Accidentally found engagement ring

Found the box in his back pack while looking for something he asked me to find when we were travelling. He kept me hanging for another 2 days.....

(add on to that the very mysterious will to go and buy tampons for me before we departed (COllecting the ring))

Don't worry. My husband ordered ring and parcel was left with our neigbour- he brought it to me 😂I knew it was the ring. My husband blew me off for a few months; I forgot all about it and then he surprised me with proposal. Tell him, so he can postpone the engagement a bit 😂Although now you can get suspicious every time he takes you out, so it's bit more difficult to him.

@ItsJustLittleOldMe a friend of mine had similar, but it was a note on his phone, with 'propose to X?' on it. We still laugh about the question mark (a lovely wedding and 1.5 children on)

Maybe he put it there on purpose so you’d find it and that’s your proposal?🤔😁

Don't worry about your reaction. I guessed to the minute when my DH would propose (it was a special day and time to us, and we had been discussing marriage, and had just bought our first home together).

But honestly, in the moment - it was so wonderful and overwhelming, you will definitely have a reaction. Enjoy it! ❤

Why did you tell your sister!? You should have just pretended not to find it and then wait for the proposal.

You'll have to tell him as at some point it will come out that you found it and he will be upset you never mentioned it.

I'd go for this as a 1st choice.
You still won't be expecting it. He might go the whole hog with The Proposal.
He might ask you over a cup of tea during an ad break on Tv (if he's nervous).

It will still be a Surprise. You won't have to 'act' much probably.
(tho now your sister knows you found it it might all come out in the wash eventually? will he be more upset if you fess up now or later? only you know..)

Go to M and S and buy some men's socks then you won't need to go through his drawers! He's the one I feel sorry for, he seems to be a good person.

He has not asked you yet. You have only found intent!

Believe me, you will actually be shocked when he does.

He could still take it back, he could be hiding it for a friend etc (I know he is not but... you get my drift)

My husband went to a lot of effort to surprise me with a birthday gift 10 years ago. I found out about it accidentally by reading something he had forgotten to put away.
I never told him and still haven't. His face when he 'surprised' me was amazing. To this day (around birthdays etc) he will talk about how he'll never be able to pull off a surprise like that again.
If you're able to see it through, I wouldn't tell him. A lot of the joy for him will be surprising you.

I did exactly the same thing OP! I only told one friend, and husband will never ever know. He is rubbish at putting together surprises and things and had gone to a whole load of effort (I found not just the ring, but a whole presentation thing) and would just be really deflated to find out that I'd had a heads-up. I went along with it all on the evening, and it isn't as though it wasn't a wonderful emotional thing nonetheless. I do sometimes wonder how it would have felt if it had been a surprise, but I'm a bit of a control freak and am not heartbroken to have known in advance.

You are going to have to do your best Phoebe Buffay impression "oh my god this is totally new information" when he asks 🤣🤣. You can practice your reaction, maybe drop to the floor and sob like Rylan did that time 🤣 (obviously don't tell him).

Don’t tell him (at least not until after) and to be honest you’ll probably still feel a lot of genuine ‘in the moment’ emotion anyway and that won’t be fake.

I'd not tell him but maybe fess up after the wedding 😉then it can just be a funny story.

I knew a proposal was coming and it didn’t stop the moment being a total and utter surprise as in I wasn’t expecting it at that moment. If he’s planned how he will do it you haven’t ruined that! I wouldn’t say anything.

Awww don't tell him! I did this, I accidentally found the ring box when I was cleaning some stuff out of a gym bag to do washing. I felt bad, but kept quiet, it was a bit nerve wracking wondering when and waiting and trying to act normally at certain times when internally I was wondering.....is it going to be now?! BUT we have now been married for 13 years, he still doesn't know I found the ring before hand, he got to propose just the way he imagined and it was still every bit as exciting and lovely in the moment.

I was cleaning up at my boyfriends house and while I was tidying I saw a notepad with a to do list and it said buy engagement ring and had a tick next to it… I have never told him I saw that and it was still a surprise when he proposed so I say don’t tell him. Don’t ruin all the hard work he’s put into it, it will still be special

I would definitely NOT tell him! Let the surprise happen! Your emotions will take over at the time

How exciting for you.

Just pretend you didn’t see it and keep it a surprise - you still don’t know when he will pop the question, so there is some element of surprise left.

Like others have said you don't know when or how he will propose, so that is the surprise! I already knew what my ring would be as it's my mother's, we'd talked about it so I knew it was on the cards.

I came home from work one day and he'd filled the living room with candles and was down on one knee - THAT was the surprise. You tell him now, you will piss on his chips, and he will feel deflated. He will also feel a lot of pressure to propose ASAP and may scrap whatever nice thing he had planned for you and just give you the ring then and there! So you'll not only have ruined his surprise, you'll have ruined your own proposal.

Tell him some time after if you must, and tell your sister not to blab to him either.

I already know what DH is getting me for Christmas, unfortunately I was checking our spending on the banking app and saw it. I won't be saying a word, especially since his present to me last year was delivered in a clear plastic bag dumped on the doorstep, and I got home before he did. He felt awful that I wouldn't get to open a surprise for Christmas and I don't want it repeated for the 2nd time in a row.

Agree . There’s no need to stage a theatrical shocked reaction. Just looking happy (and saying yes) is all genuine. No need for shaking and crying if it doesn’t feel natural 😬

I think I’d rather know actually. At least now you can plan something heartfelt to say in reply?
And you can make sure your nails look good.

Don't tell him. It'll still be a surprise if you don't know when he has planned to do it, enjoy the anticipation and the moment when it comes!

You can tell him afterwards that you found a "clue", but everything else can still be a surprise.

Would you like to get engaged, would you like to get married?

If yes, to all, would you enjoy a proposal? Or would you prefer to decide to get married together?

Would you like to have and wear an engagement ring as a public sign of this? Would you be wanting a wedding ring too? Would he wear an engagement ring? Would he wear a wedding ring?

if you want to get engaged, and married, to him, and would like a big proposal, and want to wear an engagement ring, and don’t mind that he won’t be wearing one, I would do nothing and let him do the proposal thing if that’s what you want.

If you don’t want to get engaged, or married, or don’t want to be proposed to or wear a ring as a public sign to a commitment he won’t share, then I would tell him.

if you want to get married but don’t want to wear a ring or you’d like it to be equal, I’d buy him a ring back so they when he brings out his you can bring out yours, for him. Then he can have a ring too and it would be fun.

Sorry but I’m picturing how funny it would be if you’d had a sneaky try on of the ring and couldn’t get it back off. Then hours later when he returns from work you’re sitting on the kitchen floor with a bottle of cooking oil, a tub of butter and every other imaginable slippery substance you could find 😂