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Feminism: Sex and gender discussions

Would a biological woman identifying as a trans woman be accepted in the trans community?

163 replies

quickquestion12345 · 07/11/2025 18:54

Just curious really if this is something that happens. And if not, what the argument (by trans people) would be against it. Sorry if it’s been covered before. Just been working through some stuff in my head and started to wonder about this!

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Coconutter24 · 09/11/2025 11:25

GarlicHound · 09/11/2025 10:50

If this were a medium in which 'trans' ideology had never been objectively discussed and concepts like sex and gender had never been analysed, I would start from the ground up and explain clearly in small, logical steps. I did that thousands of times during this explosion of insanity.

To my eternal gratitude, a forum exists where I can right write exactly what I'm thinking, which often sounds like "OMFG, haha, this just keeps getting more ridiculous! Jeez, will this nonsense never stop?!" That forum is this very message board, whose users are already familiar with genderism's long-repeated nonsequitur catchphrases. This board doesn't require primary-level clarifications.

You're not exactly a newbie here, Coconutter, so I'm surprised you didn't recognise the 'genitally obsessed pants inspector' cliché. Never mind. It's all good. 🕊

So just to be extra clear do you think a biological woman can be a trans woman?

MaggieBsBoat · 09/11/2025 12:00

If a dude can say he’s a woman. Then a woman can say she’s a transwoman.

The point of it is the fact that words are meaningless.

YouCantProveIt · 09/11/2025 12:03

What’s actually had me doubled over in laughter

All transwomen are women

but women cannot be transwomen

So how can women not be transwomen? or maybe the first statement is the lie

DiscoBob · 09/11/2025 12:22

Lostthebubblewand · 07/11/2025 19:07

It’s strange but I met a biological woman who was transitioning into a man once. Their whole personality/ tone/ manner/ look was like a caricature of a camp gay man. I Thought if I was a gay man I would have been really offended by their interpretation of masculinity. It was like a bad impression/ pantomime. Plus they were attracted to men, so they went from heterosexual woman to gay man. I wonder how common that is. It is hard to think of the mental gymnastics. Feeling born in the wrong body but identifying not as a straight man but as a feminine man who enjoys face cream/ masks/ pedicures/ ‘women’s films’/ clothes/ make up. If we are told these things define our gender, then why not just stay a heterosexual woman?
I wonder if that’s too straightforward and boring? There’s no opportunity to feel marginalised.

I have a transman family member who was a hetero woman but then declared they were a gay trans man.

I'm just wondering how far they can identify as a gay man in terms of being accepted as such.

I mean a genuine gay man surely wouldn't date someone with a vagina, even if no breasts and lower voice, short hair etc? And they won't have experienced homophobia in the way a regular gay man would have.

It feels like they might be limiting themselves to only dating other transmen when they say they are only attracted to actual bio gay men.

YouCantProveIt · 09/11/2025 12:23

Coconutter24 · 09/11/2025 11:25

So just to be extra clear do you think a biological woman can be a trans woman?

I know you didn’t ask me.

The answer is a woman can be a trans woman if a trans woman can be a woman.

Coconutter24 · 09/11/2025 12:49

YouCantProveIt · 09/11/2025 12:23

I know you didn’t ask me.

The answer is a woman can be a trans woman if a trans woman can be a woman.

I suppose anyone can say they are anything they want really, everything seems to go these days. I do struggle with understanding how a biological woman can be a trans woman because they are not transitioning from anything. Even if the biological woman identifies as non binary then why would they want to decide to trans as a woman, they are a woman. If they’re non binary they do t identify with a gender so why would they identify as a trans woman, if they’re non binary wanted to not be non binary they’d just be a woman

YouCantProveIt · 09/11/2025 13:04

Coconutter24 · 09/11/2025 12:49

I suppose anyone can say they are anything they want really, everything seems to go these days. I do struggle with understanding how a biological woman can be a trans woman because they are not transitioning from anything. Even if the biological woman identifies as non binary then why would they want to decide to trans as a woman, they are a woman. If they’re non binary they do t identify with a gender so why would they identify as a trans woman, if they’re non binary wanted to not be non binary they’d just be a woman

Your absolute word salad paragraph just goes to show the utter nonsensical status of the debate around this.

If a biological man = transwoman = woman

Then biological woman = transman = man = transwoman = woman

You can no more transition from a woman to a woman as a man to a woman

Transition is meaningless.

Define transition?

YouCantProveIt · 09/11/2025 13:13

DiscoBob · 09/11/2025 12:22

I have a transman family member who was a hetero woman but then declared they were a gay trans man.

I'm just wondering how far they can identify as a gay man in terms of being accepted as such.

I mean a genuine gay man surely wouldn't date someone with a vagina, even if no breasts and lower voice, short hair etc? And they won't have experienced homophobia in the way a regular gay man would have.

It feels like they might be limiting themselves to only dating other transmen when they say they are only attracted to actual bio gay men.

Edited

Men with penises who have sex with men - homosexuals - do not want to have sex with women with vaginas.

Some might argue her approach is homophobic as it denies men their right to have sex with men.

DiscoBob · 09/11/2025 13:18

YouCantProveIt · 09/11/2025 13:13

Men with penises who have sex with men - homosexuals - do not want to have sex with women with vaginas.

Some might argue her approach is homophobic as it denies men their right to have sex with men.

Yeah I know what you mean.

quickquestion12345 · 09/11/2025 14:20

@Coconutter24 Yes I guess it depends on how you define transition. Because there is no physical change required with transition as it is understood now from man to woman. So a female could transition to a transwoman as that is how she feels.

Is it supposed to work like this?

There is an umbrella term of ‘woman’ and within this there are sub categories of transwoman and biological woman. These two categories cannot become each other. (Although I realise there have been transwomen calling themselves biological women.) Transwomen experience particular challenges due to the fact they are trans. Biological women are privileged due to not being trans. (Although some will be trans men.)

So within this framework, presumably biological women can discuss and campaign on issues that affect only them as a sub category of women? And set their own boundaries? And meet as this particular group? And request services that are based on sex? Why would this be bigoted because by default they are a separate category as they are not transwomen.

All of this involves redefining the word woman of course to be an umbrella term rather than a term linked to sex, but presumably that is the point from a trans rights perspective. It also ignores that there is no clear definition of trans. E.g. can someone only be trans if they have genuine motivations? How are these defined and where is the line drawn?

I can just never seem to make it all work.

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TheBroonOneAndTheWhiteOne · 09/11/2025 14:22

arcticpandas · 07/11/2025 19:00

If you are born a woman but define yourself as a male and then change your mind- that would be trans woman then?

No, you'd just be a woman.
Which is what you were to start with.

Slightyamusedandsilly · 09/11/2025 14:24

Of course. Because cis women are women and so are trans women. So they're all just women.

quickquestion12345 · 09/11/2025 14:32

@Slightyamusedandsilly ok that’s interesting. I had got the impression that biological women wouldn’t be accepted as identifying as transwomen. But genuinely it isn’t something I know much about!

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Coconutter24 · 09/11/2025 14:37

YouCantProveIt · 09/11/2025 13:04

Your absolute word salad paragraph just goes to show the utter nonsensical status of the debate around this.

If a biological man = transwoman = woman

Then biological woman = transman = man = transwoman = woman

You can no more transition from a woman to a woman as a man to a woman

Transition is meaningless.

Define transition?

You say transition is meaningless but that’s what I’m saying in the case of a biological woman wanting to be a trans woman

YouCantProveIt · 09/11/2025 14:54

Coconutter24 · 09/11/2025 14:37

You say transition is meaningless but that’s what I’m saying in the case of a biological woman wanting to be a trans woman

Define any transition - what does it mean? Who decides what it is?

Transition in most cases is a thought experiment. No one transitions - because a man who wants to identify in another gender does not transition.

Trans identifying men are a distinct group.

They are biological men who think they are women.

Say I am a biological woman. I can think I am a man who thinks they are a women. It’s different to being a woman as it’s actually being a man with a diagnosis of gender dysphoria. And why not? It’s all a thought experiment.

No one actually transitions to anything else. Men are men. Women are women. Transitions are a thought experiment.

ginasevern · 09/11/2025 14:56

@quickquestion12345 "So within this framework, presumably biological women can discuss and campaign on issues that affect only them as a sub category of women? And set their own boundaries? "

Sub categories would be a dangerous precedent. Would anyone advocate for sub-categories of African, Asian or European? And can you imagine men supporting sub-categories of their sex? In any event, it has been argued ad nauseam that transwomen should have their own spaces/agencies/facilities and likewise women. But the trans community are (too often) violently opposed to the idea as it invalidates them as "real women".

Namelessnelly · 09/11/2025 16:15

Slightyamusedandsilly · 09/11/2025 14:24

Of course. Because cis women are women and so are trans women. So they're all just women.

What’s a cis woman? I mean I know a “transwoman” is a male claiming a trans identity, so what is a “cis” woman?

Namelessnelly · 09/11/2025 16:16

Coconutter24 · 09/11/2025 14:37

You say transition is meaningless but that’s what I’m saying in the case of a biological woman wanting to be a trans woman

But it’s also meaningless in the case of a man wanting to be a woman.

Coffeeishot · 09/11/2025 16:21

Lostthebubblewand · 07/11/2025 19:07

It’s strange but I met a biological woman who was transitioning into a man once. Their whole personality/ tone/ manner/ look was like a caricature of a camp gay man. I Thought if I was a gay man I would have been really offended by their interpretation of masculinity. It was like a bad impression/ pantomime. Plus they were attracted to men, so they went from heterosexual woman to gay man. I wonder how common that is. It is hard to think of the mental gymnastics. Feeling born in the wrong body but identifying not as a straight man but as a feminine man who enjoys face cream/ masks/ pedicures/ ‘women’s films’/ clothes/ make up. If we are told these things define our gender, then why not just stay a heterosexual woman?
I wonder if that’s too straightforward and boring? There’s no opportunity to feel marginalised.

There is a an American"drag queen" who is a trans man who identifies as a "gay man" surely thats a woman who just has a gay man fantasy ?

Coconutter24 · 09/11/2025 16:22

YouCantProveIt · 09/11/2025 14:54

Define any transition - what does it mean? Who decides what it is?

Transition in most cases is a thought experiment. No one transitions - because a man who wants to identify in another gender does not transition.

Trans identifying men are a distinct group.

They are biological men who think they are women.

Say I am a biological woman. I can think I am a man who thinks they are a women. It’s different to being a woman as it’s actually being a man with a diagnosis of gender dysphoria. And why not? It’s all a thought experiment.

No one actually transitions to anything else. Men are men. Women are women. Transitions are a thought experiment.

Transition by definition is
the process that a transgender person permanently adopts the outward or physical characteristics that match the gender they identify as opposed to the sex they were born

So a man having breast implants or a woman having surgery to remove breasts would be a transition. Biologically they are still the same sex they were born as.

Coconutter24 · 09/11/2025 16:22

Namelessnelly · 09/11/2025 16:16

But it’s also meaningless in the case of a man wanting to be a woman.

I know

Coconutter24 · 09/11/2025 16:24

Namelessnelly · 09/11/2025 16:15

What’s a cis woman? I mean I know a “transwoman” is a male claiming a trans identity, so what is a “cis” woman?

A woman. I don’t know why people don’t just say a woman and need to add ‘cis’ to it. It means someone who’s gender matches their sex

Coatsoff42 · 09/11/2025 16:24

YouCantProveIt · 09/11/2025 14:54

Define any transition - what does it mean? Who decides what it is?

Transition in most cases is a thought experiment. No one transitions - because a man who wants to identify in another gender does not transition.

Trans identifying men are a distinct group.

They are biological men who think they are women.

Say I am a biological woman. I can think I am a man who thinks they are a women. It’s different to being a woman as it’s actually being a man with a diagnosis of gender dysphoria. And why not? It’s all a thought experiment.

No one actually transitions to anything else. Men are men. Women are women. Transitions are a thought experiment.

Well exactly, that’s what a judge said in the tribunal recently, what is the definition of the start and finish of the transition.
What is the process of transition?
How does an organisation say the transition is complete, for admin purposes? Or that the transition has begun?

It’s all very airy fairy, unlike maternity leave, no right to privacy on mat leave.

JanesLittleGirl · 09/11/2025 16:43

Namelessnelly · 09/11/2025 16:15

What’s a cis woman? I mean I know a “transwoman” is a male claiming a trans identity, so what is a “cis” woman?

I think that it means a woman who comes from the Italian side of the Alps.

Illegally18 · 09/11/2025 17:04

Lostthebubblewand · 07/11/2025 19:07

It’s strange but I met a biological woman who was transitioning into a man once. Their whole personality/ tone/ manner/ look was like a caricature of a camp gay man. I Thought if I was a gay man I would have been really offended by their interpretation of masculinity. It was like a bad impression/ pantomime. Plus they were attracted to men, so they went from heterosexual woman to gay man. I wonder how common that is. It is hard to think of the mental gymnastics. Feeling born in the wrong body but identifying not as a straight man but as a feminine man who enjoys face cream/ masks/ pedicures/ ‘women’s films’/ clothes/ make up. If we are told these things define our gender, then why not just stay a heterosexual woman?
I wonder if that’s too straightforward and boring? There’s no opportunity to feel marginalised.

There’s no opportunity to feel marginalised. I think you've hit the nail on the head...