - he said it was a mutual one to keep privacy but he may well be being liberal with the truth there.

He has huge issues with another TT creator, who speaks about their experiences being groomed by someone just like himself. He gets especially nasty and bullying towards this creator. Then becries his own mental health, threatens all sorts (yet will not switch off any social media).

Im sure there’s so much more but that’s all off the top of my head…