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Was I wrong?

86 replies

Daet · 11/03/2020 13:42

At the checkout queue earlier, I asked the man behind me if he’d like to go in front of me - he had about 4 items, I had a trolley full. He gratefully accepted.

But the woman behind him said “you may have time to spare, not all of us do”.

I just said I was sorry and turned away. I’ve never thought of it from her point of view before, I’ve always thought I was doing a helpful thing.

Don’t do it in future or carry on as usual?

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ChazsBrilliantAttitude · 11/03/2020 14:40

It’s probably something to do with Relativity The spatial orientation of customers altering her position in the space time continuum.

So she is either a genius or batshit.

FlockofGulls · 11/03/2020 14:38

But the woman behind him said “you may have time to spare, not all of us do”

Her logic is wrong - as PP have pointed out, she'd have to wait the same amount of time whichever order you & the main immediately behind you went in.

user1480880826 · 11/03/2020 14:38

The angry woman clearly didn’t know how to count.

Beautiful3 · 11/03/2020 14:33

The man was in front of the lady? So she would have to wait for you and him, regardless! You did a nice thing that didn't affect anyone but yourself. That lady had no business complaining.

peachescariad · 11/03/2020 14:31

Grin the stupidity of some people....that's hysterical.

Snaga · 11/03/2020 14:30

It's possible that this was an aggressive dig at you because you didn't offer to let her in front of you too...or she's thicker than a whale omlette. In either case she's rude so don't let it bother you.

InThisMultiverse · 11/03/2020 14:26

What an idiot. I might have met this woman when she pushed to the front of speedy check-in for a flight, complaining that she needed to hurry home after getting off the plane.

AryaStarkWolf · 11/03/2020 14:26

@Thisismytimetoshine oh now that would piss me off majorly

HelpFlattenTheCurve · 11/03/2020 14:26

She was passive-aggressively complaining that you had too much in your trolley.

Her problem. Not yours.

Tardly · 11/03/2020 14:24

Grin that's priceless!!!!

You should have replied 'You probably do have time to spare, it's just you don't understand how time actually works - I wouldn't worry about it'

!!!

Thisismytimetoshine · 11/03/2020 14:17

She was behind both of you, so it was utterly irrelevant what order you went in.
I had the opposite experience on a bus recently, though.
A nice old man about two people ahead of me decided to wave a gang of young girls who had just arrived on to an already full bus ahead of him (there were around 6/7 of them, and as they smiled charmingly at him he continued to wave even more through Grin), leaving some of the queue behind me unable to get on at all.
That didn’t go down well...

AryaStarkWolf · 11/03/2020 14:16

Yes the man was in front of the woman who complained.

Then I really don't get her logic at all Grin

JustInCaseCakeHappens · 11/03/2020 14:13

a moron who doesn’t understand how time works

Grin well summarised.
gamerchick · 11/03/2020 14:10

Xposts

gamerchick · 11/03/2020 14:10

If he directly behind you then fine, swapping places doesnt affect her at all.
If he was behind her then yeah, that would have rankled a bit.

ArgumentativeAardvaark · 11/03/2020 14:09

I’m a bit disappointed that you didn’t realise at the time that she was, to quote a pp “a moron who doesn’t understand how time works” and tell her so, along with an explanation that it made zero difference to how long she’d have to wait!

LouiseCollina · 11/03/2020 14:09

What a silly cow! I'd have had real trouble not making an absolute show of her on this one!

Original poster
Daet · 11/03/2020 14:09

Yes the man was in front of the woman who complained.

It didn’t make sense to me either but i thought I must’ve been overlooking something!

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lazylinguist · 11/03/2020 14:07

She's thick as mince. You were being nice and it made no difference to her at all.

user1493413286 · 11/03/2020 14:06

It made no difference to her so she’s a bit weird to be honest

mnthrowaway202020 · 11/03/2020 14:05

I think it’s a rude way of forcing you to let her in front of you too.

TheReluctantCountess · 11/03/2020 14:04

She’s got issues. You did a nice thing.

PardonWhat · 11/03/2020 14:04

Hahahaha!!
I bet she’s sat somewhere replaying what she said curling her toes Grin

Lynda07 · 11/03/2020 14:03

You did the right thing, the woman who made the remark was ungracious - especially as it made no difference to how long she had to wait anyway.

Take no notice. I've often done the same and also had it done for me, it's quite normal - the nasty woman is not!

RedskyAtnight · 11/03/2020 14:03

So she had to wait the 10 seconds it took to have this conversation and for him to walk round you extra?

Extremely unreasonable of you.

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