27 and first baby!

No that’s not true !!! lol the whole 34 age is just a myth my mom had me at 38 had my bitire at 34 with no problems most of women in my family and I know had their babies in their 30s

I was married at 27 and had my first at 29. I went to uni and worked a good few years before i met dh. That was right for me. I had my second child at 30 when my mum was the same age she had four kids. We all do what is right for ourselves. 27 is neither too young or old to have babies and from a fertility point of view it is better to have kids in your late twenties than late thirties. The friend was rude as was your mum.

I'd have thought 27 is a pretty normal age to have a baby...? I have just turned 30 and not had one yet - it is no one else's business when someone decides at what age to have a baby.

I had twins at 26, plus the majority of my friends have had babies at this age!

And on the other end of the spectrum my DP was once described as an 'older dad' when we had ds. He was 29!

I was 25 with a full time job. No one else’s business. It was my choice and what I wanted. People are just judgemental.

People project their own ideas onto others.

Although I don't think your mum is immature for saying your life will be over. I would interpret that as her warning you that your options and freedoms are more likely to be more restricted after children and she is not wrong. Having babies at 27 for me personally would have been a struggle and hugely limited mine and DH careers. Waiting 3 years meant we were both on a far better place career wise/ financially etc to be able to work part time etc

I have 2 relatives - 1 had a baby at 25, married, has a house and stable job. Another is 30, lives with her parents and temp work. She wouldn't be in an ideal situation for a baby. I wouldn't judge her but I would recognise she might find it hard work.

Another girl I know was horrified that this woman was pregnant at 27 and I thought that was basically stupid but it got me thinking, one minute people say you’re too young then the next, you’re judged for being too old. That’s what the post was on about

I was 27 when my first was born, and I'm the late starter in my family - most of my relatives had babies between the ages of 16 to 21, the average being 18 🤷‍♀️

All of them are brilliant mums, despite some tricky circumstances at times. Your friend sounds like a judgy arsehole.

I had my DD when I was 26. She is 1 year old now and we are thinking of having a second. I don't think it was too early at all.
I wasn't born in the UK so my perception about this is a bit different. Most of my friends from back home already have had babies before we were even trying for one. It's very common to be finished with having babies at 33/34 where I'm from while here it's a perfect age to start (totally agree with the PP about this being a perfect window to have a baby - most of my NCT group is of that age too :D)
I have felt like a teenager mother though, in my NCT group and among my friends too. Not many could understand when I said that my DD was planned.

Different people have different reactions, for all sorts of reasons. I wouldn't have been "horrified" because my mum didn't give the exact reaction you wanted. Never mind give this a second thought afterwards and post a massive long winded thread about it. Over reaction.

The previous comment about the acceptable window to have a child being 32-33 made me laugh - that was my NCT group.

what a weird reaction. 27 is obviously not considered old but it is certainly not young in my mind to be having a baby.

Horrified? I have a 27 year old child she is a. Grown assed woman and.i couldn't see me being horrified if she was having a baby. Fwiw I finished having babies at 27 so...

I was 22 and no one was horrified. 27 is quite an average age for a baby I'd say.

I don't quite understand what you are saying. Your other friend and your mum went silent and then your pregnant friend was horrified?

A: why did they go silent? Did they actually say your friend is too young/too old? Or is there something else they were thinking?

B: was your pregnant friend there when this happened? Was she horrified because they didn't congratulate her?

Op, all I can say as a woman and mum much older than yourself, and married 24+ years with 2 adult children, learn now to ignore what anyone else thinks about your life choices. You are an adult and their opinions are irrelevant. This is your life, not theirs.

I'm 27 had my DS 11 weeks ago. Married at 25 got a good career with progression. On the verge of buying a house this year 🤞🏽🤞🏽
27 is neither young nor old.

Baring that in mind I have friends who still live at home with their parents don't have a job with progression and not in a relationship and no kids. Then I have friends who have had kids when they were 16. There is no right or wrong age nor a right or wrong situation to be in. It's whatever works for you or that individual.

I've just recently given birth and I'm 20! I'm not immature for my age, live in a nice area, my own home, engaged, both of us have good jobs with a decent wage. I didn't expect to become a Mum this young but I'm a bloody good one if I do say so myself! I really think that age isn't relevant, everyone has to be a first time Mum at some point and will be difficult no matter the age! Congratulate your friend and dismiss your Mum's bizarre judgements

I had my first at 27, and my second at 29. DD2 is only 10 weeks old (I am awake feeding her now). When I told my friend I was pregnant with DD1 the very first thing she asked was 'why are you throwing your 20s away. Such a waste!'. I had been married a year, had bought a house, had my career. It shouldn't have been a shock. Some people are just so judgemental and, like a PP said, there is this narrow window from about 32 to 33 where it's acceptable to many to have a kid. Its bull.

Congratulate her, tell her people are tw**s, show excitement for her. It will mean a lot.

I had mine at 27 and 29 as planned. It's a fine age to have babies. I do think it's a weird sort of no-mans land though. My friends who didn't go to uni has theirs earlier, in the 20-25 range, while those who did go to uni didn't start having theirs until post thirty. I was the only one of my friendship group to have a baby at 27, and one of the youngest in my NCT group.

My family were apparently shocked when I announced I was pregnant.

This is despite me being 30, married for 3 years, with DH for 10 years with a good job that I’ve been in for 2 years and us owning a four bedroom house

People have ideas about what you should do & it freaks them out if you don’t fit to it. For family, sometimes I think they have a mental image of us that stops at about 14.

Who made your friend Judge and Jury anyway 🤔

I had my children at 24 and 26. I guess your friend would have a proper thrombo over that.