Husband has emails from Match.com

Probably just junk, and if your email has your full name in it may be where thr name comes from.

Hi OP think of this how old is his email address that match are sending mails too?
I have a match account I made in the last year I think I may have deleted it can’t remember I still don’t get random emails . And match is def something people still use I think it depends what kind of “dating “ you are looking for . ?
Maybe he’s on more maybe he’s looking around ?
Also my ex was up to all sorts I doesn’t know what’s was true and what wasn’t . He had his phone on do not disturb . He wouldn’t let me access it. He would get angry too. I could write a massive list . He too gaslight me even now a year on I can’t believe the muddle I was in being lied to.

My though process now is leave at the first sniff as it’s just the start . No respect or he wouldn’t be doing it . He lying don’t be fooled . If you can’t access his emails or profile then ask for his phone and try on that if he won’t give you his phone that says it all , although you have given him time to cover his tracks now .

I didn't read all of the thread, but there is a small chance that they could be scam emails pretending to be from Match. I get something similar in my hotmail account. I get emails that look as if they are from Match but when you click on the name of the sender then it becomes apparent that it is some kind of a phishing scam as there is a foreign name there in the email address line, but you won't realise that unless you properly click on the name of the sender (but initial appearances are it's from Match or another dating site, or sometimes pretending to be from Hotmail or Apple, etc.)

You’ve acted in haste here. You should have not mentioned it to him, created a fake profile and searched for him on there based on location, then confronted him. Slowly slowly catchy Twat.

Zombie thread, OP hasn’t been on since December 🧟‍♀️

I met my other half on match, I only got e-mails whilst signed up and if it refers to a profile then he had a profile. Sorry.

Sign up and search for people of his age group and within your area to see if you find him

He looked confused and did say that it was spam but then OP said

“I told him to pass me his phone so I could see if it was just spam as I feel I was entitled to look to see if what he was saying was true. There were lots of emails, most of them unopened but they all mentioned him by NAME! For example, Hi , you have two profile views. I couldn’t believe my eyes. I clicked on the link and it did in fact take me to the match.com login page. I told him to login and he claimed there’s nothing for him to login to. I continued to scroll through the emails in an attempt to find a potential email that would show if he had signed up but couldn’t find anything.“

It while she was basically calling him a liar and telling him to login that he said she was crazy and insecure.

It might depend on if op is always suspicious remember we only get one side of the story

why is he calling her crazy if he hasnt done anything though

id just say its spam or someones pretending to be me i wo9ldnt call my oh crazy

Good tip but equally so a lot of websites will say ‘IF’ we already have your email address a password reset will be sent to you, to prevent this sort of thing

Go onto the POF website and attempt to create an account with DH name.

A lot of websites will pop up with ‘email already in use’ if there’s an account.

I had match emails for years after I had stopped using it. I think they make it really hard to fully remove your profile so it looks like they have more users.

This.

I still get them. Also get emails from LinkedIn telling me I've had profile views despite having deleted profile.

The main oddity is if he's claiming never to have signed up. I guess it's possible they got his email from a marketing database.

If he was a good partner with nothing to hide he wouldn’t react nastily and would understand why you were concerned and try to reassure you. Putting his phone on aeroplane mode is a big red flag.

Sorry but this is bullshit. There is no way to tell guilt or innocence by reaction. Just as many cheaters would turn on a charm offensive and be all like “oh babe I’d never do that, you know me, I love you” “you’re the best thing ever to happen in my life, I’d not risk that” blah blah blah. If it were that easy to tell lie from truth, no woman would ever be hoodwinked, con artists would not exist, and politicians would actually do what they said they would.

And aeroplane mode is not a red flag at all. It’s just a way to have silent mode without the screen lighting up with banners, without vibration and saves your battery power. Tons of people use it as their silent mode. I do.

Please don’t just forget about this. If he was a good partner with nothing to hide he wouldn’t react nastily and would understand why you were concerned and try to reassure you. Putting his phone on aeroplane mode is a big red flag. Then add to this the email from match.com 🚩 🚩🚩. I’d insist on looking through his phone. His password for match might be saved on his phone (you know when you log into a website and iPhone let’s you see your passwords, have a look at them and see if he’s saved the log in for match, or any other dodgy sites!)
What were the other apps you found?

I've had these emails (with my name, which is also I my email) and I've 100% never signed up.

Please keep us updated OP

LOL @Courtjobby - Computer Scientist here too - while I quite enjoyed the process of working out what had happened, and knew enough to able to use a VPN to get access to the US site, I couldn't close down the account as I didnt have a US phone number. Interesting that the UK Match.co.uk people helped you - I just got told it was not their problem as they were separate companies.....

I've had a few US company signups with a "version" of my gmail account (which is from the first days of gmail so no chance anyone else had it) not including the dot between my first and second names. I still can't work out how they are verifying that email address with their customer, unless there is an option to do verification via phone only for those companies.....

Fwiw, one of my email addresses was used to set up a Match.com account recently and I was absolutely bombarded with emails for a few days until I could get it shut down. It was really quite upsetting as my first thought was that it was a horrible joke by someone I knew- the email address was one I used to use on LinkedIn. Fortunately the emails had “my” profile photo on, and it wasn’t me, or anything like me. I haven’t RTWT, sorry, so I don’t know if you’ve updated with more evidence, but this clearly does happen to innocent people occasionally because it happened to me.

exactly what happened to me @ClaireEclair 🤷🏼‍♀️

Calling someone ‘crazy’ and ‘insecure’ for reacting to something they are actually doing, but using those words to deny doing it - is a form of gaslighting.

I was thinking that if he's not read them he's obvs not looking so not active but then I realised that he will get the email but will also be in the match.com inbox where he could read them there.

Did you mean to quote me on this?

Somebody on this thread basically accused me of falling for phishing from match.com.

I didn't it was a genuine account that was set up with my email address, I spoke to customer service in UK and then they sent me to the US customer service where it was sorted out for a time.

I am a computer scientist.

Yes I get emails from LinkedIn saying people have been looking at my profile. I’m not on there.