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Accidentally found engagement ring

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lockdownbabyx · 18/11/2022 09:29

I feel SO bad! Was looking for a pair of plain black socks in my partners sock drawer ( I prefer his 😂) and found an engagement ring in there. I was in complete shock. My sister called me about 2 mins after and I told her my discovery and she knew all about it as she has helped him pick it, plan it etc. i feel so so bad, I love surprises and now feel like I've ruined it for both of us. I wouldn't have expected it at all so it would have been a complete surprise too.
I'm not going to tell my partner I know, but I can't help but feel awful now 😔. I'm worried my reaction when the time comes will give it away and ruin his moment for him. Anyone else ever done this?

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Sitdownnigel · 18/11/2022 10:19

Absolutely don’t tell him!! You don’t know when he’s planning on proposing. It might be tonight and it might be next year!
If you’re worried you won’t be able to be convincingly surprised, you can tell him, honestly, that you had a feeling he was going to propose soon.

Tomatoblush · 18/11/2022 10:15

Don’t tell him it’ll totally ruin his surprise. He’s put a lot of thought in by bringing your sister in and everything.
it’ll still be a beautiful moment when he proposes.
Im usually one for being honest but this is different.
Don't take it away from him.

TheMatlockMangle · 18/11/2022 10:15

Why would you tell him?! Why spoil it for the both of you? I would have just put it back and not said a word to a soul.

TurtleTriplets · 18/11/2022 10:13

Don't tell him. It will still be a surprise when he proposes because you don't know when or how he is going to do it so you won't have to pretend anything.

FlipFlop0 · 18/11/2022 10:13

I'd tell him, I'm not good at lying and it would hurt to know that I'd be faking a reaction. If he finds out in the future he might be hurt to know it was a fake reaction. Alternatively, he may fully understand that you tried to protect his feelings and not burst his bubble x

LadyApplejack · 18/11/2022 10:11

Ohhh I wouldn't tell him and ruin all his effort! He won't be that switched on and will just want the yes! Time to practice your best "that is brand new information" act!

Congratulations!

boredOf · 18/11/2022 10:11

Nooooo don't tell him. People have weird reactions with proposals so you can get away with acting. How disappointing to not knowing/seeing what he does.

Definitely do not tell him.

Toddlerteaplease · 18/11/2022 10:10

Grumpyoldpersonwithcats · 18/11/2022 10:10

Assuming you are going to accept.
Say nothing but leave a note in the box saying 'Yes please'

I like that idea!

Grumpyoldpersonwithcats · 18/11/2022 10:10

Assuming you are going to accept.
Say nothing but leave a note in the box saying 'Yes please'

SmileyClare · 18/11/2022 10:09

Did you open the box? Or try the ring on?
Bit naughty, you could have just put it back 🤣but no point beating yourself up.

LaurieFairyCake · 18/11/2022 10:08

Also want to know if the ring is nice ...

whattodo1975 · 18/11/2022 10:05

When gets home throw it at him and say "which bitch does this belong to? How long has it been going on?".

or dont tell him you've found it and wait for the proposal. Congrats!

SmileyClare · 18/11/2022 10:05

It’ll still be a surprise, you don’t know when he’ll propose. Nothing’s ruined, you don’t have to fake anything, just react to the fact he’s proposing, enjoy the moment.

You must have had some idea you’d get engaged, haven’t you talked about it?

Did you like the ring? 😬

Byfleet · 18/11/2022 10:02

Of course you shouldn’t tell him! He has put a lot of thought and effort into planning a lovely surprise for you. Why would you spoil that?

Santagiveyoursackawash · 18/11/2022 10:02

I chose my own ring. I didn't know when dp would propose properly (his request). One NYE he popped to the car and came back with a bouquet. I noticed the box in his pocket.. He bottled it!! I never let on I saw it. He did propose on January 7th! Keep shtum forever imo!

Ohheythereitsme · 18/11/2022 10:00

I accidentally stumbled on mine as well. Just pretended I didn’t know 😂

Glitterblue · 18/11/2022 09:59

I did this with my ex. I didn't tell him because I couldn't bring myself to ruin it for him. I didn't know when he planned to propose and in the end he did it in such a lovely way with champagne in a bucket of ice, and rose petals etc, it was a surprise coming home to all that and I wasn't expecting anything to happen that day, so I didn't have to do any acting!

Itsnotaferret · 18/11/2022 09:59

You have to tell him pp said buy a bottle of fizz, and cook him a nice meal or order a takeaway and tell him over dinner. The guilt qould eat me up if I didn't come clean.

Put some socks on the table for effect !

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Whyareblokesonhere · 18/11/2022 09:58

You could have some fun with him,

Swap it for a really really cheap plastic one, like a kids toy

Move it and hide it elsewhere

Swap it for a haribo ring and then make a comment about how tacky it would be if someone did that

Show him a picture of a completely different ring and say you'd love something like that

Or go the other way and get in there first and propose to him

ChessieDarling · 18/11/2022 09:57

Aw don’t tell him!! I’m normally super honest but you’ll be still be so happy and excited when asked, it won’t matter that you have already seen the ring!

Dontaskdontget · 18/11/2022 09:56

You’ll forever remember the moment you get engaged. If he thinks it’s a big surprise and then you’re fake acting, that’s a bit of a weird memory to have, feels dishonest.

I’d tell him, and deal with it. 🙈 That way whatever proposal happens, it’s a genuine moment for both of you.

And buy yourself some better socks! From the mens department, the shops make mens socks much better quality 🙄

JorisBonson · 18/11/2022 09:56

This happened to me! I didn't tell him. We're also divorced now so I suppose it didn't matter 🤣

purplerainlondon · 18/11/2022 09:55

Don't tell him!

Let him have his moment and then you can tell him afterwards and make light of it!

Ljc1985 · 18/11/2022 09:54

Don't tell him!!!!!!!

He clearly planned it so try super hard to be surprised!