Makeup on an 11 year old.

I personally am 12 years old and back am allowed to year makeup to school. I do mascara, eyeliner, and highlighter. Not bc I wanna be older but bc I wanna feel good about myself. For all those moms who don’t allow there daughters to wear makeup at age twelve and don’t allow phones, I want you to realize that your kid may really want something and feel left out at school. I didn’t get a phone until I was twelve and all my friends had one at nine or ten and I used to cry bc i felt left out all the time and i don’t feel like i was enough.

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wow! for my child, that would be called 'cringy' and 'weird' and i totally agree with her. Your child is growing up, she shouldn't be playing with dolls and stuff anymore. My dd has moved on to more athletic things like horse-riding.

Funny how you never hear this sort of handwriting about boys growing up too fast. It's like there is something dirty about girls growing up. That to me sends a much worse message than a bit of make up

You're joking! When my ds was going on Y6 camp they had to ban aerosol products because otherwise there would literally have been a fug of LYNX lingering over everything.

Ds is now in Y7. Luckily he's not into LYNX yet but he's spends waaaay too long over his hair and spends a lot of his money on hair gel. God forbid I want him to wear a good coat - apparently that's not cool.

Some 11year old boys start body building or strengthening because need to for the sports they participate in

Please tell me which Uk sports governing organisation allows body building for 11 year old boys ?

I have allways allowed mine makeup, regardless of age.

I approach it with the attitude that it’s more like face paint. I don’t want them doing “subtle”, or thinking it’s grown up. Mine have the sparkliest of the sparkly eyeshadow and lip gloss etc- claires as pre-teens and my 15 yo has just moved on to the likes of urban decay.

In my opinion, women and girls always look better without make up. I don’t want my girls trying to improve their looks with make up. It should be fun and experimentational.

I find full on goth preferable to the “keep in neutral/natural/subtle” look. It’s a statement, an attitude, not an attempt to look better. As they look perfectly fine as they are.

My dd is in y6 and I think she would like to wear makeup at parties etc. She has lip gloss and I will take her to get her nails done from time to time and curl her hair. She hasn't pushed for more because she knows I would say she is too young, I think around a third of girls were we are put makeup on for parties.
It has nothing to do with boys for her.

Tell her to mind her own business

Some 11year old boys start body building or strengthening because need to for the sports they participate in.

Going of the deep end it isn’t and what everyone should have the same interests as you.

There’s too many people with far too much time on their hands and a lot of over thinking.

Funny how you never hear this sort of handwriting about boys growing up too fast. It's like there is something dirty about girls growing up. That to me sends a much worse message than a bit of make up.

I don't agree. If my sons at 11 year had asked for aftershave, or to start body-building or even if they'd asked for make-up (trying hard to find male equivalents of make-up) I'd have said no, just like I'd say no to my 11 year old daughter asking for make-up.

I'm not fond of anything that smacks of growing up too fast, regardless of whether they're boys or girls.

Trampire like I said I'm sure that will all change. I'm beyond happy that we're getting a bit more time of her being utterly carefree and unaffected by the pressures her friends are feeling.

I don't buy into the shaming of girls/women for wearing makeup at all. I'm just relieved that's currently not our world aside from anything else I'm going to loath spending money on makeup when I don't wear it

Hand wringing not hand writing!

I would think and 11 yo wearing makeup in public looked trashy and chav

My dd is y5

so she is ost likely 9, so totally irrelevant

Funny how you never hear this sort of handwriting about boys growing up too fast. It's like there is something dirty about girls growing up. That to me sends a much worse message than a bit of make up.

Way to go off the deep end Maldives2006. I'm not advocating sackcloth & ashes, just worried about girls & negative impacts of stereotyping and fixation on the value of feminine appearance & performance.
I guess I am biased from the other perspective, so find it difficult to comprehend having make-up, fashion etc as interests. I'm over-sensitive to it probably.

Wow. I live in Ireland and it is certainly not the norm for 11 year olds to wear make up.

We are making our children unhappy by putting our attitudes onto them. We are making our girls terrified of the world that is the problem. I’m sick and tired of mom’s who seem to think that they are superior because their daughters don’t want to dress as a fairy.

My 7year old daughter likes fairy’s, unicorns, fashion and make up. She is an extremely talented dancer, likes listening to Taylor Swift and Ariana Grande.

Am I supposed to tell her this is abnormal because it’s gender stereotyping. Feminism is about teaching our girls that they have choices.

Her emotional intelligence is advanced and she has an acute ability to read situations. She likes to play with her LOL’s and running around with her friends. She is kind, thoughtful, feisty and stubborn. She also happens to like sparkle lipgloss, glitter, wearing a bikini and having her hair curled (around 3 times a year). Maybe I should self refer to social services

I remember not liking Shout! because it was too Tweeny but my best mates mum insisted on getting her a subscription but there was too many posters and not enough real life/relationship stuff in there for us 😁

For me I think it was Just Seventeen who would have weekly advice on how to snog boys - practice of your own hands or an orange!

@Maldives2006 yes! I used to save the odd Position of the Fortnight in case I ever needed it ‘when I grew up’

Oh come of it I’m of the More Magazine position of the fortnight era, surprisingly I haven’t turned into a nymphomanic.

If an 11 year old girl wearing a little eye shadow and lip gloss is sexualising them. Then there is either a problem in how we’re bringing up boys or our problem.

I think at age 11 where they are now in secondary school, thinking about their GCSE's and what the seriously want to be when they grow up, you have to start treating them like the adult they are soon to be. If she's interested in it then let her. Although a bit of ruling about how much and where she wears it is understandable.

MsTSwift - it’s drawing for mine. I’ve spend eyewaterimg amounts on felt tip pens that graphic designers use.

She also really likes Emma Watson, who’s pretty solid as famous people go!