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Feminism: Sex and gender discussions

Is anyone on here trans-inclusive?

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plinkyplonk123 · 15/01/2026 00:25

Hi everyone, this is just a quick post to ask if anybody else on here is trans inclusive? I know I’m definitely in the minority here but I just wanted to see.

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ForProudPinkPombear · 15/01/2026 12:17

Seethlaw · 15/01/2026 12:12

It's not my experience. It's not the experience of any of the other trans people I've known. It's not the story the statistics tell. In short: it's not reality. I can't make it any clearer than that: the one not engaging with reality is you.

"Transgender people experience more discrimination and violence than cisgender lesbian, gay, or bisexual people: a multilevel analysis across 30 European countries
Jacob Evje, Sam Fluit &Tilmann von Soest"

NotBadConsidering · 15/01/2026 12:18

ForProudPinkPombear · 15/01/2026 12:12

Why are you so obsessed with murder? Trans people have been murdered for being trans. Have I said where, or when, or compared statistics? And does anything else those young people experience not matter?

You first brought up murder. You said originally trans people are being murdered. It was pointed out to you that this isn’t the case, based on recorded numbers, and it’s not clear from those cases that they are murdered for being trans.

You later asked this question:

Are you saying trans people are safer from harm than non-trans people?

This is a question that only has three answers - yes, no, the same - that can only be confirmed with statistics.

Young people can claim they think trans people are being murdered for being trans, they can also claim things about suicide, they can claim a lot of things based on their perception of experience but that doesn’t mean it’s true and it doesn’t mean we should allow their false claims of experience to trump reality, particularly when such claims are a dangerous narrative that are provably false with statistics that you either want or don’t want, depending on how muddled up you are.

HTH.

MirrorMirror1247 · 15/01/2026 12:18

I have no problem with trans people, I have a relative who is part of that community. I'm happy to call people whatever they want to be called, but I don't believe they can actually change sex. The biology will always show either XX or XY chromosomes.

TheKeatingFive · 15/01/2026 12:18

ForProudPinkPombear · 15/01/2026 11:56

I wish people felt comfortable enough to be able to do so. I understand why many don't. Many people accept the expression of others whilst vehemently opposing single sex spaces, for example, and I understand that.

I am never going to be 'comfortable' pretending that a man is actually a woman.

Not only is that against basic scientific facts, it's harmful to women's safeguarding.

These things are more important than affirming a man's metaphysical belief that he is somehow a woman despite being obviously biologically male.

Do you understand my position?

ForProudPinkPombear · 15/01/2026 12:18

nicepotoftea · 15/01/2026 12:11

Personally, imposition of sexist structures at the expense of recognising the material impact of sex.

And I can engage with a nuanced answer like that! Agreed, the landscape is problematic & throws up issues that should not be casually dealt with.

BettyBooper · 15/01/2026 12:19

Dewberrywotsit · 15/01/2026 12:16

Women are not safe from sex offenders. Sex offenders can also be female. Being trans does not make someone a sex offender. This is all hateful bullshit. Go out and start petitioning against sexual offences, hate crimes against women by all means, but don't label all trans people as sex offenders. It is illogical and speaks to me of ignorance. For the record - I work in criminal justice and can tell you categorically that there are female as well as male sex offenders. So get a grip, do something useful and stop persecuting people that you don't understand.

Where has anyone labelled all trans people as sex offenders??!

Dewberrywotsit · 15/01/2026 12:19

ThatBlackCat · 15/01/2026 12:14

So you believe men can become women? Well I guess you will have found something that no Biologist on planet earth has ever found.

I did a study of gender differentiation, including intersex conditions. It is more complex than you think. You remind me of a flat earther!

ForProudPinkPombear · 15/01/2026 12:20

ThatBlackCat · 15/01/2026 12:13

Trans people have been murdered for being trans.

There is zero evidence of this. Please stop posting falsehoods.

"Data Sources Hinder Our Understanding of Transgender Murders
Rebecca L Stotzer 1,✉
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PMCID: PMC5551619 PMID: 28787204
See "Homicide Rates of Transgender Individuals in the United States: 2010–2014" on page 1441.
Transgender people face frequent experiences of discrimination, violence, social and economic marginalization, and abuse across the lifespan. International efforts to track the murder of transgender people suggest that a transgender person is murdered at least once every three days.1 However, in the United States there is no formal data collection effort that can be used to describe the nature, frequency, or extent of transgender homicides.

In an effort to address this gap, Dinno (p. 1441) used nongovernmental organization (NGO) data on the murder of transgender people and various estimates of the transgender population in the United States as well as federal data on cisgender people to create a range of estimates of the transgender homicide rate compared with the cisgender homicide rate from 2010 to 2014. Findings suggest that transgender people overall may not face a higher risk of being murdered than do cisgender people but that young transgender women of color almost certainly face a higher chance of being murdered"

AccidentallyWesAnderson · 15/01/2026 12:20

Dewberrywotsit · 15/01/2026 12:19

I did a study of gender differentiation, including intersex conditions. It is more complex than you think. You remind me of a flat earther!

That’s got to be the most ironic statement I’ve ever read on here 🤣🤣

ForProudPinkPombear · 15/01/2026 12:21

ThatBlackCat · 15/01/2026 12:15

Trans men as FEMALES, are NOT A THREAT to us.

That should have given you the hint. That this is about the threat males poses to females. Its about male vs female. It never was about 'trans'.

I'm getting a lot of replies that are arguing with points I haven't made, or opinions that I don't have.

nicepotoftea · 15/01/2026 12:21

pimplebum · 15/01/2026 12:15

Me too

I feel the percentage of society who are wishing to change their body is v v v low to be a major issue for me to give much thought to

the teeny tiny few who are using their female outward appearance to rape or harm women is so small it’s not my top agenda for things to get riled up about

i don’t think people with penis’s should enter female only spaces or male bodies compete as a female in female sport

I will happily call any one by any pronouns or name they prefer and have had a gender fluid person who had male / female names on different days and I can call them whatever they want in any given day

live, and let live

i don’t think people with penis’s should enter female only spaces

The European Court of Human Rights and the UK Courts have repeatedly found that rights cannot depend on the kind of treatment that would include removal of penis.

Seethlaw · 15/01/2026 12:22

Waitingforthesunnydays · 15/01/2026 11:49

This is fucking grim. I knew when pro-trans people used to say 5 years ago: “trans women in women’s toilets don’t present a risk to women” that it would just be a matter of time until disgusting men like this started using the trans cloak of protection to abuse women. OF COURSE it was going to happen. Men will always find a way. These men aren’t trans. They are abusing a deeply flawed system that is in urgent need of change. @ThatBlackCat do you know the story behind these photos?

If a man wants to be a woman THAT much he’d get his bloody penis removed! There is no place for penises in women’s bathrooms ever.

These men aren’t trans.

They are, though. The only criterion for being trans is a self-declaration as such. Literally, "I'm trans because I say I am."

TheKeatingFive · 15/01/2026 12:22

Dewberrywotsit · 15/01/2026 12:19

I did a study of gender differentiation, including intersex conditions. It is more complex than you think. You remind me of a flat earther!

Every single person with a DSD is one sex or the other.

I'd be careful who I'm calling a flat earther if I were you.

mopu · 15/01/2026 12:22

Dewberrywotsit · 15/01/2026 12:19

I did a study of gender differentiation, including intersex conditions. It is more complex than you think. You remind me of a flat earther!

a biology denier calling a sex realist a flat earther?! LOL.

RobinEllacotStrike · 15/01/2026 12:23

Dewberrywotsit · 15/01/2026 12:12

Completely trans inclusive. I don't take issue with people based on anything other than how they treat others.

do you take issue with trans identified men erradicating womens single sex spaces, when so many women want & need single sex spaces (even if some women say they dont want/need these spaces themselves)?

Or do you think only bigots would object to men in womens spaces & bigots shouldnt have rights to singel sex spaces?

Or possibly do you think you can consent to men in womens spaces obo all women?

FlirtsWithRhinos · 15/01/2026 12:23

Imdunfer · 15/01/2026 09:01

This kind of lack of empathy for anyone else's difficulties in life just fuels the flames of trans activists.

It is possible to empathise with the struggles of trans people without compromising on women's rights.

Of course it is possible to empathise with the distress of people whose distorted ideas around sex lead them to conclude they are somehow mentally "wrong" for their body.

And it is absolutely possible to agree that society as a whole has ridiculous ideas about how men and women think, or what we should enjoy, or how we should want to dress because of our sex, and that people who step outside those stereotypes get a totally unreasonable hard time. I mean, that's kind of axoimic for Feminism, right?

None of this requires compromising on women's rights.

But what is not possible is to take the above empathy and understanding and turn it into accommodating trans identifying people as being actually or in any way more equivalent to the opposite sex than anyone else of their actual sex without severely impacting not just women's rights but the entire understanding and recognition of the female half of the species as a form of human existence that is distinct, complete and meaningful in its own right.

Not in the practical provision of women's spaces and supports, nor the conceptual existence of legal protections and rights that address the specific needs and risks that come with being female, nor in the cultural spaces and language that express the fact of our existence and our history within humanity.

And I for one am heartily sick of manipulative attempts to exploit the first two laudable reactions to trans identifying people in order to deliver the latter inexcusable objective.

ForProudPinkPombear · 15/01/2026 12:23

nicepotoftea · 15/01/2026 12:16

I don't think it's kind to tell people who identify as trans, particularly children, that they can actually change sex or that they are likely to be murdered.

What are you on about? Seriously? Is this the core of your argument? Not that I know what the argument is, but, this is very far from it. Have I said trans people are likely to be murdered?

Greyskybluesky · 15/01/2026 12:24

@Dewberrywotsit Women are not safe from sex offenders. Sex offenders can also be female. Being trans does not make someone a sex offender. This is all hateful bullshit. Go out and start petitioning against sexual offences, hate crimes against women by all means, but don't label all trans people as sex offenders. It is illogical and speaks to me of ignorance. For the record - I work in criminal justice and can tell you categorically that there are female as well as male sex offenders. So get a grip, do something useful and stop persecuting people that you don't understand.

Women are not safe from sex offenders.
True

Sex offenders can also be female.
True

Being trans does not make someone a sex offender.
True

This is all hateful bullshit.
Not true, it's a discussion. On a discussion thread

Go out and start petitioning against sexual offences, hate crimes against women by all means,
Some of us do

but don't label all trans people as sex offenders.
No one has done that on here

It is illogical and speaks to me of ignorance.
It would be if it had happened

For the record - I work in criminal justice and can tell you categorically that there are female as well as male sex offenders.
Okay, fair enough

So get a grip, do something useful and stop persecuting people that you don't understand.
Many of us have got a grip, realised the dangers to women's and girl's rights, done and are doing many useful things about that.
There is no "persecution" - do you even understand what that means?
Opposition and challenge is not persecution.

mopu · 15/01/2026 12:24

TheKeatingFive · 15/01/2026 12:22

Every single person with a DSD is one sex or the other.

I'd be careful who I'm calling a flat earther if I were you.

gender professors love to use intersex people as a gotcha. Despite people with intersex conditions knowing their sex and hating being dragged into this discussion.

Peridoteage · 15/01/2026 12:24

I would also add that in RL my workplace is really inclusive & i have a few colleagues who are trans men & transwomen & they seem completely sensible about spaces etc. We have mixed sex cubicle toilets off corridors, and parental leave is the same whether you are male or female. There's never any chat about transwomen accessing women only spaces, its up to you if you state your pronouns and if you do they will be respected.

AccidentallyWesAnderson · 15/01/2026 12:24

Dewberrywotsit · 15/01/2026 12:16

Women are not safe from sex offenders. Sex offenders can also be female. Being trans does not make someone a sex offender. This is all hateful bullshit. Go out and start petitioning against sexual offences, hate crimes against women by all means, but don't label all trans people as sex offenders. It is illogical and speaks to me of ignorance. For the record - I work in criminal justice and can tell you categorically that there are female as well as male sex offenders. So get a grip, do something useful and stop persecuting people that you don't understand.

Please evidence where people have said ALL trans people are sex offenders or bore off.

The majority of sex offenders are men. Women make up a small minority of sex offenders. Trans women are men and are included in this, they aren’t a separate special entity. I also work in criminal justice and have met trans women who are sex offenders.

Women also deserve spaces away from men (including trans women who are men as you seem to be struggling with this) for privacy and dignity reasons, not just attacks. The majority of men in my life wouldn’t harm anyone (as sure as I can be on that), I don’t want to get changed in front of them. Wouldn’t change if they popped on a dress and stayed the magical words that makes people’s brains fall out.

loislovesstewie · 15/01/2026 12:25

Dewberrywotsit · 15/01/2026 12:19

I did a study of gender differentiation, including intersex conditions. It is more complex than you think. You remind me of a flat earther!

Oh here we go again, bring people with a DSD into the equation to try to prove that a man can become a woman.

AccidentallyWesAnderson · 15/01/2026 12:25

mopu · 15/01/2026 12:22

a biology denier calling a sex realist a flat earther?! LOL.

Gave me my first laugh of the day.

nicepotoftea · 15/01/2026 12:25

Dewberrywotsit · 15/01/2026 12:19

I did a study of gender differentiation, including intersex conditions. It is more complex than you think. You remind me of a flat earther!

Before calling other people flat earthers, perhaps you could answer the following:

Why do you think we bother to define sex in humans, snails, plants, cats etc? What is it that we are defining?

Do you think people with differences of sexual development are a different sex?

Do you think that people who identify as trans have DSDs?

If you can't define sex, what does 'trans' mean?

ThatBlackCat · 15/01/2026 12:27

ForProudPinkPombear · 15/01/2026 12:17

"Transgender people experience more discrimination and violence than cisgender lesbian, gay, or bisexual people: a multilevel analysis across 30 European countries
Jacob Evje, Sam Fluit &Tilmann von Soest"

There is no actual data that backs this up. On the contrary. Evidence shows that trans are the safest, most powerful, most privileged and most sacred caste out. It took gay people decades, literally decades to a century to get human rights. In under one generation, trans people managed to get the definition of women erased, to get government, education, health and NGOs on their side, to the extent that feminists that fought for sex-based rights were sacked and in some cases, charged with offences. That, is patriarchy on steroids. The gay community never had that power. That trans people are not privileged is a joke when evidence, data and reality is examined.

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