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I am stunned at this wedding list

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Bananaknickers · 01/03/2007 09:54

Family member is getting married for the second time. She pinched her husband to be from his first wife( she was married too).He has his own business and she works full time. Now they have sent us a list from John Lewis if we want to buy something from there although they say we have lots already. Here's the good bit, they would like cash donations as they are building an extention on the side of their house

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Greeves · 01/03/2007 10:44

So, what ARE grannycrackers? Is it an oblique reference to Madonna's thighs? Are you Madonna?

Cappuccino · 01/03/2007 10:44

I still remember the friends who didn't have a wedding list for all these reasons

someone bought them a massive ornamental wooden horse that screwed together in two sections

how they ate their words then

MrsJohnCusack · 01/03/2007 10:44

oh I would want to buy a present (and have done) for anyone getting married - love buying presents, and would prefer to get them something they'd actually use/like - so I'd ask.

BUT there is a way of doing things without being grasping AND I wouldn't want to help pay for their bloody extension either.

Blu · 01/03/2007 10:43

I'm agreeing with you in a sort of 'yes exactly - it's an obligation rather than asking for presents'...but definitely not being catty. Humorously wry describes my feelings towards wedding lists

lostinfrance · 01/03/2007 10:43

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morningpaper · 01/03/2007 10:43

Why would anyone use a soup tureen?

What is wrong with the saucepan?

Do they like cold soup and having more things to wash up?

grannycrackers · 01/03/2007 10:43

Morning paper have ou ever reamrried or are you living the life of a lonely spinster whose only way to spend time is by analysing and judging the actions of others.

Weddings are like christenbings or birthdays people expect to buy and recieve gifts regardless of how economically stbale they are, and it's more about the thought than the cost at teh end of the day isnt it.

This is grannycrackers second eldest daughter.

Carmenere · 01/03/2007 10:42

Ugh, I can just imagine being served a lumpy cold soup from that with bits of dust at the bottom because it is only used once a year[boak]

Blu · 01/03/2007 10:42

Looks more like an urn for Elton John's ashes.

Cappuccino · 01/03/2007 10:42

Blu are you agreeing with me or being catty?

I'm not very bright

morningpaper · 01/03/2007 10:42

It looks like it's been extracted from someone's lower bowel.

Cappuccino · 01/03/2007 10:41

I'd rather have new extension

thanks all the same

Blu · 01/03/2007 10:41

Cappuccino - yes, that sounds exactly the etiquette of a well-structured sense of obligation and guilt-tripping!

[embittered unmarried and jealous of anyone with matching soup bowls never mind a f*ng tureen emoticon]

I can't ever imagine using a soup tureen.

Greeves · 01/03/2007 10:41

Fuck, that's an ugly piece of crockery

morningpaper · 01/03/2007 10:40

Would you want this on your dinner table?

Carmenere · 01/03/2007 10:39

Beg Pardon

Cappuccino · 01/03/2007 10:39

they were your idea

morningpaper · 01/03/2007 10:38

Jeez not the soup tureens

They look EXTREMELY heavy

morningpaper · 01/03/2007 10:38

I said BUGGERED

I am happy to admit that I am an embarassed middle-aged woman looking back on my big buggered up marriage

Cappuccino · 01/03/2007 10:38

you don't ask for presents

a wedding list is guidance

you put 'wedding list on request' on the invites and if they request it you supply it

if they don't you just mutter about them behind their back

simple etiquette really

vwvic · 01/03/2007 10:37

We did something similar to sauce. Our wedding invitations stated that we categorically did not want to receive any presents, just peoples time, ie, they came to the wedding. We found ourselves besieged with phone calls asking us "no, really, what do you want?"! We tried so hard to put people off, but in the end most people gave us cash because they knew that we wouldn't otherwise have had a honeymoon. Our lovely family (and there were on 50 people there) gave us over £500- an absolutely massive amount of money for us.

Cappuccino · 01/03/2007 10:36

let's all gang up on mp

let's hit her with soup tureens

BoolieTC · 01/03/2007 10:36

Wedding lists are always tricky, though they sound like they are taking the p*!

I'm a Travel Counsellor and we run a bridal registry service that pays for honeymoons, its really popular with second marriages and families with kids for familymoons. We organise it all so its better and less embarrassing than handing the b&g cash or vouchers too.

morningpaper · 01/03/2007 10:36

Cappucino I DO think that ASKING for presents for a second wedding is rude. What's so extreme about that?

If people want to give presents that's fine. It's the assumed OBLIGATION that I think is horrid.

Carmenere · 01/03/2007 10:36

Mp that comment about middle aged people fucking up their lives is out of order. My dp hasn't fucked up his life, he is only just sorting it out, it was a fuck up before he met me and when we get married we will have something to celebrate

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