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To send DS to Welsh School?

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saturdaynightgin · 10/07/2022 11:41

DS is almost 3 and due to start nursery in September. His older sibling goes to the local Welsh-medium school and it’s our intention to send DS there (his place has been confirmed).

However, my parents and a few other family members have expressed concern about his going to a Welsh-medium school due to his speech delay. DS has been discharged by SALT as they were happy with his progress, but he’s still not speaking in full sentences. Our instinct is that he’ll catch up when he’s ready and going to Welsh-medium school will be no different to English-medium in terms of speech development. But now family have planted seeds of doubt and I’m beginning to question our decision.

For context, DH doesn’t speak Welsh at all, but I am able to hold a conversation and try my best to speak Welsh at home with our older child. There are no other development concerns with DS.

So, AIBU to send him to Welsh-medium school?

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GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 30/05/2023 15:00

Speaking more than one language is so good for the brain. I’d definitely send him if I had the chance (if I lived in Wales!)

It doesn’t matter which languages it is, it’s still great for them. Plus they’ve got English as a very widely spoken language when they go abroad, they don’t need their second language to be. It will also make it easier for them to learn any third language when they are older, regardless of the language family.

Kiwicolombinamama · 30/05/2023 14:32

Hello there!
Sorry to jump on this post but I'm about to move to Cardiff (non-Welsh speaker) and looking to start my little one at in a WM primary from September.
Does anyone know anything about Ysgol Hamadryad or Ysgol Pwll Coch? Or Treganna?
I would really appreciate any comments/experience of schools in Cardiff Central and Bay area. I am a single parent so makes decision making doubly hard for me as I constantly doubt myself! X

Gwenhwyfar · 13/05/2023 11:15

"Welsh language is very politicised in Wales and the view one gets from SLT may reflect their commitment to the welsh language or their fear of speaking an honest opinion if they do think it would be disadvantageous."

Equally, an expert who expresses a negative opinion about Welsh medium schools may be displaying a personal prejudice against the language.

Gwenhwyfar · 13/05/2023 11:13

waveyourpompoms · 10/07/2022 13:33

I wouldn’t. Unless they live in Wales when they’re older what advantage at all is it going to be for them to speak Welsh?

It’s not like Spanish or French which is spoken in multiple countries across the globe.

Why wouldn't they live in Wales when they're older???
Presumably the family lives in Wales now.

By the way, I'm a Welsh person living abroad. Being a Welsh speaker has helped me learn other languages and is still useful even not living in Wales.

Iawn · 13/05/2023 11:09

Hi, i went to school in wales i am aware of the mutation i am just lazy with grammer, in both welsh and english no offense meant. Quite right it is this attitude that makes people feel isolated when it comes to first language snobbery esspecially in Ceredigion right now

Brightongin · 06/05/2023 14:40

DacwMamYnDwad · 06/05/2023 12:34

I won't begin to correct your English, @Brightongin .

Ah, this is an example of the snobbery that puts people off speaking and learning Welsh… da iawn! Keep up the good work

DacwMamYnDwad · 06/05/2023 12:34

I won't begin to correct your English, @Brightongin .

Brightongin · 05/05/2023 20:54

DacwMamYnDwad · 05/05/2023 15:09

@Brightongin , the correction was because the use of Welsh in that post wasn't correct or necessary.

If you are learning a language, you will almost certainly get corrected, or how will you learn?

The mutations aren't easy to learn, and I would probably not corrected you in conversation, unless you asked me to. I hear a lot of bad Welsh, including from teachers (usually grammar not vocabulary). Just practice and if you don't know the word, use a substitute and carry on. If you mess up a mutation, keep going - if you get your message across, that's the main thing.

My Welsh is strong because, back in the day, my parents and teachers corrected me.

Da iawn chi am ddysgu Cymraeg. Daliwch ati!

“Wasn't correct or necessary??’ Wtf- are you going to police and give blessing or correction on every Welsh phrase used and judge if it is necessary??
I thought it was a lovely use of Cymraeg.
I am a Welsh tutor, linguistics graduate and first language Welsh, and I ask politely- could you please stop policing people’s creative and lovely use of Welsh, please? You are neither their tutor or parent, this is a casual forum and I thought it was a great example of how people use language in the real world. I am so tired of meeting people that say ‘Oo- I’d love to speak Welsh but I’m too afraid to use the little I have as it’s not good enough/ up to standard or pure enough’ because people like you immediately judge whether it is ‘correct’ - I actually can’t believe you thought it was ‘unnecessary’ like who are you to deem what language is NECESSARY. If language was judged in terms of necessity- Welsh wouldn’t get a look in at all.

DacwMamYnDwad · 05/05/2023 15:09

@Brightongin , the correction was because the use of Welsh in that post wasn't correct or necessary.

If you are learning a language, you will almost certainly get corrected, or how will you learn?

The mutations aren't easy to learn, and I would probably not corrected you in conversation, unless you asked me to. I hear a lot of bad Welsh, including from teachers (usually grammar not vocabulary). Just practice and if you don't know the word, use a substitute and carry on. If you mess up a mutation, keep going - if you get your message across, that's the main thing.

My Welsh is strong because, back in the day, my parents and teachers corrected me.

Da iawn chi am ddysgu Cymraeg. Daliwch ati!

Brightongin · 04/05/2023 16:27

DacwMamYnDwad · 20/12/2022 12:54

@Iawn , it's ysgol gymraeg.
Pick the school that you suits your child best. You know him better than anyone.

Dacwmam, I'm sure you meant well, but it's correcting like that that puts people off learning Welsh sometimes. Effing treiglio is the bane of my life - and can stop people from using the Welsh that they have.

DacwMamYnDwad · 20/12/2022 12:54

@Iawn , it's ysgol gymraeg.
Pick the school that you suits your child best. You know him better than anyone.

Iawn · 20/12/2022 11:30

saturdaynightgin · 10/07/2022 11:41

DS is almost 3 and due to start nursery in September. His older sibling goes to the local Welsh-medium school and it’s our intention to send DS there (his place has been confirmed).

However, my parents and a few other family members have expressed concern about his going to a Welsh-medium school due to his speech delay. DS has been discharged by SALT as they were happy with his progress, but he’s still not speaking in full sentences. Our instinct is that he’ll catch up when he’s ready and going to Welsh-medium school will be no different to English-medium in terms of speech development. But now family have planted seeds of doubt and I’m beginning to question our decision.

For context, DH doesn’t speak Welsh at all, but I am able to hold a conversation and try my best to speak Welsh at home with our older child. There are no other development concerns with DS.

So, AIBU to send him to Welsh-medium school?

How have you found it? My child is due to start ysgol cymraeg in jan and has a similar speech delay and im considering moving to english medium

LetthegoodtimesbeGin · 14/07/2022 15:55

My nephew is due to start WM in September. He has a speech delay but was discharged from SALT. I’ve never doubted my sisters choice for WM. The school is much smaller and nurturing that the local English medium schools which I think will be far more beneficial to him and outweigh any concerns. I’m sure he will be absolutely fine as will your son be.
worst case, he doesn’t settle/ develop well and you make a decision to move him later down the line. Which I’m sure would be exactly the same if he didn’t get on in an English medium school for whatever reason

WinterMusings · 11/07/2022 11:36

I'm glad you've decide to send him to the WM,

He's not even three yet, lots of toddlers get help with their speech, it doesn't need to impact their life choices going forward.

As you know, being bilingual has many more advantages than simply speaking two languages.

Covidagainandagain · 11/07/2022 11:20

I've seen this worth the opposite way, welsh 1st language speaker who spoke purely welsh at home and nursery with speech delay having to learn english at school. If I recall he was a little slower to pick it up than some of the other children (who may also have been exposed to english at home) but by the end of primary school there was no real difference

10HailMarys · 11/07/2022 11:01

waveyourpompoms · 10/07/2022 13:33

I wouldn’t. Unless they live in Wales when they’re older what advantage at all is it going to be for them to speak Welsh?

It’s not like Spanish or French which is spoken in multiple countries across the globe.

There are many advantages to being bilingual that go way beyond the practical. It opens up a whole world of arts, culture and literature for a start, so it can expand someone's horizons and enrich their life and experiences in many ways. It's also a connection to someone's heritage and history.

Also, it doesn't matter where they might hypothetically live when they are older. Maybe they will, indeed, choose to live outside Wales where they have no need to speak Welsh. But they will always have an option to move back if they want to and Welsh will open up more opportunities in some jobs.

Having more than one language is never going to be a disadvantage in life, basically.

saturdaynightgin · 11/07/2022 10:49

@iolaus That’s good to hear! Fingers crossed for your DS’ results!

@weegiemum i’m definitely going to send him now that’s I’ve had some reassurance. As a PP said, we can always change schools further down the line if it becomes a bigger issue.

Thanks again everyone 😊

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weegiemum · 10/07/2022 22:06

Much to the dismay of my parents (I'm never very sure why), our dc went to Scottish Gaelic medium school. Ds was a little slow to start speaking (not enough for salt) and my parents were really outspoken about it. They're the same about my nephews who live in wales and have a native speaker mum. I think it's because they know nothing about it, and my step-mum was a learning support teacher.

All 3 of our dc went through the GME system and even now (they're 18, 20 and 22) it's important to them. There are so many positives about being bilingual and so few negatives. Please give your dc this opportunity if you can!

(P.S. I still don't speak Gaelic!)

Genericusername1234 · 10/07/2022 21:59

waveyourpompoms · 10/07/2022 13:33

I wouldn’t. Unless they live in Wales when they’re older what advantage at all is it going to be for them to speak Welsh?

It’s not like Spanish or French which is spoken in multiple countries across the globe.

It’s obvious you know nothing about language development or Wales.
Learning another language at a young age has lots of benefits beyond just knowing the second language; better vocabulary, attention and listening, reasoning skills. Bilingual children tend to have better outcomes all through their lives.
On top of that, Welsh is an advantage for most Welsh jobs and a necessity for some.

iolaus · 10/07/2022 17:06

BTW the only time it came in was when he had the first assessment the woman was getting confused over how he was pronouncing the word 'blue' - when I said 'he's saying 'Glas'' she stopped the assessment and said she needed to get someone who was bilingual to do the assessment

iolaus · 10/07/2022 17:01

My kids went to Welsh medium schools and one of them also had speech therapy when he was about your sons age

It doesn't seem to have held him back at all - he's awaiting his A level results (done in Welsh) and plans on studying biochemistry at uni

Neither his father or I speak Welsh fluently

DacwMamYnDwad · 10/07/2022 15:42

@NottheLot , no, not everybody. There are young children who will have spoken nothing but Welsh, and there are older people who have not needed to speak much English throughout their lives. Elderly people who have suffered a stroke or similar will struggle when dealing with someone with no Welsh, which can be an issue in hospitals or EMI care.

An ability to speak two or more languages from an early age is beneficial if you learn new languages.

Frazzled2207 · 10/07/2022 15:25

waveyourpompoms · 10/07/2022 13:33

I wouldn’t. Unless they live in Wales when they’re older what advantage at all is it going to be for them to speak Welsh?

It’s not like Spanish or French which is spoken in multiple countries across the globe.

If they’re Welsh they presumably have a good chance of living in wales when older. Many many public sector jobs in wales now require or show a strong preference for welsh speakers.
I am guessing you don’t realise how prevalent it is in parts of wales. The Op’s child will seriously miss out!

saturdaynightgin · 10/07/2022 15:25

@BovrilMartini I’m in Neath. My eldest DC is in Blwyddyn 1 and out of her class of 20, there’s only one child who comes from a Welsh speaking family.

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saturdaynightgin · 10/07/2022 15:20

Thank you for all your responses. I’m very keen to send DS to WM - the culture, as well as the benefit of bilingualism are really important to me (as an ex-teacher or MFL). It’s more the impact of WM on his speech development that I was concerned about.

@Choopi @RIPWalter so pleased to hear your DC are doing so well! My eldest is thriving in WM too, but she didn’t have a speech delay. Your posts are very reassuring, so thank you.

@NottheLot the SALT therapist didn’t comment on his schooling other than to say that if the school has concerns they can re-refer through their own channels.

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