Two terminations in one year

I'm so sorry you are going through this, I'm sorry you have to go through this for a second time.

I had a similar situation and just because it's the right decision doesn't make it easier.

Please do what feels right, and after that talk to your partner about contraception, I understand not wanting to mess up your hormones with other hormones, it can be so tough.

Look after yourself and take the time you need to make the decisions you feel comfortable with.

There are no right or wrong choices.

OP, you sound as if you’re going through a horrible time I hope you feel better soon.
I’m not sure if it’s the same in your area, but in ours you can go to BPAS directly so you wouldn’t have to speak to the GP if you are anxious to do so.
That said, the GP won’t tell you you’ll have to keep it and are very understanding. I also think that perhaps speaking to the GP about your mental health via phone call would help, that way you wouldn’t actually have to see anyone face to face.

Op, I’m sure your partner will be supportive of you.
Your GP will refer you to the relevant services without battering an eyelid. You have to focus on your little one.
No one is going to make you continue your pregnancy against your will or make it difficult.
If you are having any doubts about this pregnancy you are entitled to counselling.

My lovely it sounds like you're having an awful time. No one will judge you if you have 2 terminations. It's your body to do what you want with. You sound so depressed and anxious. Is there anyway you could arrange a telephone consultation with your GP? I know mine does this. Tell them exactly how you're feeling, don't sugar coat anything. Failing this could you get a trusted friend/family member to go to the doctors with you? When I had severe anxiety issues, if I had to go anywhere, my aunt accompanied me.

@ohcomeon12321
You are a Twat of the highest order! At conception, the cells have the potential to be a child. It's not a baby! It certainly isn't viable.

I got pregnant on the pill twice so it can and does happen, so even if you were taking that it was possible. Please don’t blame yourself for this and please tell your DP so you hopefully don’t feel so alone with it. No one will judge you and no one will attempt to stop you (they’re not allowed to, you are protected by the UK law- thankfully). So sorry you’re going through this . Ask the GP to insert an implant or have the injection (whichever you feel is better) when you go for the termination so it’s all done in one.

Ohcomeon

Feel free to start a separate thread to discuss the entire issue of abortion. But do not start it in the middle of a thread where a distressed individual, with anxiety and depression is asking for help. That's just cruel.

Bambambi

They'll not judge. For your own sake, though, please try to see your GP both about your own mental health, and about your contraception options. Maybe if someone could go with you for support? The stress of coping with this situation cannot be good for you, so worth thinking how you can best cope with avoiding it in the future.

Dear OP,

Please make sure you get some help for your PND. You need to talk to your DP - but having gone through PND I know this is tough to do- perhaps you could talk to him at a counselling session? Your public health nurse or GP should be able to out you in touch with dedicated support for your depression and anxiety which is all related by the way - as in, there is postnatal depression and postnatal anxiety which occur at the same time.

Also, you need support and help for your termination and you will get that and no judgement as others here have reassured you.
Finally, while you are getting help your DP needs to step up to the plate, support you, take full responsibility for contraception and also needs to understand that maybe you do not feel like sex at this time - all of this is perfectly ok. What is not ok is your stress level, so please get in touch with your nurse or GP today to get more specialist postnatal help.

Love to you.

I really feel for you - I've never had a termination but I have supported friends through them previously.
You need to be strong and take action asap, don't defer and cancel or miss appointments as this will only make matters worse, the longer it goes on.
I would also recommend looking at getting the implant - there is always room for error on the pill and if you're in a place where you absolutely can't go through with a pregnancy you need a contraception that is more absolute - like condoms or the implant.
Certainly take action on your anxiety also - i had 3 CBT counselling sessions, referred by my GP, it totalling changed my life and gave me so many coping strategies. I was also on anti-depressents for anxiety, for about 14 months, again the best thing I've done and nothing to be ashamed of.
Wishing you lots of love and hope, 'the darkness is not a dead end, its a hallway - keep going'

bambambi

I can't add anything to the discussion beyond the other posters comments, but wanted to just voice my support for you.

Much love xxx

Bambambi, your DP loves you and I’m certain wouldn’t want you to think you are letting him down or bothering him by talking about your feelings. Please try and be kind to yourself.

You are being so brave, bambi and I am confident you will be treated with the dignity and respect you deserve. Just here to show solidarity.

Stop feeding the troll people, it's what it wants. Ignore it and focus on the OP's issue.

This is actually annoying me!

No, I’m not the thread police but continuing to discuss it, even if it’s in defence of choice, is not helpful to this particular woman, on this particular thread, who will have to trawl through all of it to get to the support.

Please. Just. Stop.

Yes abortion ends the fetus life but in an already over crowded world we need to prioritise the life that's already here - the mothers! No child should be brought into the world unloved or unwanted in those cases it's far better to abort than bring a child into the world to suffer. OP your struggling as it is there's nothing wrong with that and your brave enough to make a tough but necessary decision for your own mental health and wellbeing. The abortion services don't care about how many you've had so they definitely won't turn you away so don't worry about that. Just try to sort out some contraception soon even if it's just condoms (there's no reason for your DP not to use them!) for a while but you'll be fine, good luck

@ohcomeon12321
What i said was factually correct i cant believe so many posters dont realise an abortion ends the life of a mothers child

And I can't believe that someone who purports to care about human life would be so very, very cruel on a thread where the OP's heartbreak and depression is almost tangible

OP - I had 2 abortions in just over a year. One was a condom failure, the other was my fault for being careless. (My MH was atrocious at this point in my life; undiagnosed manic depression, these both happened during manic phases.) You’re obviously in a bit of a mess, MH wise at the moment, so I’m going to urge you to be kind to yourself. If DP wanted sex, condoms should have been used, the responsibility for contraception does not lie squarely on your shoulders.

As pro life, or rather, forced birthers - ODFOD.

Just ignore the fucker. Op doesn't need a debate on her thread. HQ are on the case.

what i said was factually correct i cant believe so many posters dont realise an abortion ends the life of a mothers child

Everyone knows, it just isn’t that important compared to someone’s mental health. Maybe you should swerve these threads.

You won’t be judged OP. It sounds as if you need outside help for your anxiety and your bloke needs to do his part here. Deal with this first and then start on the next part of your recovery.

Ah, lads. Seriously. The OP needs help. Not a debate on life versus choice!

@ohcomeon12321 the stage most abortions are carried out there is no consciousness. Its not a baby, not even a foetus, its an embryo. It has the potential to become a baby but so does every egg and sperm, so by that logic I assume you don't use any contraception to allow each egg to turn into a baby?

PLEASE ignore the cunt and don’t let it derail!

OP nobody is going to judge you, I promise.

But, but, but...

You don’t OWE your dp sex. You are NOT “letting him down”.

And if abortion and contraception are triggering your anxiety and depression, he really should be taking responsibility for contraception.

This is not all on you. It really isn’t.

Nobody's going to make you go through with a pregnancy as a punishment.

It will be okay.

I'd consider getting this thread moved OP. It's only going to bring out the rabid forced birther cunts such as oh when you actually need support .