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Bbq etiquette

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hashbrownsandwich · 30/07/2022 18:23

You are invited to a friends birthday bbq. Invitation states 'Come to ours any time from midday, bbq, drinks and the kids can play - being a bottle and something to throw on the bbq, we've got the sides and rolls etc covered'.

What time do you actually expect to eat?

My AIBU is I would expect to eat around 1 but my DH reckons people would expect it to be served on arrival 🤭🤣

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Mississipi71 · 30/07/2022 19:08

EBearhug · 30/07/2022 18:29

I'd expect it to be on-going through the afternoon.

Me too. Some like to have alcohol in between servings. I know I do.

maddiemookins16mum · 30/07/2022 19:05

The BBQ should be warming up from about 12.30 and eating within the next 45 mins to an hour. Ice creams at 3. Everyone gone by 4pm.

Sweatinglikeabitch · 30/07/2022 18:50

I'd expect the bbq to be lit at 12 and kept on until everyone invited has been and had their fill

ermagerdabear · 30/07/2022 18:47

ouch321 · 30/07/2022 18:33

You're expected to bring your own burgers etc?

That's weird and poor hosting.

My friend bought an expensive house with a huge garden because she wanted to be the hostess for bbq's and get togethers but whenever you're invited you have to bring your own food and drink. Personally, I think it's rude and if you can't afford to host, you shouldn't.

But back to the OP. I think probably an hour or so after the first guests arrive.

Mymoneydontjigglejiggle · 30/07/2022 18:38

PIL do this sort of thing and usually the first round of meat is ready at about 2pm and the second lot around 5pm.

luxxlisbon · 30/07/2022 18:37

I would expect later than 1 and definitely not 12. I’ve never been to a bbq or a dinner party and eaten less than an hour after arriving. Usually it’s drinks, mingling and nibbles for a while.

SliceOfCakeCupOfTea · 30/07/2022 18:34

I'd expect it later tbh, maybe 2/2.30. there is no set arrival time so can't expect people to be served on the unspecified arrival time

ouch321 · 30/07/2022 18:33

You're expected to bring your own burgers etc?

That's weird and poor hosting.

EBearhug · 30/07/2022 18:29

I'd expect it to be on-going through the afternoon.

MajorCarolDanvers · 30/07/2022 18:29

It can't be served on arrival if you have to bring it with you.

I agree about 1pm

MomwasCasual · 30/07/2022 18:29

'Served on arrival' Grin

Well yeah, served with sides and rolls!

ShinyMe · 30/07/2022 18:29

That sounds to me like a loose ongoing all afternoon bbq. If they're providing sides then they'll be ready near the start, but the rest depends on who brings what and when they come.

stuck23 · 30/07/2022 18:28

If guest's r bringing the meat then they should expect to eat around 60/90 minits later for cooking times..

HappyHappyHermit · 30/07/2022 18:27

They have to bring their own meat and drink? I don't think 1 o clock would seem too late, but would think it'd just be as people arrived with their food ready to be cooked as they may arrive in dribs and drabs.

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