TTC After Pregnancy Loss Thread 22.

[HidCat]

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A thread for all those who have suffered the loss of a much wanted baby. Affectionately know as the penguin huddle.

We'll start with a roll call as there have been so many new members lately and so many success stories that I think we've all lost track.

HidCat
Age 35
TTC #2
DS 5
MC at 11wks in January
Cycle 3 post MC, trying since August 2017

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[MrsGS76]

@Pampl3m0usse still holding out for a BFP for you, fx. Xxx
@KeefBurtain think we are TTC buddies, I got a static smiley face on digital OPK this mornings which means peak time for ovulation, I am CD13 today and have BD on CD9, CD10, CD12. The only thing I will be confused about is when to start DPO? The OPK test days I'm ovulating in next 48 hours so I guess I'll class Monday as 1dpo? Fx for you this month xx
@Anyday88 so sorry you're out! Sending virtual hugs! What test did d you use ?
@weasledee , so did your cramps amount to AF? Seems like there is slot of oldies on here TTC , I'm 42 and still feel young!!! Fx for you xx
@KnitKitty glad you are your old self again, time is definitely a healer , I've been feeling more positive over the lady week too xx fx for you x
To all that are struggling to get their DH on board, I know how you feel, I've had to 'beg' him to have our last 2 DC, he thinks about the practical elements like childcare etc but once they were born he fell in love with them straight away and is a fantastic father!! I would always tell him that we would never look at our children and regret having them but I would resent him in years to come for not having another one. He seemed to understand and as a marriage is all about compromise, he agreed. In the same time I looked at how I could compromise with him and be a better wife. Fx for you all xx

Anyone else on CD23? X

[Boboelephant]

@Pancakes7 yep I buy them in packs of 50! 😂
@Yukka hope the spotting turns into something clear soon. The 'everything is normal is annoying!!
@hayleyfx ooh hope next week comes quickly for your scan! And for me too actually! Haha I hope so! I think I've done literally everything I can. Just finished some fertility yoga and I'm going to acupuncture on Tuesday at 8dpo to hopefully make sure an eggie implants! I know I have to accept that it can take me longer due to my missing fallopian tube but I think it's time now!! 🤞🤞

[MisBit1]

Bit late to the roll call but checking in.

Age:36
TTC #2
DS 2
MC1: 5weeks Jan 2018
MC2: MMC detected 11+4 baby passed 6-7weeks completed naturally 12+6 May 4th
Cycle 1 post MC CD2 -AF finally showed up yesterday after gifting me the worst bloating and wind ever right when I was in a staff meeting! 😳

@Pampl3m0usse I work in a school too. Your head is really acting out. By law you can’t take action for any sickness relating to pregnancy including MC. Stand firm and do not let it be recorded as anything else.

My head has been lovely but yesterday payroll called because there is a break in my sicknote. The hospital one lasts until a Friday, then the doctors one starts on a Monday and they are saying those (non-working) days in between need to be covered. The head was outraged when I spoke to her about it and had said if they call again she’ll tell them to get over themselves and deal with it. She agreed there was no point in wasting a GPs time and that they could log it as two periods of sickness if necessary. So lucky to have her onside.

[Anyday88]

@hayleyfx I have everything crossed for your scan next week!
@Boboelephant I can’t wait for an update from you!
@Pampl3mOusse yes it looks like we will be let’s hope July is our month!!

Thanks for the love everyone, finding it really hard not to feel down and INCREDIBLY disappointed today which I know is silly because a) Af hasn’t actually arrived yet and b) it’s only really 1st cycle since mc but I can’t help it!

Hope everyone is having a good weekend so far.

[Pearcrumble]

Age 28
TTC #1
MC - May 2018 (on my birthday, hooray!)I expected to be 6+4 based on when I stopped the pill and thought I ovulated, but couldn't date it properly due to no period before. I think it was probably less, my HCG dropped so quickly.

Briefly hopped on here last month then went quiet. I was feeling like I was just overreacting, because my miscarriage was so early I thought I didn't have the right to be so upset. Kept lurking though and seeing the new roll call, with others who have had miscarriages at 5/6 weeks, made me think it's ok to stay on here.

[Boboelephant]

@MisBit1 glad your af arrived and you can hopefully get your body back to normal cycles again. Your post did make me laugh. Wind at work is the worst! 😨😂 Glad that your head is being helpful but I swear payroll make things difficult on purpose!
@Anyday88 so sorry you're feeling down. Bfns totally mess with my head which is why I'd love to just wait until after af. But then stupid hope kicks in. Hope you have some nice things planned for today in the sun!
@Pearcrumble I'm sorry you felt like that. You have every right to be upset. A loss is a loss and it's a deeply traumatic thing regardless of how far along you are or how it happens. I hope we can provide you with support and I hope you never feel that you dont belong here.

[littleemma1]

@Yukka the most infuriating thing with PCOS is that I can have all the signs of OV but an egg may not be released for months as it has to fight its way through my “follicles” 😔 so I can OV on time, a little late or really late... nothing is a cert with my cycles! In February this year I had my first period for 5 months. It was rank. And only came because I induced it with nortiserone!
I think I’d rather get my period over and done with and if my body does what it’s meant to as a normal cycle then FW will fall right on honeymoon 😬😬😬 there’ll be lots of disco dancing 💃🕺🏻😂

[littleemma1]

@Pearcrumble I felt like you, I only knew for 3 days and if I hadn’t done a test I would’ve thought it was just a heavy AF!

[Pearcrumble]

@boboelephant thank you very much - yes everybody here was very welcoming and supportive, it was definitely an anxiety in my own head rather than anything anyone else said!

[Pancakes7]

Got super stretchy cm today but negative ovulation test. I'm not sure if I drank too much or what? I never got a positive ovulation test when we conceived last time? But the stretchy cm makes me think now's the time! This is how I knew last time. We out today having a picnic and going on a row boat. Dh is making home made quiche etc. So sweet. We are both out tonight. So need to fit in some baby dancing time before we go out lol.

[BadBadBeans]

Hey everyone, I'm hopping back on.

30
Ttc #2
DS 2
Trying since February 18
MC at 9 weeks April 18
Cycle 1 post MC

Did any of you have extra long cycles after miscarrying? I'm 6 days late. My first period after the miscarriage was quite light but it came 9 days after the mc bleeding finished and roughly 26 days after the mc started so I figured it just was because my uterus hadn't had chance to form a new lining. Now wondering if it was part of the mc bleed somehow. Really frustrated - I just want my period or a BFP!

[weasledee]

MrsG still not got AF but had a big temp drop so I know it's coming.....

Thinking about missing next month as IF it does work I'd be early pregnant on our holiday and that means HG and we'd cancel it.... then I think, who am I kidding, of course it won't work??!

[littleemma1]

@Pancakes7 after just a short time with them I’ve discovered these ladies are so lovely and supportive and they’re right, any loss is a loss ❤️


Right ladies. Analyse these... I think I could’ve ovulated yesterday and I’ll have missed the opk opportunity as my first one was done at 6am and last at 8pm!!
Still in two minds with what to do 🙄🙄🙄

[DaisyMay25]

CD 17 AM looks positive to me @littleemma1 I think you ovulated on CD18

[littleemma1]

And these are from last month when we conceived... so it’s likely I could’ve OV on 7th and missed it as I gave up on opk’s

[Boboelephant]

@littleemma1 I agree. CD17 AM is positive so I'd say you either ovulated last night or today.

[Pancakes7]

@littleemma1 yes I had an mmc at 10 +6 so definitley a loss. I've been on here a few weeks. All lovely supportive people.

I'm trying to understand opks... as I said I never managed a positive but we conceived before. Maybe I drink too much water? Confused... but having stretchy cm so think its ov time. Planning to jump dh before we head out seperately tonight.

[MrsGS76]

@littleemma1 I think it's definitely a positive for the 8th June , but also looks positive for today. I'm not sure how your tests work but the digital ones give a static smiley face for 48 hours so I assume I will ovulate within this time, you still may have not ovulated but will within the 48hour period so JKS!!! Fx for you x

[littleemma1]

Well I think based on these I’ve made my decision...
if I haven’t got a BFP or AF by 2nd July then my body clearly hasn’t done what it’s meant to so I’ll start the meds to make sure I don’t get AF on the wedding day or on honeymoon.
That gives 21 days for something to happen, so even if OV is slightly late then should be ok :)

[Maydot]

Hey, just checking in too!...

Age 33
TTC #1
MC Feb 17 at 7wks
MMC May 18 at 12 wks
Cycle 1 post MMC
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[Boboelephant]

@Pancakes7 what opks do you use? How often do you take them? It's possible you have a short surge and you are getting that overnight. Stretchy cm equals fertility so you are either ovulating or close to. I get EWCM for about 6 days but that's why you have a fertile 'week'. It's hard to track ovulation exactly without temping but defi jump DH! It's the right time to do so.
@littleemma1 not trying to correct anyone but you only have one positive opk there and that is the one from yesterday morning. The lines today show your LH surge on the decline. With 2 line opks they are only positive if the lines are the same darkness. Your ones today are not so are not positive. Usually when a cycle varies in length it is the follicular phase that varies and the luteal phase stays the same. So I reckon you'll be in luck to have af/bfp in about 2 weeks.

[littleemma1]

@Boboelephant yes I was thinking based on darker line yesterday morning then seemingly declining lines thereafter I either ovulated on 7th (Thursday) when I’d momentarily given up on them or at some point yesterday (8th/Friday) and missed the surge by a couple of hours due to my long shifts (I refuse to take them to work!) xx

[UnicornsandRainbows1]

Can I watch this thread still? Is that cool? I've been dipping in and out to see how everyone's doing.

[Boboelephant]

@littleemma1 because you don't have any from Thursday it's hard to say. But because yesterday AM is positive I wouldn't think you ovulated Thursday. Because it was lighter last night, it's very possible you had a positive one Thurs night too and you ovulated during the day yesterday. If it was me I would count today as 1dpo.

[Boboelephant]

@UnicornsandRainbows1 of course you can. Hello!! How was your 20 week scan??