Accidentally found engagement ring

This! Make it special.

This. Tell your sister she MUST NOT tell him you know and just pretend that it is a lovely surprise when you do get it. He will be sooo disappointed if you let on that you found it. The 'surprise' will be much more ruined for him than it is for you. All the excitement of the planning and him looking forward to you being surprised taken away in the blink of an eye. Please don't do that to him. He will be so deflated he will never be able to look back on the day he proposed without the same sense of disappointment and dismay that he felt when he discovered you already knew. In a year or three, you can tell him about it and both have a laugh if you must - but not now, and not for a long time

If you'd not told your sister then id have said to style it out and never say, but as you have...id have to tell him. He would be far more hurt in the long term by that if it ever came out down the line than if you tell him now.

Please don’t tell him. I understand it has been a bit “ruined” for you as you like a surprise but you found out by accident. Don’t purposely ruin it for him too.

@SmileyClare I know, it's hilarious isn't it, especially the PP whose boyfriend ticked off 'buy engagement ring' in his notebook My friend's husband's list was a list of things to do that year, I presume being an incredibly practically-minded fellow he was making financial plans - such a romantic spirit...!

Take some acting lessons and let him have his lovely moment. I'm sure when he does it you will feel a huge amount of emotion, regardless of whether it wasn't a surprise.

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I think you should propose to him. That way he won't feel let down by not being able to surprise you.

Why do women go snooping through drawers, phones, 'accidentally' of course?

When I was coming up for retirement OH was doing some DIY in the house and asked me to get him something from the garage, told me roughly where it was, as I moved stuff I found a lovely steamer chair boxed up which I had longed for and was obviously going to be a retirement present, never said anything though. and it was there in the garden when I came home from work for the last time!

Do not marry a man who lets you put all the clean washing away.

I actually really like this idea too.

@Mumto3thatsme I was literally thinking of how much I would hate to be expecting a proposal but be kept waiting that I would end up doing that when I read your post.

Also love the idea of leaving the ‘yes please’ note with the ring. That tells him you found it but he doesn’t have to reply straight away and can still propose as he planned.

I was fully expecting my now husband to propose when we sent to Sydney for New Years Eve, but I didn’t expect the timing of the proposal. He still managed to surprise me.

My mind is boggling as I wonder where he pulled the ring out of !

Brilliant! 😂

@lockdownbabyx Hopefully the ring is for you! And it's not some Emma Thompson from Love Actually bullshit! (It won't be!) Congratulations!!! 🤗

Agree!!!

Don't tell him! I don't see how this is much different to knowing that your DP is going to propose at some point, and also knowing that you're going to choose your own ring. It's not just about the ring, it's about the asking. The asking is so much more important. He needs to do it in his own time, and the way that he does it will be special. Don't crash about ruining that moment before it's even happened. Keep quiet and enjoy the anticipation.

DP played me a blinder. I was convinced he was going to propose on my birthday. We had talked about getting married and he had even taken me to the jewelry quarter to look at rings 4 weeks before. He booked an amazing hotel, we went to one of my fave places (he didn't do it there), we had afternoon tea (he didn't do it there), we went up a tower (he didn't do it there). My birthday ended. No proposal. We went to the beach the next day, he didn't do it there either so I glumly thought 'Oh well, must have changed his mind'. We went back to the hotel that afternoon and did the deed and all of a sudden, he runs across the room (stark bollock naked, as was I) pulls out the ring and proposed. He said he was waiting until it felt right to him. So now when anyone asks about how he proposed I have to be very very vague

Just to warn you OP, you are in for a few weeks or months of guessing when it will be!

I chose my own ring and then my husband choose when and where to ask me :) I knew it was coming but it was still a surprise when he actually asked me and it was still the most special moment <3

It can still be a surprise! :)

Don't tell him you found it. He went to a lot of trouble getting your sister onside to ensure you will love the ring. Let him have his moment. He is probably planning to propose over Xmas. Just looked surprised open eyes wide and be speechless. Ask him how did he know you would love that style of ring. Let him have his excitement at roping your sister in.

😂Love it.

I'm glad you're positive about this but noone should ever propose as a Complete surprise, surely couples will have already communicated a marriage in their future? Its a huge life changing financial decision and of course it will impact on your lifestyle/ personal autonomy, no matter how you think. Legally it's a big step.

Don’t tell him.

Don’t tell him - let him have his moment.

However, you could amuse yourself by saying, “oh, do you mind if grab some of your socks, mins are all in the wash’ or similar. And then watch him panic 😂

It's hardly 'staged' 🙄 she still has no idea how or when it will happen and she'll very likely still find the moment emotional.

😆