TTC After Pregnancy Loss Thread 22.

[HidCat]

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A thread for all those who have suffered the loss of a much wanted baby. Affectionately know as the penguin huddle.

We'll start with a roll call as there have been so many new members lately and so many success stories that I think we've all lost track.

HidCat
Age 35
TTC #2
DS 5
MC at 11wks in January
Cycle 3 post MC, trying since August 2017

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@littleemma nothing to judge you for :) just googled that drug looks like it's supposed to delay period which I guess might not be ideal for first after mc. But, you were 5w, my first two at 5 weeks next cycle was practically unaffected both times, maybe 2 days out but not weeks. We are all different but could be worth waiting. If af arrived in two weeks you would then be jks for honeymoon?!

Depends on your cycle x

Age 42
MC at 13 weeks in April -baby passed at 9 weeks. Natural miscarriage hence reason for long delay in waiting for baby to come out x Found out baby had no heartbeat at 11 weeks x
TTC #4
CD12 after first AF after MC.
Flashy smiley face on digital OPK for three days now . Baby dance at CD9 & CD10. Hoping for a baby dance tonight but DH , although on board, is very worried about another MC and FIL is very ill so mind elsewhere...
Fx for all on this thread for BFP's xx

Yellow daffodils86
Age 31
TTC # 1
MC at 6w4d
Cycle 3 post MC
Trying since Jan 2018

(Looks wierd written down, like its not about me)

I think im 1dpo, AF due the day we fly off on holiday, packing some FRER!
Hoping countdown to holiday will distract me from tww.

@Pampl3m0usse 🤝 cant believe people ate so heartless and cruel. Sorry you feel so sad, i wish things were easier for you.

@KeefBurtain Yes it does, +ve is very very close!

@littleemma1 Ah congrats, im coming up
To my first wedding anniversary.

Marking my place also

TTC #2 since October 2017
MMC back in February at 8 weeks
On cycle 4 but not sure how accurate that is as didn't pass any tissue until the end of April nearly 8 weeks after MC, despite AF being reasonably regular after MC

Trying not to be obsessive with ovulation and baby making and glad I have this for some support, thanks@HidCat

Sorry posted too soon I am 29

@Yukka thank you for the none judging!
Yes, it’s used primarily for delay but I’ve been using it for months (as recommended by gynae) to try and regulate every month without having BC. I have taken every month from day 20-30 which induced AF day 33/34. I don’t know what my “natural” cycle is because the first time I would’ve had one we conceived 😳

Cleozeta
Age 41 (boooo)
Ttc #3
DS7 DD5
Mmc in may at 10 weeks
Awaiting 1st af next week

Just marking my place - apologies for being AWOL....it’s been a tough month!
Age: 34
TTC #1
Missed MC at 12weeks in January
Trying since July 2017
Cycle 5 since MC

Hi Everyone, marking my place

Anyday88
Age 30
Ttc #3 since March 2018
Dd1: 3 Dd2: 17 Months
Mc April 2018 at 5 weeks 1 day
12dpo 1st cycle since MC tested this morning but bfn and feeling like I am out now as had my positive tests by this point in previous pregnancies.

Thank you for all of the kind wishes.

I really needed it ... BFN this morning at 10dpo but I'm pretty sure I'm out anyway (acne and sobby - the latter might just be down to work though!). Anyday88 looks like we'll be near cycle buddies next cycle.

Lovely to see so many of you trying for number three and four!

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@Pampl3m0usse I'm so sorry Hun. Bosses can be arseholes all too often. Straight to the middle of the huddle with you. 🐧🐧

@Jessabean sounds like a good opportunity to take some time for yourself and relax.

@KeefBurtain I never got a positive opk as my surge was so quick but if the darkening is around where you expect to ovulate then take it as ovulation.

@littleemma1 Exciting times!

@hayleyfx how are you?

@Anyday88 holding on to the little glimmer of hope for you Hun.

Seeing the roll call just shows me how many amazing people we have on this thread (nearly 30!). We've all been through so much and yet we're still hopeful for the future. I love this crazy group of penguins! Bring us our rainbows please oh lucky thread 🌈🌈🌈🌈🌈🌈🌈🌈🌈🌈🌈🌈

I may have an emoji problem...

Ooh shiny new thread-hoorah!

This is me:
Laney79
Age 38
TTC #1
1 MMC (BFP 18/2, private scan showed bean too small at 5wks rather than 9wks on 17/3, physically miscarried end of April, BFN 8/5)
Cycle 1 post MC
Came off pill sept 2017.

Morning all marking my place

Lovemysparkle
Age 39
Will have dh next week wedding day ❤️
Ds 13
Ttc#2
Mmc 8+3 dec 16
Early mc 4+3 May 17
Mc 7+0 July 17
Under professor manyonda at rmc will receive treatment as soon as next bfp
Cycle#7 since last mc
On cd28 (usually af arrives cd26) so just waiting......

Read through everyone, glad it's not just me that's in late 30's
I'm 3dpo but not feeling very positive that this is our month.
Anyone also dieting whilst TTC I'm on slimfast and doing well on it but am concerned all the vitamin A in it, would stop as soon as positive test but it still worries me doctor has said it's fine to use until then

Hello everyone and welcome to newbies!!

@Jessabean haha! Love the JKS numberplate! 😂
@KeefBurtain yep!!! Go get your DH!
@RedRobin7 if you are not connecting with your counsellor please try and bring it up with her in your session. The biggest predictor by far of therapy being successful is the therapeutic relationship/alliance. Any trained counsellor/therapist should ideally recognise this and be open to working through it. If things don't improve then request a different counsellor. You need to trust your therapist and never feel judged.
@littleemma1 oh that's tough. I would assume that if you had an early natural loss that your cycles would be as they normally are. Although that sounds difficult to predict. Maybe just stick to your plan of checking opks.
@Anyday88 and @Pampl3m0usse sorry for bfns. Hope af stays away.
@HidCat haha I love a good emoji!! 😀👍🐧🌈❤
@Lovemysparkle ooh wedding day soon!!!! I cant quite remember- did you hold off this month with ttc?
@L1zz13 I hope you get your number 4 if that's what you want. If you decide not to, enjoy your sailing! ❤
5dpo here. Convinced I'm having all sorts of lower belly twinges although know it's too early for it to be anything. Ahh fast forward one week please!!

Pampl3m0usse

@Lovemysparkle have you tested yet this month or do you have irregular cycles sometimes?

@Lovewinemorethanhusband I know, it's so reassuring how many of us are a bit older. I'm not dieting per se but I am trying to improve my eating habits. Demolished a share bar of chocolate and a bag of popcorn last night due to PMS (honest) but have reduced my bread intake and less snacking. Lost half a stone so far. I'm hoping that by doing it that way I won't need to change anything when I get pregnant.

@Boboelephant IM SO EXCITED FOR YOU!!!! I'm dying to see what your test says! Im not sure I can't wait until you're 11dpo!!! Haha!!

Haha @Cakelaur thanks! I so hope this is my month!! We could start a 'marathon, pineapple and progesterone' success movement! 😂😂

rdm
Age 34
Ttc no2
Ds 2.5
Mc Feb 2018 at 10 wks
Cycle 3 since mc

@boboelephant Thank you. Fx for you this month too x

@Lovemysparkle ooh fx it’s a BFP- what a lovely wedding present!

Thanks @Yukka yes I was in December 2018 group...

My ovulation test had a faint line on Thursday. Then I took it yesterday and it was blank? I did take it much later in the day. Is that enough to change the result? Didn't manage to dtd last night ☹ but will try today.

@Pancakes7 if you are using the IC's they can change drastically depending on time of day before they become positive. The photos I can find are not brilliant but to give you an idea. I got quite a dark line here and then the others on the same day are non existant. Fyi I didn't get my positive until about 4 days later, the line just changed darker and lighter until then. When you get a positive it's unmistakable- second pic.

Thanks @Boboelephant that makes me feel better. I will keep testing. Think I need to buy more! Lol

@littlemma the small tiny miniscule upside to mc under 5w is that you can count the first day of 'bleed' the same as a period. So if that was 23 may, day 20 is Monday 11th, day 30 is thurs 21st so period should arrive 23rd ish June. Well in advance on wedding, hurray!

So I guess your options are to do what you normally do and start taking on Monday OR just do nothing and see what happens if your not completely comfortable putting more hormone in your body.

I read up again on that med and it is a progesterone only pill. I was on desogetral -a slightly newer version of yours- for 10 years and if taken full time it can stop Lh and OV completely. I had no periods at all whilst on it.

If you are certain you are ov every month before starting it then that should be ok but perhaps you should wait for ov green light this time as there is a small risk taking this could prevent it. Perhaps double check with your gyne again?

I chatted with consultant on 3rd mc re the link between progesterone and mc She agreed there is a link but not enough research yet.But this has been the case for a long time.

It so hard to make decisions after mc because "everything is common" bleeding, not bleeding, quick ov, no ov, symptoms, symptom loss - "yes it is very common mrs x" but Its so important that we keep going back to the experts if we're not feeling certain or comfortable. We all have the right to insist on knowing what's going on with our body's.

Sorry! Rant over!! Currently brown spotting, could be slow arrival of first af and maybe this is pms. Would be pleasantly surprised though as it would be 'on time' . But brown spotting is very common mrs x!

Arrgghhh!

Happy Saturday ladies x

@HidCat I’m alright thanks! 5+5 today, just over a week until scan. Taking it one day at a time, very nervous still but staying as positive as I can 😊 fingers crossed that June is your month🤞

@Boboelephant I’m feeling so excited for you too! 😀 this has got to be your month, seriously! Haha 🤞