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Sons girlfriends comments

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OnPurpleHill · 26/12/2022 14:02

My children have came back from the cities they live for Christmas/New Year as they always do. However my sons girlfriend who lives with us, as they’re saving up for a house, keeps making comments about how busy the house is and how she can’t wait till after new year till things are quiet again.

In her defence she’s saying these comments in a joking sort of way, however I’m absolutely furious. Firstly, I don’t get to see my children that often and I cherish Christmas so much more since they’ve moved out and come back for the holidays I don’t like the idea that they’re an inconvenience.

Secondly, it’s not even her house, if anyone doesn’t have a claim to this house it’s her. AIBU?

OP posts:
HelpMeGetThrough · 26/12/2022 14:15

keeps making comments about how busy the house is and how she can’t wait till after new year till things are quiet again.

That's just begging for the comment "sounds like you're moving out in the new year then."

StreamingCervix · 26/12/2022 14:14

Does she have any family she could be visiting? I think I’d maybe suggest she go and stay with them if she wants a bit of peace and quiet, or she can always go and rent her own place as well if that suits her.

its pretty rude to be complaining when she’s being financed by the op and her family.

drpet49 · 26/12/2022 14:13

She sounds ungrateful. She is living in your house rent free. Maybe start charging her.

Blondlashes · 26/12/2022 14:11

I’d quietly ask her to come and help you and explain while she is helping that you love having your children home. Hopefully then the comments should stop.

Scurryfunge12 · 26/12/2022 14:09

She probably shouldn’t be voicing her opinion so often, it’s a bit rude when you are kindly letting her live in your house, but at the same time she clearly feels overwhelmed by the noise etc at the moment which is understandable given I feel like that sometimes in my own house with my own family.

I can understand it’s annoying for you but I also see her side. Maybe tactfully suggest she gets out of the house for a while for a break and a bit of peace?

Original poster
OnPurpleHill · 26/12/2022 14:09

They don’t pay rent as they’re saving for a deposit and I like her as a person, but I didn’t quite expect a full time lodger when they first started dating, in other relationships my son and his girlfriends have alternated between the houses they spend time in.

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Thedaysthatremain · 26/12/2022 14:08

You are over reacting

mrsmarmalade12 · 26/12/2022 14:06

It sounds like you've got a bigger problem with her and you're using this as the catalyst.

EvenMoreFuriousVexation · 26/12/2022 14:06

She is making jokey comments about there being more people in the house than she's used to (factual) and you're furious? Why?

Are you resenting her living with you? Is there an issue with her and your son not contributing to the household?

DrunkOnHim · 26/12/2022 14:05

She’s not demanding they leave, it sounds like she just prefers a quiet house. I don’t really see the problem. Say something in response like ‘I love having everyone here and will be sad when they all leave’ and she might see it from your point of view. Non issue though if she’s otherwise ok to live with.

StreamingCervix · 26/12/2022 14:05

Oh dear.

how long do you expect your son and his girlfriend will be living with you for while they save? Are they paying rent?

Hankunamatata · 26/12/2022 14:04

She is finding the house being full overwhelming and probably a bit stressed. She is saying it jokingly, give her a break.

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