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Flying when fat - help!

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FattyAirways · 10/09/2022 14:41

I'm due to fly soon and i'm overweight quite significantly. I have lost some weight but won't lose enough to feel confident on the plane by time I go. Has anyone recently flew who is overweight who can offer words of reassurance?

What has made me even more nervous is that I anticipated it might be a quiet flight (early evening) and I have just seen that two people have booked the seats next to mine despite there being a number of seats that are in the lines of three still vacant. Why oh why would anyone do that? They're not even the premium economy seats!

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BrokenMatress · 10/09/2022 17:24

Aprilx · 10/09/2022 15:11

You can’t book two seats on a flight.

Yes you can- you book a 2nd seat it is cheaper as there is no air passenger duty.

rookiemere · 10/09/2022 17:19

It is possible to buy an extra seat with Ryanair for exactly these circumstances:help.ryanair.com/hc/en-gb/articles/360017825038-Extra-Seats

BlooberryBiskits · 10/09/2022 17:09

FattyAirways · 10/09/2022 16:28

I didn't mean it in a horrible way, just imagine if another overweight person is sat next to me and our hips or side fat are touching!

^ hi OP - as long as you prebook a window (or preferably aisle) seat I think this is v unlikely

I fly several times a year: at my largest have been a size 22 (now a size 16) but never had an issue with comfort/fitting in my seat. I come from a large family and some of them have had to use seat belt extenders/arguably SHOULD pay for an extra seat but I don’t think you are in that territory

I strongly suggest you book an aisle seat as then any ‘overspill’ is in the aisle not your neighbour, and if you can afford premium economy or extra space seats that might be more comfortable.

My personal experience is that it can be v annoying/frustrating to be wedged in next to a large person (I have had this with family, but also strangers and it can be height/large frame not just weight) but as PP have said there are many annoyances with flying & this is just one. Keep the seat rest down to be fair to anyone sitting next to you

Which airline are you traveling with?

Iwonder08 · 10/09/2022 17:08

*move

Iwonder08 · 10/09/2022 17:03

If it is a short haul flight people will suffer through. I am size 6-8 and I don't think there is a lot of room in a standard economy seat even for me. If I were size 20+ I would have booked a bigger seat for my own comfort. If it is not an option please love yourself to the Isle seat at least. Please don't consider this as anything anti larger people, I really am not. I would give a similar advice to someone very tall

Marvellousmadness · 10/09/2022 17:01

"At a size 22/24 you will fit fine."

Haha thats delusional pp
I hardly fit
And i am a size 10/12

'It’s a shame that airlines don’t offer some wider seats for an appropriate premium. It could avoid much anxiety and discomfort."

A shame? From them?or a shame that obesity is such a pandemic.

Tabbouleh · 10/09/2022 17:00

Am going to assume that's what pp meant anyway.if

Tabbouleh · 10/09/2022 16:58

SianNotAMan · 10/09/2022 16:13

People talking loudly on their phones on a flight?

Before the flight takes off or immediately after landing.

MuthaHubbard · 10/09/2022 16:55

They might have just checked in online and not specifically selected those seats but been allocated them automatically. I never pay/pre book a seat so airline just allocate me whatever seats are free.
I really hope it won't be too stressful for you

Seemslikeaniceday · 10/09/2022 16:43

Yes contact the airline.

Sunshineandrainbow · 10/09/2022 16:41

LilacPoppy · 10/09/2022 15:04

@Sunshineandrainbow no they are called comfort seats you don't pay as much because you are not charged for luggage etc.

OK, do people contact the airline to book this?

Seemslikeaniceday · 10/09/2022 16:40

FattyAirways · 10/09/2022 16:28

I didn't mean it in a horrible way, just imagine if another overweight person is sat next to me and our hips or side fat are touching!

OP YABvU you wanted reassurance about being OK to fly. You have been given this.

If you don’t want any physical contact between you and another passenger then as pp have stated contact the airline and book the seat next to you.

Genegenieee · 10/09/2022 16:40

FattyAirways · 10/09/2022 14:52

Hello @Iguanainanigloo I don't think i'll spill over onto the person next to me. I just think that there'll be one person on the flight at least who hopes I'm not sat next to them! I do find it really weird why two people have booked right next to me though, despite there being loads of seats available.

Why don't you move your seat? Serbs a simple solution

SianNotAMan · 10/09/2022 16:36

It’s a shame that airlines don’t offer some wider seats for an appropriate premium. It could avoid much anxiety and discomfort.

Seemslikeaniceday · 10/09/2022 16:34

@Livinginanotherworld - I do not spill out into the aisle all the time. I fit in the seat but for comfort I more accurately stretch out into the aisle when it’s not being used. Others do the same, irrespective of their size.

FattyAirways · 10/09/2022 16:28

Herecomestreble1 · 10/09/2022 16:08

This seems slightly hypocritical.

I didn't mean it in a horrible way, just imagine if another overweight person is sat next to me and our hips or side fat are touching!

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Livinginanotherworld · 10/09/2022 16:27

Seemslikeaniceday · 10/09/2022 14:57

OP, I’m a size 28 and I have flown 5 times this year.

Personally I go for the aisle seat so I can spill out into the aisle and not encroach on others. Much easier to get in and out and I can stretch my leg in the aisle.

Don’t be embarrassed about asking for a seat belt extender, the crew are happy to provide them.

The key issue I have is the meals as the fold down table/pop out table usually don’t fully fit. So I’m creative and use the seat back pocket to hold some food and eat the things I can’t easily store first.

At a size 22 you will be fine.

Please don’t “ spill out into the aisle” ….have you ever tried getting the heavy trolley down it ? Think of the other passengers and crew and either book 2 seats or take the window.

SummerBummers · 10/09/2022 16:25

Lots of judge people with no idea of the problem. At a size 22/24 you will fit fine. The seat belt will do up, you’ll be able to use the pull down tray and you won’t encroach on anyone else’s seat.

teenagetantrums · 10/09/2022 16:15

I'm a size 24/26 but tall as well. I have flown twice this year with no problems. Didn't need the seat belt extender
It was tight but not to uncomfortable. I always book an aisle seat so l can put my legs out if l need to and l get claustrophobic if I'm not able to leave my seat. Change your seat to an asile seat. Also once the plane has taken of you can move to an empty row if you like as long as you return to your seat for landing

SianNotAMan · 10/09/2022 16:13

LobeliaBaggins · 10/09/2022 15:14

I am slim, fly a lot ( often long haul) and overweight people spilling into my e space is the least of my problems. Usually I am annoyed by screaming babies, whiny children, people talking loudly on their phones or dropping bags on me, eating noisily and so on. But I tolerate all these because you know, everybody deserves to fly. I feel sorry for OP feeling anxious.

People talking loudly on their phones on a flight?

SianNotAMan · 10/09/2022 16:11

I don’t think that 24 is likely to be large enough that you’ll spill over into a neighbour’s seat.

I’ve been next to someone on a transatlantic flight who did, but I think they were far bigger than a 24.

Herecomestreble1 · 10/09/2022 16:08

FattyAirways · 10/09/2022 15:13

You can book two seats in a flight but I'm confident I won't need two. I just hope another overweight person isn't sat next to me.

This seems slightly hypocritical.

Lucienandjean · 10/09/2022 16:06

Until very recently I was a size 24/26 and flew often. I never encroached on anyone else's seat and I'm sure you won't either. The seats are wide enough to accommodate my hips, anyway!

I only ever had to use a seat belt extender once (thanks, EasyJet 🙄). I found it was usually best to lengthen the standard belt as far as it goes before sitting down, then fasten it across your hips, not your belly. This gives you more wiggle room. Usually it did up with a little bit to spare, but don't be embarrassed if you need an extender. No one else cares, honestly.

I usually book an aisle seat so I don't have to shuffle past anyone to get to the loo, but I can see the window seat would work too so long as you stay put.

If you have a problem with the tray table, just pop the meal on your knee and eat the hot part first.

Everyone saying you need two seats is entirely wrong. Only the most extremely fat would ever need to do that.

And don't be embarrassed - I'd much rather sit next to a polite, considerate fat person than someone smaller but objectionable! I've sat next to people who stink, who are aggressive to cabin crew, who are having loud arguments with their family, or who will not shut up! All those are much much worse!

Westfacing · 10/09/2022 15:56

FattyAirways · 10/09/2022 15:05

@ClocksGoingBackwards What reasons would they be though? I cannot fathom why when there are lots of other seats to choose from!

There are many reasons: some like to be near the exits; near the loos; not near the loos; front of plane; rear of plane; over the wing, etc.

notimagain · 10/09/2022 15:33

Countless list of reasons why aisle/middle have gone, including people wanting to sit near the front in the hopes of a fast disembarkation.

@FattyAirways -as far as worrying about somebody being in your seat..if it happens (and it sometimes happens by accident, seat row numbering isn't sometimes that clear on some aircraft) politely point out to whoever is sat in your place the seat number on your boarding card. If there is still any reluctance to move it's an issue for the cabin crew to resolve, not you.

Good Luck.

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