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Flying when fat - help!

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FattyAirways · 10/09/2022 14:41

I'm due to fly soon and i'm overweight quite significantly. I have lost some weight but won't lose enough to feel confident on the plane by time I go. Has anyone recently flew who is overweight who can offer words of reassurance?

What has made me even more nervous is that I anticipated it might be a quiet flight (early evening) and I have just seen that two people have booked the seats next to mine despite there being a number of seats that are in the lines of three still vacant. Why oh why would anyone do that? They're not even the premium economy seats!

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Tabbouleh · 11/09/2022 07:28

Do you all ever travel by the Tube? People touching you on all sides. The worst offenders are slim young manspreaders, not overweight people.

Isthisexpected · 11/09/2022 07:26

Ring the airline and find out the seat dimensions. Sit down and measure round your fat. That is the only way to know you won't be encroaching on the person next to you. Far better to find out so you can book another seat rather than them have to ask to move because you're body is touching theirs. How embarrassing!

TirisfalPumpkin · 11/09/2022 07:25

OP is as entitled to travel as anyone else, and the reasons for her size are nobody’s business.

that said, I’m not convinced a size 24 could be comfortably accommodated without spilling - with 52’’ (around) hips, a 17’’ (across) seat is going to be a challenge. I’m a size 12 with 40’’ hips and it’s a snug fit for me.

Being spilled onto when you have sensory issues isn’t just uncomfortable or annoying. I can say from personal experience, it causes severe distress. I really can’t understate how bad it is for the spill-ee.

Two seats really seems like the best solution, particularly if money isn’t an issue. You can then verify whether you spill or not and book with confidence the next time, without potentially harming someone.

itsnotmeitsdefinitelyyou · 11/09/2022 07:22

FattyAirways · 10/09/2022 15:13

You can book two seats in a flight but I'm confident I won't need two. I just hope another overweight person isn't sat next to me.

can you see the irony...🤔

gogohmm · 11/09/2022 07:12

If you spill into the next seat that is pretty antisocial, it's happened to me long haul and British airways were so apologetic but it was a full flight (I had a bassinet position booked too, lady demanded i swop so she could be on the aisle which I refused cue an awkward 10'hours especially when the cabin crew brought me first class food to apologise then let me use the crew quarters to breast feed because I couldn't in my seat due to her fat!)

We all carry weight differently, at size 18 I have no issues at all fitting, dp is bigger and fits absolutely fine. Book an extra seat if you don't fit

Elfsumflowerpig · 11/09/2022 06:14

I once sat next to a plus sized lady who was absolutely lovely and unfortunately did spill over into my seat.

As a result I spent the three-hour flight leaning to one side to accommodate her. Unfortunately I have an ongoing issue with my spine and the pain this caused affected my holiday and I had to hobble off the plane. You sound lovely too, so please do consider buying the extra seat.

ReneBumsWombats · 11/09/2022 05:45

FattyAirways · 10/09/2022 19:51

I won't need a second seat. If I can fit on tiny bus and train seats without encroachment of my neighbour, i'll be fine on a plane. So glad other overweight posters on here have reassured me!

I'll report back afterwards and tell you how much I didn't need that second extra seat! Oh, and money isn't an issue!

If money isn't an issue, why not book the extra seat and guarantee comfort for you and whoever is next to you? It would also relieve your anxiety.

Day20 · 11/09/2022 04:58

TheSpringyGuyAndTheCheeseEater · 11/09/2022 01:40

I also don't think people are being unkind generally. The opposite: they are suggesting some courtesy towards other passengers and making appropriate arrangements by booking an extra seat if you can't fit into a single one rather than expecting to take up a proportion of somebody's else's seat as well as your own. I'd say that's pretty unkind and selfish given that multiple posters have highlighted how somebody "spilling" into their personal space and touching them could make their own flight anxiety, claustrophobia or sensory issues etc unbearable. Why should we be kind to overweight people but they shouldn't be kind to anybody else, especially when the issue is completely avoidable by simply booking the extra seat?

OP doesn't come across as thoughtless to me. OP clearly is worrying hence her post. Perhaps some comments here are a hard pill for her to swallow and tbh I think after this thread she my book the extra seat anyway.

pompomdaisy · 11/09/2022 04:54

Because you are considering all the effects then you probably won't have a problem. You are probably imagining the worst scenarios. If there's a problem buy your seat partners a drink 😃

Justrealised · 11/09/2022 04:44

Hi @FattyAirways , I'm ex cabin crew and flew for many years. Admittedly I've never worked for Ryanair but many of the things discussed here come under law rather than airline practice.

  1. Please do not worry about someone refusing to move from the seat you booked. Occasionally people do sit in the wrong seat, if it happens and you don't want to talk directly to the person speak to the crew and they will do it.

  2. passengers need to be sat in their assigned seats for take off and landing (exceptions can ge made but not in large numbers). If there are spare seats ask the crew as early as possible if you can move (if that's what you want), even on the ground and just ask when you can move if they agree (the cabin manager/ supervisor is usually in the front galley or by the first set of doors.

  3. do not buy an extension seat belt from amazon. They aren't certified and if you need it, you'd want to know it's safe. Airlines carry these as standard and they are used more than you think. Please fo not be embarrassed if you require one even if it's just to be a little more comfortable.

  4. extra seats. Some airlines over sell seats. If there is essentially an empty seat the airline can fill it if they need to even if that seat has been purchased (think people not turning up for flight or if the planned aircraft is changed for a diff type).

  5. some seats are classed as abp seats and the passengers in these have to fit certain criteria for safety if needed in an evacuation. These are usually by the doors but can be the rows behind or infront of the doors also. There are some extra room seats by bulkheads on some planes where you don't need to fit the safety criteria, these are usually wide bodied aircraft. If you are in an apb seat or book one in the future it is down to the cc to decide if you can sit there. As a rough guide if you require an extension seatbelt you should be asked to move.

  6. every passenger has paid for their travel including you. You have as much right to be there as anyone else.

  7. Please try to enjoy the flight. Take a book or an ipad to distract you. Enjoy your window seat and the beautiful views you'll get.

MrsMcBride · 11/09/2022 04:02

FattyAirways · 10/09/2022 14:46

Hi @SavoirFlair , I booked the window seat so I can squash my fat up to the wall rather than on someone else/pour out into the aisle!

This didn't work on my EasyJet flight as there was an immovable chair arm between me and the wall.

MrsMcBride · 11/09/2022 04:00

I am a size 22 and just endured an EasyJet flight. I initially booked two seats but was then informed by customer services that the seat arms are fixed (i.e., can't be raised) so I wouldn't get any more space that way. (I later found out this was not true, at least not on my flights.) So on their advice I booked and paid extra for the front row which was supposed to have a seat width of 26cm rather than the standard 17.5cm. Even so, it was a nightmare. I was very uncomfortable and the arms were squeezing me on both sides (ironically the arms in the first row are fixed), and I barely managed to get the seatbelt done up even after sucking everything in.
Thank god the flight was only 90 minutes—I have never been so uncomfortable in my life.

I am not going anywhere now until I get back down to a normal weight.

shiningcuckoo · 11/09/2022 02:35

I do think that people are being unkind and judgmental. Mainly because they can get away with it because their judgment is about body size. Live and let live and if you don't want others near you, then it's easily solvable by using a private jet. Ffs. The poor woman just wants to take a 3 hour journey and heaven forbid she might inadvertently touch someone.

TheSpringyGuyAndTheCheeseEater · 11/09/2022 01:40

I also don't think people are being unkind generally. The opposite: they are suggesting some courtesy towards other passengers and making appropriate arrangements by booking an extra seat if you can't fit into a single one rather than expecting to take up a proportion of somebody's else's seat as well as your own. I'd say that's pretty unkind and selfish given that multiple posters have highlighted how somebody "spilling" into their personal space and touching them could make their own flight anxiety, claustrophobia or sensory issues etc unbearable. Why should we be kind to overweight people but they shouldn't be kind to anybody else, especially when the issue is completely avoidable by simply booking the extra seat?

TheSpringyGuyAndTheCheeseEater · 11/09/2022 01:37

I'm not sure being on public transport means you are obliged to donate half of the seat you've paid for to the person next to you. What a bizarre attitude. "Sharing space" doesn't mean having somebody touching you when individual seats have been booked.

shiningcuckoo · 11/09/2022 01:20

Well I don't think that being judgmental and unkind is fine. I'd far rather sit next to someone who needs a bit of extra space than a snotty judgmental cow, however slender they happen to be. Flights are public transport and part of this is sharing space with others. Toughen up princesses.

DinosaurDuvet · 11/09/2022 00:29

I’m same size, I bought my own extender off Amazon so that I wouldn’t have to ask for one - I didn’t need it though. Wasn’t too worried about encroaching on other people because I was sitting with DS but I don’t think that much of an issue either. Have a great flight

TheSpringyGuyAndTheCheeseEater · 11/09/2022 00:26

But @IWishIWasABaller if flying alone - especially on Ryanair where you say the seats are smaller than average - would you not book a comfort seat next to you to avoid this embarrassment to yourself and the inconvenience and awkwardness (at best) to the passenger next to you (at worst, as a PP highlighted, potentially causing them distress)?

I really don't understand the mentality of anybody who wouldn't just book the extra seat if they knew this was an issue and would not be sitting next to a family member or friend whose consent for impinging on their personal space they could seek in advance.

IWishIWasABaller · 11/09/2022 00:18

I'm a size 24 and spill over onto the seat beside me which is why I always book a window seat and then my husband sits beside me in the middle . We lift up the arm rest between us. Have flown aerlingus and tui recently and it was ok but I did spill over as I said . I would have been very uncomfortable had I been sitting next to a stranger and very embarrassed also. I don't fly Ryanair as their seats are smaller than standard . Hope you have a comfortable flight op and that the seats beside you are empty

TheSpringyGuyAndTheCheeseEater · 11/09/2022 00:07

*bit sick! But "but sick" somehow seems appropriate for the grimness of the idea.

TheSpringyGuyAndTheCheeseEater · 11/09/2022 00:06

Describing pushing parts of your body onto strangers without their consent as "spillage" has made me feel a but sick.

autienotnaughty · 10/09/2022 23:58

I would say it depends on airline. We recently flew easy jet which was pretty spacious. Ryanair was very cramped, I'm a 14.

SianNotAMan · 10/09/2022 23:51

arthurfowlermood · 10/09/2022 23:48

You were fine but was the person beside you ok with the spillage?

I had this happen once, years ago, on a flight back from New York. She was only around twenty, but spilling over the armrests on either side.

She actually tried to lift the rest up to ease the pressure on her at the expense of spilling further on me, so I had to ask her what the fuck she thought she was doing.

arthurfowlermood · 10/09/2022 23:48

You were fine but was the person beside you ok with the spillage?

SianNotAMan · 10/09/2022 23:47

Boujisboo · 10/09/2022 23:41

I’m 22 stone and was fine! Seat belt went round and was fine in the seat. I spilt over a bit but not too much

“Spilling over” into the next seat is definitely not “fine.”

What a ludicrous thing to claim. How could anyone think that that’s even vaguely acceptable? If someone next to me did that I’d be folding your bits back onto your side of the arm rest.

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