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Bonfire night!

85 replies

purfectpuss · 05/11/2022 22:47

AIBU to think that complaining about the noise is ridiculous. My facebook feed is full of people moaning:

"It's too loud, it's affecting my elderly mum and her health condition"
"I can't hear the telly..."
"the cat's hiding"
"how can people afford fireworks- we're in a cost of living crisis?"

Really...?

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WhiteFire · 06/11/2022 00:13

The local organised displays are far louder and longer than my little box of fireworks in the back garden.

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 06/11/2022 00:08

Ask anyone who works in A&E this time of year.. huge influx of kids with firework injuries. No need for it at all.

That’s what I mean - keep it to organised displays and this shouldn’t happen

unwillingantisocial · 06/11/2022 00:05

In fact we’ve got the opposite on Facebook here at the moment. People posting to thank others for their ‘amazing’ displays as they really enjoyed them. Although I suspect it’s really just to goad the usual ones into complaining about them.

theyalsoserve · 06/11/2022 00:04

I'm fine with public fireworks one or two nights depending on when the holiday falls (despite having my own reac from childhood). I do marvel every year that they're allowed for private use; they are very dangerous. Do people not realise? Every year it astounds me, and every year tonight we get ambulances

unwillingantisocial · 06/11/2022 00:03

I heard many many more than I usually do on the 5th tonight. I was surprised because the people letting them off are probably the same ones who will be complaining that they can’t put a tenner in their meter any day now.

By around 8pm my kids (who love a display) had had enough and put headphones on to drown them out a bit.

Totally agree there’s no point complaining on SM.

MissMaple82 · 05/11/2022 23:59

YABU - they are annoying as fuck, and it's not just bonfire night! It goes on and on... its ANNOYING not mention TERRIFYING for animals. Do you only care about yourself?

Caramelsmadfuzzytail · 05/11/2022 23:59

I have no issues with bonfire night being on 5th November, I have no issues with it being on the weekend nearest, if the 5th is during the week.
I think that organised fireworks should be allowed and that's it. They are advertised so people are able to sort out help etc.
I dont think loud fireworks should be allowed anywhere.
I'm fortunate, none of my cats have been worried about them, I even had one cat that used to watch them.
Having fireworks happen for the entire month (which has happened) is not on.
I would imagine that ptsd sufferers know that they need to be prepared for November and hopefully have things in place to help. And they wouldn't want people to stop doing stuff, just because of their troubles.
After that date, all bets are off and people have every right to complain.

pinkpotatoez · 05/11/2022 23:58

I'm convinced people are just miserable and want to stay miserable. Life is dull enough why make it even more dull by moaning about festivities. I understand the argument about those suffering PTSD, however I'm talking about just the general moaners that complain about EVERYTHING, it's boring reading it on SM every time something slightly fun comes around each year.

Trinity65 · 05/11/2022 23:57

Kite22 · 05/11/2022 23:44

It isn't traditional to have such noise though.

Fireworks have got bigger and louder over the years and decades.

I love going to a bonfire. I enjoy watching fireworks - but you can do that without the volume of noise fireworks have now.

Your comments about people with PTSD are shameful though.

I agree with this
I was of the age to enjoy and appreciate the magic of them between C1970 and 1975 or so.
Loved it. Over to Nan's (who had a garden whereas we did not), small bonfire and a box of fireworks. And a jacket potato.
They were not as noisy as now.
Tonight some were actually screaming and a few created huge flashes in the sky

Formerpupil · 05/11/2022 23:52

On the one hand I can see your point that it’s just one night (in theory) and it’s nothing new so we should all expect it. But I do agree with other posters, they seem to get louder every year and more people seem to be setting them off in residential areas.

My issue is less the noise and more that they turn people feral. There’s two areas of the city I’m in basically shut down tonight with residents asked not to leave their homes as the police attempt to deal with hundreds of teenagers out running riot, throwing fireworks at cars etc. You also get the annual psychopaths who think it’s funny to strap fireworks to animals.

They just shouldn’t be sold to the general public, keep them for organised displays at set times.

Nat6999 · 05/11/2022 23:50

I hate bonfire night & fireworks, always have from being a child, it must be an autism thing.

Kite22 · 05/11/2022 23:44

purfectpuss · 05/11/2022 23:27

It's one night (in theory) and I understand how annoying it is when it's going on for weeks, but complaining about it actually on the 5th of November...?

Do people really think think that a traditional festival shouldn't take place anymore because it triggers war veterans, or other similar arguments?

It isn't traditional to have such noise though.

Fireworks have got bigger and louder over the years and decades.

I love going to a bonfire. I enjoy watching fireworks - but you can do that without the volume of noise fireworks have now.

Your comments about people with PTSD are shameful though.

Snugglemonkey · 05/11/2022 23:41

XenoBitch · 05/11/2022 23:22

Ask anyone who works in A&E this time of year.. huge influx of kids with firework injuries. No need for it at all.

There would not be the same scope for injury if it was limited to organised displays though.

firesideglow · 05/11/2022 23:39

Your comment about triggering war veterans is shameful. Yes actually I do think this relatively modern 'tradition' of the average Joe Bloggs setting off explosives should be banned due to numerous reasons, including protecting people traumatised by war.

firesideglow · 05/11/2022 23:36

I like a well done, organised, public firework display. I cannot stand the wankers setting them off as soon as it gets dark from mid October till mid January. Usually until about midnight any day of the week. I don't complain on social media. My cats don't like them but they're not that fussed after a while. Kids always sleep through.
However, I find it utterly ridiculous that any one over 18 can go into a shop, buy explosives and let them off in the street/gardens without any safety training or a licence. The damage to buildings/houses/trees/natural habitats round where I am over the last few years, due to fireworks, has been astronomical.

NowWhatBipolar · 05/11/2022 23:34

purfectpuss · 05/11/2022 23:27

It's one night (in theory) and I understand how annoying it is when it's going on for weeks, but complaining about it actually on the 5th of November...?

Do people really think think that a traditional festival shouldn't take place anymore because it triggers war veterans, or other similar arguments?

I was with you until this point. Even voted YANBU. But I think it's a bit shitty to not care about people with PTSD.
It's bonfire night not firework night.
Pretty sure they didn't set off fireworks when they did Guy Fawkes in.
It's not "traditional" to blow up the sky with fireworks that are more sound than light, even on 5th November, it's just how we currently celebrate it in British culture atm.

Discovereads · 05/11/2022 23:29

I really enjoy the fireworks as does my DH. We’re both veterans and it doesn’t trigger our PTSD as believe it or not, fireworks don’t sound anything like gunfire or mortar rounds. 🤨

purfectpuss · 05/11/2022 23:27

It's one night (in theory) and I understand how annoying it is when it's going on for weeks, but complaining about it actually on the 5th of November...?

Do people really think think that a traditional festival shouldn't take place anymore because it triggers war veterans, or other similar arguments?

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itsnotmeitsu · 05/11/2022 23:27

@Junipercrumble > I'm of the same mind as you. And why does there have to be such loud bangs from fireworks, when they would still be enjoyable with the lights/sparks and noises but with quieter bangs? If you're not taking part in the displays, and you've got a terrified pet, you're experience is all about the massive bangs.

Shouldawouldacoulda30 · 05/11/2022 23:27

Tonight my doggie has been lying under a blanket with strictly on and has been fine. Her main issue has been the weather !

user1471505494 · 05/11/2022 23:26

I hate it. I end up being outside trying to make sure my ponies aren’t panicking too much. The re is nothing I can do to deaden the noise from them. The idiots over the road let them off at all hours and I’m sick of it

Rosebel · 05/11/2022 23:24

I don't complain on fb etc because there's absolutely no point. I do hate them though as they are a huge trigger for my autistic DD.
If it was one night it would be easier to deal with but it goes on for days and days. Like I said no point complaining because people will continue to do it anyway.

allboysherebutme · 05/11/2022 23:23

I don't like loud noises, wish they would make ones with no noise, like it Japan. It frightens animals, wakes up babies and fills the air with smog, I think they should not be sold to the public only used in displays.
It's getting late now and someone in my street is still letting them off. X

FatAgainItsLettuceTime · 05/11/2022 23:22

I agree with you, it's not worth complaining on social media about it.....but, why do people buy the very loudest fireworks for home displays.

I went to a massive professional display today and it was no where near as loud as the 10 minute disorganised, poxy ones that are still going off now in neighbours gardens.

XenoBitch · 05/11/2022 23:22

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 05/11/2022 23:19

I really enjoy fireworks. But I do think they should probably be limited to one day each for Bonfire Night, Diwali and New Year, and then only organised displays. It’s really dangerous to set of your own, and this would limit the adverse affects on the groups who are affected badly by them.

Ask anyone who works in A&E this time of year.. huge influx of kids with firework injuries. No need for it at all.