TTC After Pregnancy Loss Thread 22.

[HidCat]

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A thread for all those who have suffered the loss of a much wanted baby. Affectionately know as the penguin huddle.

We'll start with a roll call as there have been so many new members lately and so many success stories that I think we've all lost track.

HidCat
Age 35
TTC #2
DS 5
MC at 11wks in January
Cycle 3 post MC, trying since August 2017

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[littleemma1]

Yep I have too much going on with the wedding now so I have to focus on that which I think will be a good distraction from TWW!

Keeping everything crossed for everyone, old and new on this thread ❤️🤞🏼

I’ll be lurking so I can send all my congratulations when we get our BFP’s.
Baby dust to everyone ✨💐

[zarala]

I'm not sure if I have ovulated yet...
I had a sharp drop in bbt this morning - am I right to believe this is an indicator that ovulation is imminent?
My digital CB OPK didn't work this morning - 🙄 but was flashing smile yesterday- so not sure if I'm at peak yet... I'm expecting ovulation today or tomorrow I think
Then will start the TWW!
Didn't manage to JKS yesterday (I had a cheeky toke on a spliff last night thinking it would be fun for JKS but that just knocked me out! 🤦🏻‍♀️ silly me! Haha) so need to somehow manage some daytime JKS today - we have 2 2-yr old birthday parties to attend so not sure how we going to manage) haha

[Boboelephant]

@Murderino hopefully they are!!!
@littleemma1 good luck with the chilling! Wedding prep is definitely a good distraction! So exciting. I loved my wedding so much- wish we were getting married again!
@RedRobin7 when is 13dpo for you? I have a 12 day luteal phase so my af is due next Sunday. I would like to pretend that I will wait until then but I'm pretty sure I'll end up joining POAS Friday at 11dpo.

[Boboelephant]

@zarala 😂😂😂 Your post cracked me up!! 😴😴 the drop is very often right before ovulation and if it spikes tomorrow, today will be counted as ovulation day. So defi try and JKS. Maybe you can all have a 'nap' between parties. My DH always says a quickie helps him sleep!

[RedRobin7]

@littleemma1 Final wedding prep is definitely a good distraction! I hope you enjoy every minute of it.

@Boboelephant That's good you don't have as long to wait! I just realised it would be Wednesday 20th that's 13dpo but I don't like the number 20 any more... found out I was pregnant 20th Jan and found out about my MMC on 20th March so I think it's time for a different number and hopefully better luck! I'll try to wait until Tuesday 19th! I definitely overthink these things 🙄

[Boboelephant]

@RedRobin7 yep it makes the tww a bit quicker which is good but sucks on the other end when everyone else is finished af and then bang fw and I'm just sitting around waiting!
Tuesday 19th sounds like a good idea. 🤞

[Blondcat]

I am not sure when I ovulated but probably Friday /yesterday based on ewcm and usual pattern just trying to stay relaxed and not tracking so assuming now in tww.

[KeefBurtain]

I’m not getting anywhere with opks. Ovia and ff both say I should be fertile today/tomorrow but still a negative test plus no Cm or other signs at all.

My first period came 28 days post mc, and I got a +tive opk on day 14. It started with brown spotting then just a normal light/medium 5 day period so I think I was lulled into thinking things were back to normal in that department, but I guess not 😢
So frustrating

[KeefBurtain]

^ovulating today/tomorrow

[Murderino]

@Boboelephant what parallel universe is this where we pray for nausea and sore boobs and spotty faces 🤦🏼‍♀️

Just a noticed some v. Lbcm this morning at cd22 prob 5/6 dpo - new for me fx implantation...

Also feeling so so positive lately, so even if it's not good news it's best to keep that chin up!

[YellowDaffodils86]

@hayleyfx good luck next week for scan.

@Pearcrumble ah sorry you felt that way, but you are not over reacting. Your loss was the same time as mine 6+4. As soon as that positive occurs, plans and ideas and hopes are made, so when they are ripped away, that's hard.
I do feel for those that have had later losses though, mine was hard enough.

@Pancakes7 your day sounded lovely, how was the quiche? Did you manage some
Bd?

@littleemma1 I agree with @Boboelephant And @DaisyMay25
I missed my positive this month, i only tested every 24hrs, had almost positive then had a negative. So assumed my positive would have been in between.
If you did ov when we suspect, we are only a day apart.
You should expect af/bfp in 2 weeks.
@Boboelephant Is right yesterday would be 1dpo.

@UnicornsandRainbows1 Sorry about your fall, glad things are ok.

@L1zz13 Im sorry, hope you are ok, iv followed last few days without managing to
Post, but seen what you have been going through.

@Lovewinemorethanhusband "Fanny daggers" 😂

@Boboelephant Super massive big crossed fingers this is your month!!!!! What dpo are you?

[sweetpea0318]

Aaah 2WW driving me loopy! Sore boobs for several days now & cant stop thinking ‘what if’ even though I know it’s unlikely to happen this month. 9dpo and counting... 😳

[YellowDaffodils86]

@RedRobin7🙋🏼‍♀️im due af 20th. Looks like we are at the same point in cycle. Good luck!
@Boboelephant you must be 3/4 days ahead of me.

[Pancakes7]

Dh is hungover but managed to dtd and he's now napping lol. Fx we will be lucky!

[Murderino]

@sweetpea0318 there really should be a 'practical guide through the tww' things to keep us busy and distracted.

Might set myself some goals and start them at the beginning of each tww. Def have a lot of decorating to do...

Hopefully this is my last tww and nothing actually gets done 😁

[Anyday88]

Morning everyone! How are you all today?

Where are you all in your Cycles?

I have had pink tinged cm this morning so really confused as I never normally get spotting before Af it just normally turns up in full force and when I have been pregnant I haven't had anything so 🤷🏼‍♀️

Happy Sunday everyone 😊

[Funkyemzie]

@Boboelephant probs won't test now for another couple of days, af due either today or tomorrow but no symptoms except tender nips as of yet but that's not unusual, I don't tend to get anything except a little bit of nausea until af is imminent or actually here so not concerned. Had a massive temp drop this morning, not below cover line but more than .02 degrees.

How r u getting on?

@littlemma1 how lovely, I would love to be planning for a wedding rather than moving house, we complete next Friday so if I'm out this month I won't be upset cuz of all the lifting and carrying. Me and OH have been together for 14 years now so gone past the point of waiting for that special ring! 😂

@Murderino thats a great idea about setting goals...what sort of things were you thinking? Xxx

[KnitKitty]

Morning all,

A lot of you seem to be in your TTW or around ovulation, so good luck to you all!!

I'm twiddling my thumbs waiting for FW to start. I don't do OPKs or temping so I've just narrowed down ovulation to being between the 16th and 21st so thinking FW will be between 13th and 22nd but trying not to obsess this month and I don't really feel like it is my month so managing to feel quite chill right now. OH doesn't have the highest sex drive so will aim to JKS every 2 or 3 days but this might not pan out. Just leaving it in the hands of fate.

At the moment I'm trying to focus on understanding my cycles rather than TTC, so I'm keeping an eye on CM and planning to chart when AF is for the next few months so I get a better idea of when I ovulate. I feel like getting to know my body this way is a helpful focus for me so I don't get too obsessive about symptom spotting and feeling upset if OH isn't in the mood when I want him to be. This is a new technique I'm trying, so will let you know if I'm still managing to stay chill throughout the rest of my cycle. very much doubt it

[Cleozeta]

10dpo today and resisting early testing. I don't have massively high hopes this time as have not had 1st af from mc yet. No symptoms but af cramping started yesterday so I hope LP is not too short. 2ww still doesn't fail to drive me nuts.

[Boboelephant]

@KeefBurtain quite a few of us had a pretty regular 1st af and then the second cycle was out. Hopefully your body sorts itself out soon.
@Murderino haha! I'm a bit the opposite this month. I have been tracking symptoms for ages and since MC every cycle I have nausea, backache, incredibly sore boobs, fatigue etc. This month I'm great! Basically nothing at all except some stomach twinges. So of course am wildly excited that this means this is my month! 🤦‍♀️ fx for you for implantation! And I love the tww goal idea!!!
@YellowDaffodils86 6dpo today. Willing the week to go faster!!!
@Anyday88 ooh hopefully you have a late implanter!!
@Funkyemzie I'll keep everything crossed for you. I'm hoping that lack of symptoms is a good thing!! So many people get their bfps and say oh I had no symptoms. I'm ok. Done all I can this month and doing lots of yoga and meditation to calm my mind so now I can only hope.
@KnitKitty sounds like a good idea. I find it much more helpful to know my cycles!
@cleozeta fingers crossed af stays away.

[Murderino]

@Funkyemzie thanks - I've just moved house so got a lot of rooms to make my own although no real budget as we need new windows.

Maybe I'll sand all the skirting 😒

I have just acquired a sewing machine so I'm going to challenge myself to learn how to use it (it's been a while) and make myself something 😁

I also write a blog so will try and keep that active one way or another everyday - here we go!

[Pancakes7]

I've just had alot of cm very egg white like. We dtd this morning and e times this week. I hope it's enough.

[Pancakes7]

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[Maydot]

@KnitKitty I’m also due to ovulate some time around the 18th. Think i’m going to do opks and jks!!!..... but trying not to stress about it too much. 😝

[Anyday88]

Thanks @boboelephant the more the day goes on I am convinced af is going to appear!