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Accidentally found engagement ring

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lockdownbabyx · 18/11/2022 09:29

I feel SO bad! Was looking for a pair of plain black socks in my partners sock drawer ( I prefer his 😂) and found an engagement ring in there. I was in complete shock. My sister called me about 2 mins after and I told her my discovery and she knew all about it as she has helped him pick it, plan it etc. i feel so so bad, I love surprises and now feel like I've ruined it for both of us. I wouldn't have expected it at all so it would have been a complete surprise too.
I'm not going to tell my partner I know, but I can't help but feel awful now 😔. I'm worried my reaction when the time comes will give it away and ruin his moment for him. Anyone else ever done this?

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matthancockscareer · 18/11/2022 09:53

Did you like it? (misses point of thread!)

ny20005 · 18/11/2022 09:53

I wouldn't tell him. He's gone to a lot of effort & you'll just burst his bubble

Tell him later - maybe years later lol

Hungrycaterpillarsmummy · 18/11/2022 09:51

Buy a bottle of champers and tell him you found it :)

Luredbyapomegranate · 18/11/2022 09:51

I wouldn’t tell him, but I am decent at acting. (I would probably fess up at some point, but I’d want him to have his moment.) If you aren’t you might need to.

I get you are disappointed you found out about the surprise, but life is like that, so let it go. It’s also a fun story to tell your grandkids.

Hungrycaterpillarsmummy · 18/11/2022 09:50

I am too honest not to speak up if I discover things so I too would tell him.
But you know you and him best. What did your sister advise?

How exciting!

UndisclosedBlackPudding · 18/11/2022 09:49

Well if he knows you like to wear his socks he was a bit of a doofus hiding it in the sock drawer! I'd tell him and laugh it off. Moments are overrated - it's getting married that counts.

Wishimaywishimight · 18/11/2022 09:46

To be honest I would tell him. You will feel foolish and dishonest faking a surprised reaction which he may or may notice, even if he doesn't realise you already know you will feel like the whole scenario is fake (which it will be!) and you won't really enjoy the moment. Just say you were looking for socks and found a wonderful surprise. Not the engagement he had planned but it will still be lovely.

You also need to show us the ring when you get it 😀

Poppyblush · 18/11/2022 09:37

No, don’t tell him! If he spoke to your sister he’s obviously put a lot of thought into this so don’t let on before he asks you. Tell him later and then it can be a joke. Put it out of your mind and just wait for the surprise because when it happens, emotions will overtake what you’re thinking now.

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