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Is this osteopath friendly or Pervy?

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Nochangeplease · 27/02/2020 23:36

It’s an osteopath that I was referred to by the gp. He is an older man if it matters, maybe 50-60. Obviously it’s necessary to take my top off which is not something I’m completely comfortable with (even with doctors ect) so I’m not sure if being in this uneasy and vulnerable state is skewing my judgement.
The first time I saw him I remember feeling a bit uncomfortable with the conversation a few time’s. Can’t remember details now but over the sessions there have been comments like “I bet you say that to all the boys” as a joke after something I’d said. He often talks of his daughter (17) and wife, which then makes me think he’s just a normal guy.
There was a strange conversation about bras last
Time. We was talking about causes of back pain and he went on to the subject
Of bras, told me that lots of female patients complain about bras and went on to describe a strangely done up bra that a previous patient had on. Said it was cross crossed And he had never seen anything like and she had said she got it in Ann summers and he was surprised as he thought they only sold “saucy knickers and such”. Mentioned his wife was big chested and his daughter looked to be going the same way (in reference to back pain)
He then carries on with normal chit chat but my gut feeling is this is not really appropriate conversation?
But then again, he’s in a position of trust, doing his job and it’s probably entirely innocent and I just feel a bit weird. Aibu?

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Nochangeplease · 27/02/2020 23:45

@AnneJeanne I’m not in that category 😂
I do t even know how it came up becuase it has no relevance to me.

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LangSpartacusCleg · 27/02/2020 23:44

Pervy or not, if you are uncomfortable for any reason whatsoever, find a new osteopath.

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Nochangeplease · 27/02/2020 23:44

Even the joke he made, is that really something you say to a woman you’ve just met who is laying down in just her bra, and more than likely already feeling slightly odd about it. As a professional, surely you consider these things. Maybe it’s his age though. Different generation.

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AnneJeanne · 27/02/2020 23:43

Perhaps he’s trying to assure you that back pain associated with large breasts is common? But you should still go with your gut!

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Nochangeplease · 27/02/2020 23:42

It sounds worse written down but generally he is just a chatty older man doing his job. I don’t know if I can go back though, which is a shame as I still need it and can’t afford to go private. But the thought of another half hour of feeling uncomfortable is too much.

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woodn · 27/02/2020 23:40

Mentioning his daughters chest is not automatically pervy!
I talk about mine hurting my back with my dad and he would bring it up in a conversation with my mum. We also discuss periods.
It's the modern world not the 1950s.

Strongmummy · 27/02/2020 23:40

If you feel uncomfortable find another practitioner

MrsEricBana · 27/02/2020 23:40

Inappropriate chat I agree. I'd swap.

Grobagsforever · 27/02/2020 23:38

Mentioning his daughter's chest is horrible. And the Ann Summers reference.

Perv. Maybe not an especially harmful one but perv all the same.