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TTC After Pregnancy Loss Thread 22.

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HidCat Fri 08-Jun-18 20:30:13


A thread for all those who have suffered the loss of a much wanted baby. Affectionately know as the penguin huddle.

We'll start with a roll call as there have been so many new members lately and so many success stories that I think we've all lost track.

Age 35
TTC #2
DS 5
MC at 11wks in January
Cycle 3 post MC, trying since August 2017


Pampl3m0usse Fri 08-Jun-18 20:39:43

Marking my place...

Age 34
DD7, DS5, DD2.
MC at 10 weeks in May
In my 1st cycle post MC

I've been lurking as returned to work on Tuesday following my MMC. To say its been horrendous (for a number of reasons) is an understatement. I'm a nursery teacher and fortunately the very lovely parents of the children I teach have been much much nicer to me than the rest of my staff. My head has been nothing short of vile, wanted the sickness recorded as 'stress' rather than pregnancy and then started wittering about disciplinary procedures (I've only had time off for the MC despite my Mum's suicide and Gran's death this year).

Anyway may need some extra handholding as have been sobbing since I got home and sure AF is about to make itself known early next week (currently 9dpo and stupidly tested with a CB early test and got a predictable -ve).

Boboelephant Fri 08-Jun-18 20:51:07

Thanks for setting up new thread @HidCat πŸ˜€
Oh @Pampl3m0usse so sorry. That sounds awful, I'm so sorry. We are all here for hand holding and virtual hugs.

Age: 35
TTC #2
DS 2
MMC at 10 weeks in December 2017. Ectopic rupture in November 2016.
Cycle 5 post MC. Trying since September 2016.

DaisyMay25 Fri 08-Jun-18 20:52:16

Checking in!

Age 27
TTC #1
MC at six weeks in September
Cycle 10 post mc, trying to conceive since May 2017

Lovewinemorethanhusband Fri 08-Jun-18 21:02:46

Checking in
Age 37!
Ds5, dd3
MMC Feb 2018
Cycle #4
Trying not to be obsessive about opks, Cwm, poas but failing miserably

Lilimum4 Fri 08-Jun-18 21:03:33

I'm here
Age 36
TTC #3
Cycle 3 since mmc march 2018

Blondcat Fri 08-Jun-18 21:08:19

Place marking here
Age 36
Ttc #1
Mc at 6 weeks in April
Cycle 2 since mc trying since Sept 2017

Jessabean Fri 08-Jun-18 21:09:26

Hi I had just been about to check in on the old thread & saw we're on a new one so thought id joint the roll call!

Age: 29
TTC: number 1
Mc hx: Natural MC 1 late Dec 2017 at 8weeks. MMC MC2 at 12 week scan end of March 2018.
Been trying ish since Oct 2017.
Had one unsuccessful month of trying 2nd cycle post mc and now having to take an interval until August/maybe July if I'm lucky as OH is working away πŸ™. But hovering as this really is a great huddle 🐧

So sorry @Pampl3m0usse your head sounds foul! Poor you. 🐧
I saw a car licence plate that was personalised with JKS in it today- literally made my day! πŸ˜‚ Had to share. Getting ready to go on holiday this weekend and have been to GO to organise some counseling as have been feeling my negative days have been going on a bit too much now. So already feeling much more positive at the mo!

sweetpea0318 Fri 08-Jun-18 21:18:51

Evening all,

Joining in with the new thread!

38 y/o
TTC #2
DD 2.5
MC at 6 weeks @ end of March
Cycle 1 since mc - ttc since Sept 2017

Big hugs to all those struggling at the moment xxx

KeefBurtain Fri 08-Jun-18 21:23:22

Age 37
Ttc #4
Dd14, ds13, ds 11 months
Mc April 25th @ 11+3 (baby died at 7 weeks)
Cd 12

-Tive opk for the last 3 days but line getting darker - does that mean I’m getting closer to a +tive?

Cakelaur Fri 08-Jun-18 21:25:48

Just checking in so I can keep up with alla you lovely amazing penguins!! 😘

RedRobin7 Fri 08-Jun-18 21:30:11

Hi all,

Just checking in!

Age 29
TTC #1
Cycle #1 post MMC at 12 weeks
Been trying on and off since June '16

@L1zz13 I didn't want you to feel alone. I am pleased you have a nice counsellor. I'm not connecting with mine and it feels awkward so that doesn't help! I'm sure she's judging me. Thank you for your words of comfort. I really hope I manage to get there. I really just want to get a BFP this month so that I don't have to keep trying to persuade my DH every month. I am just so tired of it. As mentioned above, we've been trying on and off since we got married two years ago. First cycle was June 16 and now we are in 2018! We haven't been tested but my husband was quite ill back then so I think he had poor sperm. As we managed to get pregnant this January maybe we still have a chance!

I'm sorry you feel you need to take a break. I hope your DH will change his mind as he knows how much this means to you x

KnitKitty Fri 08-Jun-18 21:55:59

Checking in:

Age 30
TTC #1
TTC since Dec '17
MMC and ERPC in March (following 2 failed attempts at medical management)
CP last week
Cycle 2 since MC
currently CD7

Currently taking a turn on the outside of the huddle because I feel like despite the CP last week I'm my old self again and feeling a lot more positive about life in general.

To those struggling (((((Big Hugs))))) I'm glad a lot of you are getting the counselling you need.

Pample3m0usse Holding your hand through this difficult time. So sorry you're going through this. Getting back to work is tough. I hope things start to get easier for you soon.

zarala Fri 08-Jun-18 21:56:24

Hey ladies
Checking in

TTC #2
DD 19months old
MC1- August 2017-5w6days
MC2 -MMC Dec 2017 discovered at 12 week scan after seeing lovely heartbeat at 7 weeks. Died at 9w4days
MC3-MMC March 2018 discovered at 8 week scan after seeing strong heartbeat at 6 weeks. Died 6w5days

Took 3 month break, seeing Dr Shehata and starting his treatment plan this week
Cycle #1 just starting FW!

Lots of hugs too all 🐧

strawberrye Fri 08-Jun-18 21:59:23

Hello all! Marking place on roll call

Age 27
TTC #1
2x natural MC at 5-6 weeks, 1st in January 2018, 2nd in April 2018
Cycle 3 post 2nd MC
TTC since October 2017

weasledee Fri 08-Jun-18 22:00:55

Checking in
Ttc no. 3
DC 8 and 5
Age 42 - the award nobody wants, oldest member of the huddle grin
Had loss last year at 14 weeks

Thinking her Ttc journey is coming to an end but trying to remain hopeful ...... smile
Waiting for AF with some big cramps tonight!

KnitKitty Fri 08-Jun-18 22:07:06

Got a good feeling for you this cycle zarala. smile

Pancakes7 Fri 08-Jun-18 22:21:37

Age 30
Ttc since Feb
Trying for first baby
1 pregnancy ended in mmc at just under 11 weeks May 2018.

Yukka Fri 08-Jun-18 22:26:09

Just had chance to catch up. Thanks for new thread, checking in...
Age 39
Mc 5w September
Mc 5w December
Mc 10w May
Referral appt 12 July
Coping mechanisms: good books, good wine and great shoes

....and this thread smile

Nothing on opks yet. About to start dtd next week in case of little miracle smile

Yukka Fri 08-Jun-18 22:29:53

@pamplemousse and @pancakes think we were on December 18 thread together. Keep positive - we'll get there xx

Tefiti2 Fri 08-Jun-18 22:32:25

Age 24
TTC #2
DC 4
MC 1 at 5 weeks in Jan 18
MC 2 at 5 weeks in April 18

Currently 4dpo and feeling positive! Sorry to anyone struggling - we can all understand flowers

littleemma1 Fri 08-Jun-18 22:33:17

Placing my mark on this one and will try my hardest to keep up :D

TTC #1
About to get married!!! (had to get this in there, its what is getting me through)
Natural MC @ 5 weeks after finding out at 4w5days.
Severe PCOS on right ovary, diagnosed February this year with little likelihood of conceiving naturally. Been trying since May2017.

Trying not to obsess over OPK's and I'm no good at tracking CM so thats not gonna happen, BBT not possible as I'm restless and dont get the same amount of sleep every night.

Having a total conundrum over what to do RE: 1st AF post MC. They say AF is due around 4-6w (assuming you dont conceive!) after MC but this would fall right at the time of the honeymoon! :/ so I have some Nortiserone which I could start taking on Monday for 10 days which will induce first AF OR wait til day before wedding and take it to delay period over wedding/honeymoon. OH and I are kind of agreeing that I will do some OPK's and if I dont get a STRONG +ve then I will use them over wedding/honeymoon time to stop period/bring first one on! Sorry for the waffle.

hayleyfx Fri 08-Jun-18 22:35:00

Hi ladies just checking in! & sending hugs to everyone having a tough time flowers

Yukka Fri 08-Jun-18 22:43:35

When do you get married @littleemma? And how many weeks post mc are you?
Honestly - I'd be tempted to bring on that AF then make the absolute most of your wedding experience. You deserve to remember it as an amazing time - and to give your mind some time away enjoying something else.

However I am a control freak smile

brianodriscoll Fri 08-Jun-18 22:47:52

Can I join you all?
TTC #1
MMC in Feb at 6 weeks
Trying since December 2017

Absolutely paranoid that the surgical management of the MMC I had has damaged something - got pregnant quite quickly before!

Trying not to be a crazy person about it all so nice to join some likeminded people!

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