NDN complained about ball bouncing

I think it’s very reasonable of you to move the hoop and I don’t think it’s unreasonable to let him play in short bursts until that happens. It’s probably a good idea to let her know that’s the plan.

Having said that, I don’t think it’s unreasonable for your son to bounce a ball on concrete during the day. Yes it’s an annoying sound but way less irritating than loud talking or loud music.

I think you are being perfectly reasonable in moving it away. Assuming that will take a few days, I would limit his times and I would tell the NDN what limits you have set him (don't ask, tell, but politely). It will be probably be easier for her to tolerate if she knows what the deal is.

I think that by moving the hoop further down the garden you are providing a very reasonable compromise! If you were my neighbour I would be happy with that and suck it up re. the noise. It's his birthday ffs, let him out there again today to play, nothing wrong with it... part and parcel of living in close proximity to others. It's hardly an all night party...

The DS stopped when the NDN complained, though, Rosa, so they're not unreasonable. And the OP's DH is planning to move it to the other end of the garden, so this OP isn't being unreasonable about it.

If you live in close proximity to people, you should be decent. My parents would never have let us bounce a ball on concrete.

I wonder how far the nearest place is to play?

Reroute the damn thing to grass at least. Though I suppose the next thing we’ll get is “why should we spoil the grass”.

Playing games outside is the opposite of anti social surely? As otherwise, they’d be inside?!?...

This is normal day time noise. As pp have said.

Just because someone finds something annoying doesn’t make it reasonable to stop it.

He has every right to play with his ball in
his own home!

I have the right to do plenty of things, but a lot of times I avoid them or compromise as the are selfish / annoying / antisocial.

I think I'm in the minority here, I hate the noise of a bouncing ball, especially a basket ball as they are louder. I wish I could live up a mountain on my own but I have to find ways around the noise. NDN has a basket ball hoop in their garden, they have tarmac down so the nosie echoes more, it starts at 8am before school for half an hour then all day when they come home, on school holidays it's constant. They also have a tampoline that I can hear every squeak, then on top of that 2 kids that scream like wailing banshees non stop and then 6 dogs that run barking at the kids doing their games/play. I had asked her if she wanted the springy part off our trampoline as we were throwing it out, ours NEVER squeaked, but she told me to fuck off, so I bought cosy phones and I wear them when in the back of the house all the time. Maybe buy her cosy phone ?lol or maybe change where the hoop onto grass ? or get rubber mats ? or do nothing.

6 years up to 3 house a day we had this. Basketball hoop in neighbours garage. It was so annoying. When they rented the flat out another neighbour took it down- I assume so that no-one else could take up the hobby.

The same people here moaning about kids playing ball games will be the same ones moaning that kids are lazy nowadays and do nothing but okay computer games inside 🙄

He has every right to play with his ball in his own home!

Basketball hoop at the other end of the garden, then your DS will be bouncing his ball on grass not concrete. Problem solved.

Basketball dribbling on a hard surface? That would drive me up the wall. It is an extremely irritating, repetitive noise.

Same here.

Why can’t you move it to the end of the garden with a base? Your son can still play and the noise won’t annoy the neighbours?

I’m all for putting up with “normal household” noise. But a bouncing ball on concrete, is really REALLY annoying. Take it to the park.

Op, your son has a right to play with his ball. The neighbour does not have a right to silence during the day nor can she dictate what others do. Don't put her unreasonable demand over your son, just let him play. If this was late at night, early in the morning, or for an excessive time then she may have a point, but less than an hour during day time hours is fine.

If you live in close proximity to others you cannot behave as she is.

Nacreous I can honestly say I played outside loads as a kid and never bounced balls!

Honestly I can't believe the people on here that think someone has a right to tell someone else what they can do in their own garden. Tell your DS to crack on, its a bloody basketball not fireworks!! If it bothers her tell her to buy some ear plugs or go live on an island with no people.

Bouncing balls are horrendous. I'm with your neighbour sorry!

YANBU
It's your garden, he's not doing anything wrong, he's not using it first thing in the morning or late at night, he's not using it for hours at a time.

Sure it's an annoying noise. But kids have to be able to play outside. I am afraid I think she just needs to put up with it.

Is there anywhere nearby he can go if he wants to play a really long game, so he could just do e.g. 30 mins at a time at home?

It's your garden and it's the middle of the day!!!
8am - no
10pm - no
Middle of the day? Bounce as much as you like!!!

Your neighbour is BU. Family sized houses have gardens for children to play in, they should be outside playing not stuck inside looking at screens.

Your NDN was BU, I'd politely say its his birthday and he'll be playing with the ball in his own garden however he wants. We live in a community and need to learn to tolerate other peoples general daily noise, grass cutting, DIY, parties, sports etc are all part of life and don't last forever.