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Feminism: Sex and gender discussions

Jo R’rith’s comments on trans anxiety, public spaces and current guidance

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TBATST · 17/08/2026 19:57

This just up on socials from Jo:

"Regular viewers to "The Jo R'rith Show" will know I suffer a great deal from anxiety attacks, and PTSD from events that began in 2015. Viewers are probably also familiar with my status as a trans woman in Britain, a country that in that time has become increasingly transphobic and bigoted.

Y'all may also be familiar with my costuming/cosplaying/fancy dress or whatever you want to call it, particularly my Uruk-Hai Orc costume. But what you may not realise is that they all intersect - I have anxiety attacks because I am a trans woman in a country that is abusive towards trans people and is trying to segregate us from the rest of the population. I travel to and from events where I wear my costumes, risking transphobic abuse and hatred for being trans. Only when Im in my costume do I get any respite from the fear and anxiety, basically because I'm unrecognisable beneath said costume, and because no one feels confident enough to have a go at the intimidating Uruk-Hai General wearing armour standing before them.

But my anxiety is strong, sometimes overpowering, and that's before the new EHRC guidance on how to be a bigoted cockwomble towards trans people, is included. You see I, like a great many trans people; know my rights and the law. I know that I haven't been banned from female toilets or changing spaces, but I also know that you, Joe Public, don't know that; because you've been fed a shit tonne of lies by the Press, and by TERFs telling you different, and Im sure that, if they find this post; some TERF cockwomble will erroneously claim that it is against the law, but they're lying So that means every time I use a public space, say the female toilets at a services or the like, then I run the risk of encountering someone who thinks I shouldnt be there, and so anxiety, panic and my PTSD."

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Thehorticulturalhussie · Yesterday 15:31

ArabellaScott · Yesterday 14:51

Maybe a plate of orc d'oeuvres.

However you dress it up, there's nothing remotely inviting about eating an Orc.
So no thanks I'll pass.

MrsOvertonsWindow · Yesterday 15:32

Thehorticulturalhussie · Yesterday 15:31

However you dress it up, there's nothing remotely inviting about eating an Orc.
So no thanks I'll pass.

Surely someone must have some Orc recipes you might enjoy? This is mumsnet after all.

MagpiePi · Yesterday 15:54

MrsOvertonsWindow · Yesterday 15:32

Surely someone must have some Orc recipes you might enjoy? This is mumsnet after all.

??

Thehorticulturalhussie · Yesterday 15:58

MrsOvertonsWindow · Yesterday 15:32

Surely someone must have some Orc recipes you might enjoy? This is mumsnet after all.

V unlikely. The meat would be slimy/rank/sinewy/malodorous and the skin would be leathery/rank/tough and about 10 inches thick. Appreciate that I haven't considered the entire Orc here but the various appendages and extremities don't bear thinking about.
Amirite?

MrsOvertonsWindow · Yesterday 16:09

Thehorticulturalhussie · Yesterday 15:58

V unlikely. The meat would be slimy/rank/sinewy/malodorous and the skin would be leathery/rank/tough and about 10 inches thick. Appreciate that I haven't considered the entire Orc here but the various appendages and extremities don't bear thinking about.
Amirite?

😂😂

solerolover · Yesterday 16:17

BackToLurk · 17/08/2026 20:17

Like if Scooby Doo was saying Lilith.

😂

Wait...I can literally hear it, this is the funniest thing I've read this week!

FlatCatYellowMat · Yesterday 16:27

ArabellaScott · Yesterday 13:21

Are orcs a type of troll?

Corrupted elves I always thought - although apparently that's not clear cut and Tolkien was never completely clear on it.

Agree Scooby Doo pronunciation was absolutely genius.

Davros · Yesterday 16:32

Don’t TIMs want to get rid of their Orcs, ✂️

DialSquare · Yesterday 16:33

Was this thread deleted for a while or was I having a moment?

RedToothBrush · Yesterday 16:44

DialSquare · Yesterday 16:33

Was this thread deleted for a while or was I having a moment?

Don't worry. Collective hallucinations.

ElenOfTheWays · Yesterday 16:48

BackToLurk · 17/08/2026 20:17

Like if Scooby Doo was saying Lilith.

Perfect. That's settled in my head as the pronunciation now. Thank you
I even hear it in the voice.

anyone scooby GIF
ElenOfTheWays · Yesterday 16:57

Igneococcus · 17/08/2026 20:17

I travel to and from events where I wear my costumes, risking transphobic abuse and hatred for being trans.

How do you tell someone is a trans-Uruk-Hai?

Edited

I'm imagining something like this

Jo R’rith’s comments on trans anxiety, public spaces and current guidance
ElenOfTheWays · Yesterday 17:08

TBATST · 17/08/2026 21:02

Any pictures, for those of us that don't have Insta so can't view that profile?

Here ya go

Thehorticulturalhussie · Yesterday 17:21

ElenOfTheWays · Yesterday 16:57

I'm imagining something like this

If this was The Blue Stocking we would inevitably be having a healthy and definitely-not-at-all-weird conversation about norks.
But it isn't. So we won't. That would be unseemly.

BernardBlacksMolluscs · Yesterday 18:20

Thehorticulturalhussie · Yesterday 15:58

V unlikely. The meat would be slimy/rank/sinewy/malodorous and the skin would be leathery/rank/tough and about 10 inches thick. Appreciate that I haven't considered the entire Orc here but the various appendages and extremities don't bear thinking about.
Amirite?

That’s why if you’re going to eat orc you should go with offal. The kidneys are a bit ‘gamey’ but the sweetbreads are considered a delicacy in some circles

JanesLittleGirl · Yesterday 18:37

The brain might make a light snack.

Thehorticulturalhussie · Yesterday 18:42

🤢

ArabellaScott · Yesterday 19:04

Thehorticulturalhussie · Yesterday 17:21

If this was The Blue Stocking we would inevitably be having a healthy and definitely-not-at-all-weird conversation about norks.
But it isn't. So we won't. That would be unseemly.

Norcs. Surely.

Thehorticulturalhussie · Yesterday 19:39

ArabellaScott · Yesterday 19:04

Norcs. Surely.

Definitely not 🙂

ArabellaScott · Yesterday 20:11

Orc-hiectomy. 😶

ElenOfTheWays · Yesterday 20:11

Thehorticulturalhussie · Yesterday 17:21

If this was The Blue Stocking we would inevitably be having a healthy and definitely-not-at-all-weird conversation about norks.
But it isn't. So we won't. That would be unseemly.

Something like "we've had chicks with dicks - now brought to us by Jo R'rith meet the orcs with norks"

Thehorticulturalhussie · Yesterday 20:13

ElenOfTheWays · Yesterday 20:11

Something like "we've had chicks with dicks - now brought to us by Jo R'rith meet the orcs with norks"

Spot on, excellent summary.

ElenOfTheWays · Yesterday 20:27

Thehorticulturalhussie · Yesterday 20:13

Spot on, excellent summary.

Ah thanks I must drop in sometime. Sounds like my kind of joint

Waitingfordoggo · Yesterday 20:44

What a great thread. Thanks for starting it @TBATST 👏🏻

panomara · Yesterday 20:50

BackToLurk · 17/08/2026 20:17

Like if Scooby Doo was saying Lilith.

😂😂😂

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