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Accidentally found engagement ring

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lockdownbabyx · 18/11/2022 09:29

I feel SO bad! Was looking for a pair of plain black socks in my partners sock drawer ( I prefer his 😂) and found an engagement ring in there. I was in complete shock. My sister called me about 2 mins after and I told her my discovery and she knew all about it as she has helped him pick it, plan it etc. i feel so so bad, I love surprises and now feel like I've ruined it for both of us. I wouldn't have expected it at all so it would have been a complete surprise too.
I'm not going to tell my partner I know, but I can't help but feel awful now 😔. I'm worried my reaction when the time comes will give it away and ruin his moment for him. Anyone else ever done this?

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Pompomsfantastix · 18/11/2022 11:13

I knew my husband was going to propose and just acted surprised! Felt awkward in the run-up though, bless him!

skippy67 · 18/11/2022 11:12

This was me 19 years ago! I never told him 😅

rainbowstardrops · 18/11/2022 11:11

Well he was a bit of a numpty 'hiding' it in his underwear drawer if he knows you go in there! He could have left it with your sister as she's in on it.
I wouldn't tell him until after the proposal though.

SmileyClare · 18/11/2022 11:10

carefulcalculator · 18/11/2022 10:57

I would tell him, because otherwise you have to carry that lie forever and it is part of your unique story.

If you’re in a Disney film maybe.

MissLucyEyelesbarrow · 18/11/2022 11:06

WhatHappenedToYoyos · 18/11/2022 10:42

Why did you tell your sister!? You should have just pretended not to find it and then wait for the proposal.

You'll have to tell him as at some point it will come out that you found it and he will be upset you never mentioned it.

Yes - telling your sister was totally daft.

I think you have to tell your BF because, otherwise, at some point your DSis may let it slip that you knew. Then he'll be so gutted.

Personally, I wouldn't tell him now. Let him go ahead with the actual proposal, which will still be a surprise, but tell him afterwards that you had found the ring.

CatBumJuice · 18/11/2022 11:06

So many men who are so crap at hiding things!

vitahelp · 18/11/2022 11:06

If you didn't see the ring itself (assuming you didn't open the box) and don't know when/how he is going to do it then there will still be lots of elements of surprise left. The problem now is that you'll feel really impatient as you know it is imminent!

I'm also thinking surely it wouldn't have been a complete surprise anyway since I imagine you have discussed getting married to some extent.

Enjoy your proposal and hope you aren't waiting too long 😊

SmileyClare · 18/11/2022 11:04

QuimReaper · 18/11/2022 10:42

@ItsJustLittleOldMe a friend of mine had similar, but it was a note on his phone, with 'propose to X?' on it. We still laugh about the question mark (a lovely wedding and 1.5 children on) Grin

That made laugh.

Im all for To Do lists but who forgets to propose?
Would he have got in bed that night and thought Oh bugger! I knew there was something! I was going to propose today..if only I’d put a reminder on my phone
😂

carefulcalculator · 18/11/2022 11:04

Cakecakecheese · 18/11/2022 11:00

Forever? Really? She could just say afterwards or further down the line that she found it. Proposing can be quite a stressful thing, my friend had a comedy mix up involving a dish sponge, so telling him beforehand could mess up whatever he has planned.

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What - tell him later that the big emotional moment he thought he was having was staged? That would be very weird.

Want2beme · 18/11/2022 11:03

Don't forget to show us the ring when it's happeenedGrin

Mumto3thatsme · 18/11/2022 11:03

Turn it around, you propose and surprise him

BobbyBobbyBobby · 18/11/2022 11:03

It depends on whether your sister is likely to slip now or in the future to him that you found the ring and faked the surprise.

Cakecakecheese · 18/11/2022 11:00

carefulcalculator · 18/11/2022 10:57

I would tell him, because otherwise you have to carry that lie forever and it is part of your unique story.

Forever? Really? She could just say afterwards or further down the line that she found it. Proposing can be quite a stressful thing, my friend had a comedy mix up involving a dish sponge, so telling him beforehand could mess up whatever he has planned.

RandomMan2 · 18/11/2022 11:00

Don't tell him it will take the wind from his sails. Tell him a bit after the event, which sounds like its likely to happen at Christmas.

CambsAlways · 18/11/2022 10:59

I wouldn’t tell him you will spoil his moment! Oh dear bad move him putting in a draw he knows you wear he socks so you could find it! You can tell him months later or whenever

Fenella123 · 18/11/2022 10:58

Hope he doesn't take too long, you'll go mad!

You can always tell him after - it's not a bad thing, after all - you found the ring and you were delighted, and you trusted his judgement enough to wait for the proposal - these are all good things about how you feel about him and your relationship!

carefulcalculator · 18/11/2022 10:57

I would tell him, because otherwise you have to carry that lie forever and it is part of your unique story.

Cakecakecheese · 18/11/2022 10:57

I knew my partner was going to propose to me as he'd done a spontaneous drunken one and then said he was going to do it properly. He kept me waiting for about 3 weeks! But when it happened I wasn't expecting it, like there wasn't any 'it's happening today' vibes. So I'd say keep quiet and try not to shout 'YES' when he's actually just picking something up from the floor!

ScarlettnotOHara · 18/11/2022 10:55

I over heard my ex husband telling his friend he had bought me an engagement ring , I told him and it ruined the surprise. Don’t tell him !!

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lockdownbabyx · 18/11/2022 10:53

IveDroppedMiBiscuitInMiBrew · 18/11/2022 10:38

You are going to have to do your best Phoebe Buffay impression "oh my god this is totally new information" when he asks 🤣🤣. You can practice your reaction, maybe drop to the floor and sob like Rylan did that time 🤣 (obviously don't tell him).

@IveDroppedMiBiscuitInMiBrew absolutely loved this comment!! we are both huge friends fans so it would actually be really funny 😂

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ifonly4 · 18/11/2022 10:48

This happened to me. Our airing cupboard had a large storage area at the side and one day I decided to give it a clear out. I've never told DH. I

t was still a surprise when DH proposed,. A couple of days later he left a note and cuddly toy outside flat, then some nice music to play. I thought that was it, he was about to propose - no. Instead he did it a couple of weeks later in front of the crown jewels - security were not amused! I was completely surprised at the craziness of the venue.

Echobelly · 18/11/2022 10:47

Yeah, I agree it will still be a surprise when it happens! DH and I had discussed marriage in a, way that meant I knew something was coming, and he probably wanted to do the proposing. Surprised us both when it happened!

HeldAtHunPoint · 18/11/2022 10:47

Grumpyoldpersonwithcats · 18/11/2022 10:10

Assuming you are going to accept.
Say nothing but leave a note in the box saying 'Yes please'

I love this idea!! 😁
Please come back and update us when it happens OP.

losingit31 · 18/11/2022 10:46

DH booked a surprise trip to Florence for my 50th. I found out months before because I went on my BA app for flight info and in came up in my upcoming trips. I told DD and my parents that I knew but we all agreed that I wouldn't tell him I'd found out.

Moveoverdarlin · 18/11/2022 10:45

Don’t tell him! You’ll ruin it for him. You shouldn’t have told your sister either. You still don’t know when or what he has planned so just button it.

I saw in my husbands Google history that he’d been looking at engagement rings in around August time. He didn’t propose until December on a surprise trip to New York, so there’s still loads you might not know about. Keep schtum.

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