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Was I wrong?

86 replies

Daet · 11/03/2020 13:42

At the checkout queue earlier, I asked the man behind me if he’d like to go in front of me - he had about 4 items, I had a trolley full. He gratefully accepted.

But the woman behind him said “you may have time to spare, not all of us do”.

I just said I was sorry and turned away. I’ve never thought of it from her point of view before, I’ve always thought I was doing a helpful thing.

Don’t do it in future or carry on as usual?

OP posts:
Jaichangecentfoisdenom · 11/03/2020 14:00

Doh!

ShesGotBetteDavisEyes · 11/03/2020 13:58

She clearly isn’t a very intelligent woman, and rude to boot!

Firsttimelottie · 11/03/2020 13:55

You didn't need to apologise to her OP - it made no difference to her what order you were served!

Honeybee85 · 11/03/2020 13:54

@DingleberryRose

Laughing out loud here about daft bat 😂😂😂😂😂

Thanks for the inspiration Grin

redastherose · 11/03/2020 13:53

She's a moron who doesn't understand how time works Grin

Carry on doing the nice thing and ignore the batshit woman.

tiggerkid · 11/03/2020 13:53

I often offer people, who have hardly anything to buy go before me or people with crying babies. Don't see anything wrong with that. The lady behind you needs to have her logic examined as she wouldn't have been any faster even if the man behind you stayed where he was.

DingleberryRose · 11/03/2020 13:53

It wouldn’t make any difference to the daft bat!! She was just pissed off you didn’t ask her to go ahead too! Grin

outnumberedmummy · 11/03/2020 13:52

It makes no difference to her

Honeybee85 · 11/03/2020 13:51

It didn’t effect her waiting time.

If he had been behind her, I wouldn’t have been happy about it either if I were in her shoes.

It seems in this situation she doesn’t understand how it works or was looking for a reason to complain.

AryaStarkWolf · 11/03/2020 13:51

If she was behind him what difference did it make, you and him were both going to be before her either way? If he was behind her then maybe she has a point but it doesn't read that way from your OP

Itsagrandoldteam · 11/03/2020 13:49

You were being nice, she was just rude.
Carry on being nice and ignore the miseries in the world.

ColdTattyWaitingForSummer · 11/03/2020 13:48

If he was directly behind you and she had two people in front of her either way? YANBU.
If he was further back and she now has extra people in front of her? YABabitU, but I still wouldn’t have said anything in her shoes.

Winterwoollies · 11/03/2020 13:48

The two people in front of her swapping order makes no difference to her WHATSOEVER. 🙄

P1nkHeartLovesCake · 11/03/2020 13:48

She was going to wait the same amount of time, regardless of who was served first you or him.

DowntownAbby · 11/03/2020 13:47

Sounds like she was just TAF and couldn't work out that it made no difference to her queuing time.

You did nothing wrong, in fact you were being considerate. With hindsight you wouldn't have apologised, I'm sure.

Lobelia123 · 11/03/2020 13:46

i think you paid someone a small kindness - that means a lot in this grabby selfish world. Good for you and shame on the misery guts who complained....whatever order you were served in makes no difference to how long it would have taken to get to her.....unless she had her nose put out of joint because she felt more entitled to be offered to skip the queue!

OchonAgusOchonO · 11/03/2020 13:45

Should read you would have been very reasonable if he was behind her, not you were.

onlyk · 11/03/2020 13:45

Assuming the women was behind you and the man then you allowing him to go ahead of you has no impact on her ( ie she’s no worse off) so she was just being a grump for no reason

Purplelion · 11/03/2020 13:45

What a weird thing to say! It made no difference to her wait time. As I usually go shopping with 2 young children I often let someone with a few items go in front of me so they aren’t waiting for me!

GA2012 · 11/03/2020 13:45

If she was behind him she would have still had to wait behind 2 people regardless so she’s just rude and stupid.

MouthBreathingRage · 11/03/2020 13:45

I think this thread may just be 200 replies of the same answer....

DontBuyLangClegCashmere · 11/03/2020 13:45

Didn't affect her at all. Stupid person!

Keep on doing it, I try to as well, and I've had it offered to me too. Well done OP

DifficultPifcultLemonDifficult · 11/03/2020 13:45

She wbu, you just swapped places, you didnt invite him to queue jump in front of her.

VladmirsPoutine · 11/03/2020 13:45

Why would you think you were in the wrong?

arethereanyleftatall · 11/03/2020 13:44

If you'd called him forward from behind her, then yes, that would have been rude of you. But you didn't, so it makes zero sense.

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