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Paul Breach

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TulipsRule · 04/01/2023 09:10

For those of you who use TikTok, have you seen this Paul Breach Guy? What’s your opinions on him?
My cousins daughter showed me his videos, it’s quite alarming and I’m worried that he seems to get so much engagement on the platform which is really geared toward teenagers.

she’s explained the back story to me, he’s forty odd and got a 16/17 year old pregnant when he was 28 (I think). And he since has been allegedly messaging and creating content geared toward teenage girls. Most recently, he stayed in a hotel with a 19 year old with the pretence of taking photos, all starting to sound a bit Dahmer-esqe.

Forgive me if this isn’t accurate it is being relayed to me by a younger family member.

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OodieBoogie · 14/01/2023 19:03

Initially I thought he was just a creepy ham faced ninny, but he's much more insidious. Same for that Quirks guy, grim.

HaroldandWilly · 13/01/2023 12:12

TheWristBoundLatexBitch · 13/01/2023 12:02

Looks like he's fully banned now. And it turns out Quirks has done the same as PB, messaging and meeting a young girl!

Indeed. What a hypocrite.

keepareaclean · 13/01/2023 12:05

He will be back. TikTok bans are usually because lots of people report the account, not because TikTok has investigated the person and deemed them unsuitable. Accounts get banned all the time. The only way to 'ban' someone is if it is done legally.

TheWristBoundLatexBitch · 13/01/2023 12:02

Looks like he's fully banned now. And it turns out Quirks has done the same as PB, messaging and meeting a young girl!

iknowwheretheothersockgoes · 11/01/2023 21:04

I can't believe PB has made it to MN.

He's been popping up on my FYP for ages. He makes my skin crawl. He's exactly the kind of person we should warn our children about.

Aside from that, his patronising tone and mannerisms are really annoying. He comes across as a teenager with a really low IQ, trapped in a grown man's body.

OnMyWayToSenility · 11/01/2023 16:43

From what I've seen on TT today he's been trying to access and join school Facebook groups for students!!!!
The head posted about it on Twitter 😱

HaroldandWilly · 11/01/2023 12:59

The 'technically I've done nothing illegal' line he trots out is revolting. Because it implies the only reason he hasn't gone for younger girls is the legality of it. Him revealing text messages between them makes him look worse as well. He could and should have said no, I'm not a professional, this isn't appropriate.

I've read that Grace has gone to the police.

Gerrataere · 11/01/2023 12:48

Whatsthisthing · 11/01/2023 09:32

It was on her (now deleted Instagram story) that they had sex. She’d worded it - he had sex with me

Yes, made me cold inside. He’s spent this whole time trying to say that he only met her to take a few outdoor pictures. The fact he booked an air B and B (not hotel where he’d be spotted), took her back there, was pushing about doing a clothes change on live (when she was obviously deflecting over and over), then was bragging the next day about ‘who knew photo shoots could be so exciting’ - it was all a set up from the moment she messaged him.

How, seriously how, can anyone not see this now for what it was? She wanted some pictures so he booked a private room for them??! And people are still blaming this teenager girl for his actions. This world never changes, it’s horrifying. She’s someone’s daughter for fuck sake, someone’s little girl, now just another case of ‘well she should have known what men are like’. I’m so angry.

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Mizzpah · 11/01/2023 12:40

I know right! Like seeing S Workera can’t be vulnerable because they’re in SW.

Some people really don’t have a clue do they

Whatsthisthing · 11/01/2023 09:32

It was on her (now deleted Instagram story) that they had sex. She’d worded it - he had sex with me

AllThingsServeTheBeam · 10/01/2023 18:54

Whatever019 · 10/01/2023 01:21

So I just want to start by saying I think his Tiktok content is pants, and I have never met him.

BUT he has not "groomed" a 19 year old. She quite obviously is not vulnerable if she's got an Only fans account.

The reason this went viral and is all over everyone's FYP is because the two main instigators were pushing the narrative that the girl in question was a "child". She's an adult.
Even if they ended up having sex that night, neither have broken the law and they are allowed to make those decisions.

I have seen no evidence he has messaged anyone under 16 in a sexual way, I have seen he messaged back a young girl who had messaged him telling him she was unwell. He messaged back hoping she got better soon.

If he was 50 and she was 30, would everyone be obsessed with this? I doubt it. Numerous big celebrities have massive age gaps and nobody bats am eyelid.

Just because YOU don't like something doesn't mean you have the right to ruin someone's life by carrying out a witch hunt.

Fucking hell.

BarkingUpTheWrongTreeAgain · 10/01/2023 12:17

BUT he has not "groomed" a 19 year old. She quite obviously is not vulnerable if she's got an Only fans account.

You really think a 19 year old with mental health problems is not vulnerable in an industry where creepy men seek out women, pay to use women's body's for sexual gratification and who give no care to the well-being of the teenagers they're using?

Trauma, mental health problems and addiction are all common in sex work, that makes a lot of sex workers vulnerable regardless of age but especially ones who have only just entered adulthood and don't have the life experience behind them, and are working in an industry where a very large client base is creeps who only care about their orgasms and many seek out the youngest looking person they can find.

How is that not vulnerable?

Wheelyfembot · 10/01/2023 08:53

oudie · 10/01/2023 07:41

@Whatever019

She quite obviously is not vulnerable if she's got an Only fans account.

This is probably one of the stupidest things I have ever read.

Agreed & they should be thoroughly ashamed of themselves for typing this nonsense.

Gerrataere · 10/01/2023 08:02

oudie · 10/01/2023 07:41

@Whatever019

She quite obviously is not vulnerable if she's got an Only fans account.

This is probably one of the stupidest things I have ever read.

It’s hard to disagree to be honest. The person who wrote it is either immature themselves or one of these who thinks sex work is valid because the person ‘chose’ to do it.

oudie · 10/01/2023 07:41

@Whatever019

She quite obviously is not vulnerable if she's got an Only fans account.

This is probably one of the stupidest things I have ever read.

Gerrataere · 10/01/2023 07:31

She’s a teenage girl. All teenage girls are vulnerable and ones who feel the need to sell their body for money/attention even more so. No parent would think they had done well if this is what their teen was doing at 19, if certainly be extremely concerned about mines mental health and well-being if this is what they chose to do before even reaching full maturity.

HaroldandWilly · 10/01/2023 07:24

@Whatever019 I'd also add that plenty of people with OnlyFans accounts are vulnerable. Just like a hell of a lot of other types of sex workers are. That isn't an indicator that someone is any less vulnerable, usually quite the opposite.

HaroldandWilly · 10/01/2023 07:23

@Whatever019 grooming/coercion/manipulation does not have to be sexual in nature for it to be considered such. An adult man who only adds and messages girls could be considered grooming. It isn't the first time he's been caught out messaging young girls. At the end of the day a 43 year old man met up with a young appearing girl with a 'barely legal' OF account, she is barely 19, also has mental health issues, to take pictures of her. He is not a professional photographer, he doesn't even have a camera. She probably did contact him. She probably did want to boost her following, that does not mean that she isn't vulnerable. A 19 year old teenager putting themselves is which risky situations like this is very clearly vulnerable, you have to be stupid to think otherwise. She is posting pictures of her speeding over 100mph so clearly rational thinking isn't her forte. As the adult with actual life experience, and considering he knows full well what people think about him, he SHOULD have said no to meeting with her. He has bought this on himself and absolutely revels in the attention he gets from being called these names. He is disgusting but I believe he also is vulnerable in some way and is playing with fire.

There is a vast difference between a 50/30 age gap and a 40/19 gap.

Whatever019 · 10/01/2023 01:21

So I just want to start by saying I think his Tiktok content is pants, and I have never met him.

BUT he has not "groomed" a 19 year old. She quite obviously is not vulnerable if she's got an Only fans account.

The reason this went viral and is all over everyone's FYP is because the two main instigators were pushing the narrative that the girl in question was a "child". She's an adult.
Even if they ended up having sex that night, neither have broken the law and they are allowed to make those decisions.

I have seen no evidence he has messaged anyone under 16 in a sexual way, I have seen he messaged back a young girl who had messaged him telling him she was unwell. He messaged back hoping she got better soon.

If he was 50 and she was 30, would everyone be obsessed with this? I doubt it. Numerous big celebrities have massive age gaps and nobody bats am eyelid.

Just because YOU don't like something doesn't mean you have the right to ruin someone's life by carrying out a witch hunt.

HaroldandWilly · 07/01/2023 07:51

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I'm not sure what your point is? Most adults don't think like this no. But preferring to date younger women, and being a man in your 40's, grooming teenagers barely over the age of consent online, is very very different. Which is what this thread is about.

If all men really did just prefer younger women in general though, no relationship would ever last. Being young has nothing to do with being 'going looking'. Which is always subjective anyway.

oudie · 07/01/2023 00:39

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I don't think this at all

Colette95 · 07/01/2023 00:13

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Unicorn2022 · 06/01/2023 20:24

Paul does have a huge amount of fans and supporters, and to be fair this is exactly the type of person I would expect to be his fan

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