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EasternStandard · 14/10/2025 20:17

Barr77 · 14/10/2025 19:44

It would be sheer madness by Labour to allow for any such law to be introduced, quietly, through the back door or wrap it up in legislation.

if they do, they might as well hand the next government to Reform with a big blue ribbon.

The electorate are already hugely distrustful and hostile toward the government in light of the grooming scandals they spectacularly mishandled, the Lucy Connelly case, and the Southport incidents. Media attention would be intense, and unforgiving, and I can see thr comments from Trump and Elon Musk already.

Labour would be taking a huge risk to think they could get away with this quietly, deluded in fact., Even if they did, what would be the point? The next government could undo it, making the effort largely pointless.

I agree with you, on googling it looks like Labour are going for a ‘working definition of Islamophobia’. What this means in daily life idk

Barr77 · 14/10/2025 21:00

Imnobody4 · 14/10/2025 20:02

I agree they would be idiots to do it, but the again they have a track record.
I don't think they will go ahead with it, as the Sikh community are raising concerns.

the Network of Sikh Organisations (NSO), a charity representing over 130 gurdwaras and other Sikh groups, said adopting the definition into law would have "serious implications" for free speech, including the ability to discuss "historical truths"

That is true. Their track record would not surprise me. Starmer gives the impression of finding out which way the wind is blowing, a tad too late.

Labour, and Starmer in particular, have a knack for coming out with statements and getting behind policies they think will be popular—except they’re always two steps behind.

See Starmer’s early vehemence on self-ID and insisting Rosie Duffield was ‘not right’ to say only women have a cervix’ and of course ‘ 99.9% of women don’t have a penis’. And. now his sudden recognition that transgender women are not in fact women and that, per the Supreme Court, ‘a woman is an adult female,’

The problem is when someone is without moral conviction—they fall back on
feedback from others or in Labour’s case, focus groups, which are captured and have their own agendas. Groups that are also completely at odds with the general public, the electorate who they believe owe them their vote.

So it wouldn’t be surprising if the LP tried to fudge it, only to U-turn on it once it dawned on them the extent of the public backlash.

Barr77 · 14/10/2025 21:37

EasternStandard · 14/10/2025 20:17

I agree with you, on googling it looks like Labour are going for a ‘working definition of Islamophobia’. What this means in daily life idk

The group has concluded its public consultation and is expected to deliver its recommendations within six months.

And the timing could not be worse: coming after a potentially unpopular budget and with local elections looming, Labour would be courting serious backlash if it were even seen to be considering recommendations. The opposition would have a field day. Expect to see the findings delayed, repeatedly pushed back and pushed back - and quietly and shelved depending on the appetite of public opinion.

Or I could be wrong. as I mentioned above, this is Labour, and they have previous.

Pharazon · 14/10/2025 23:16

I’m still interested in how OP (who I notice has not come back) came to describe Tower Hamlets as an ‘uber-liberal enclave’. I’m fascinated by such a bizarre choice of words. Are they, per chance, not British?

EasternStandard · 14/10/2025 23:20

Barr77 · 14/10/2025 21:37

The group has concluded its public consultation and is expected to deliver its recommendations within six months.

And the timing could not be worse: coming after a potentially unpopular budget and with local elections looming, Labour would be courting serious backlash if it were even seen to be considering recommendations. The opposition would have a field day. Expect to see the findings delayed, repeatedly pushed back and pushed back - and quietly and shelved depending on the appetite of public opinion.

Or I could be wrong. as I mentioned above, this is Labour, and they have previous.

Completely agree. @PharazonI think it’s the DM copywriter you need to aim that one at. It’s their headline.

Pharazon · 14/10/2025 23:26

@EasternStandard ah so it is. Presumably aimed at readers who have no knowledge of London. They appear to be conflating it with Hackney which I suppose might fit the description, or at least some parts of it might. Tower Hamlets under the odious Aspire party and Rahman is anything but.

twinklystar23 · 15/10/2025 04:27

Needmorelego · 13/10/2025 08:52

I referred to that upthread.
My point was many female only sports sessions - especially swimming - exist in council run sports facilities (even in White Christian Middle Englandshire).
They are apparently perfectly fine to exist and no one goes "oooh that's sexist, against the law blah blah".
But a privately organised event that is for males - but allows young children of box sexes join in - is apparently "illegal".

But it doesn't allow children of both sexes. Teenage girls are excluded.

RainbowBagels · 15/10/2025 08:12

Imnobody4 · 14/10/2025 20:02

I agree they would be idiots to do it, but the again they have a track record.
I don't think they will go ahead with it, as the Sikh community are raising concerns.

the Network of Sikh Organisations (NSO), a charity representing over 130 gurdwaras and other Sikh groups, said adopting the definition into law would have "serious implications" for free speech, including the ability to discuss "historical truths"

Good. I hope other religious organisations also raise objections. To put into Law a definition of Islamophobia dictated by the Muslim Council of Britain will be blasphemy by the back door, but only related to criticism of Islam. It doesn't matter if things like fgm and forced marriage are unlawful if, as we see with the grooming gangs people in authority are scared of being called ' Islamophobic' and dont report it. Will health services who advise against cousin marriages be ' islamophobic'? Anything will be against the expression of muslimness including segregation of women, multiple 'marriages', sharia law etc. Funnily enough so many 'expressions of muslimness' involve the curtailing of womens rights and protection. Yet I wonder how many Muslim women they listen to?

Londonmummy66 · 15/10/2025 13:23

Thissickbeat · 13/10/2025 10:03

I'm actually angrier about it this morning. And that's saying something.

If London Marathon Events are a sponsor it possibly goes against their community support vision. But seeing as the London Marathon allows men to run as women then they probably won't care because it's only affecting bloody women. I will lose my shit about this one day. Fuckers, the lot of them.

Posting an update on here as the original thread is full.

I complained to the London Marathon charity about this and they have replied to me - hopefully will have had some impact.

Thank you for your email regarding the Muslim Charity Run. London Marathon Events (LME) supports events across London and the UK with the objective of providing opportunities and inspiring activity in underserved and under-represented communities. Through our community engagement programme, this year LME provided a small donation to support the costs of the Muslim Charity Run organised by East London Mosque.

We acknowledge that an oversight was made in our decision to donate to the event in its current format. We are committed to working with the Mosque and the wider community to overcome the barriers to accessing sport and activity for women and girls.

Longtimelurkerfinallyposts · 20/10/2025 20:37

wtf decided that Whitechapel consitutes an "uber liberal enclave"?!
i'm forced to assume they've never been there

in the interests of balance, you should read this:
https://www.theguardian.com/news/2025/oct/20/muslim-women-do-not-need-saving-says-female-leader-of-mosque-over-charity-run-row

She says the women involved in the mosque didn't want to run. they were fine with it being an event that dads could take part in with their children
(something you'd think that many MNers would welcome)

Muslim women do not need saving, says female leader of mosque at centre of charity run row

East London Mosque received hateful emails after event for men, boys, and under-12 girls only – but organisers say women’s race was undersubscribed

https://www.theguardian.com/news/2025/oct/20/muslim-women-do-not-need-saving-says-female-leader-of-mosque-over-charity-run-row

Holluschickie · 20/10/2025 20:55

Longtimelurkerfinallyposts · 20/10/2025 20:37

wtf decided that Whitechapel consitutes an "uber liberal enclave"?!
i'm forced to assume they've never been there

in the interests of balance, you should read this:
https://www.theguardian.com/news/2025/oct/20/muslim-women-do-not-need-saving-says-female-leader-of-mosque-over-charity-run-row

She says the women involved in the mosque didn't want to run. they were fine with it being an event that dads could take part in with their children
(something you'd think that many MNers would welcome)

That is an interesting article. As an Asian non-Muslim woman I find myself very torn.
I don't like white saviours. I equally do not like the segregation and exclusion of women.

BundleBoogie · 20/10/2025 21:02

The Muslim Women’s Network think they should have been allowed to run.

https://www.independent.co.uk/news/uk/home-news/steve-reed-muslim-equality-and-human-rights-commission-lutfur-rahman-east-london-mosque-b2845295.html

This mosque leader claims that she speaks for all of the women. I wonder how many would dare go against the community. There were earlier reports that local women did want to run and have previously complained.

If none of the local women had wanted to run, the mosque are unlikely to have felt the need to make an explicit announcement banning them.

In the unlikely sounding event that no local women wanted to run, they should have had the option. This Muslim leader appears to be one of the type of women happy to throw others under the bus. There are a disappointing number of such women around.

Muslim Women’s Network says charity run could have been more inclusive

But the organisation said it was also ‘concerned about the disproportionate media attention given to the event’.

https://www.independent.co.uk/news/uk/home-news/steve-reed-muslim-equality-and-human-rights-commission-lutfur-rahman-east-london-mosque-b2845295.html

BundleBoogie · 20/10/2025 21:05

If Muslim leaders are so worried about publicity around such events ‘reinforcing negative stereotypes’, all they need to do is to stop doing things that reinforce those sterotypes. 🤷‍♀️

Bringemout · 20/10/2025 21:11

The Daily express is running headlines about Sadiq Khan knowing about grooming gangs in London and denying it. Survivors are quitting the Grooming gang enquiry because they feel it’s going to basically be a whitewash. I really think any move towards restricting speech in a way that would criminalise any discussion of these particular issues will tip the public over the edge. If the Maccabie and Villa game goes ahead I’m pretty sure there will be violence aimed at Israelis at this point.

We live in pretty fragile times atm and I think we need to put our hard hats on and just be very direct about what should and should not be acceptable in the UK. The reality is extremists terrorise their own people first, always hassle women first “no you can’t run in public, it’s indecent” it’s extremism and should be called out, for the sake every single muslim woman who just wants to go for a bloody jog. I feel utterly depressed that this kind of thing happens in the UK.

I’m a non muslim asian woman and in my experience when a community wants to oppress it’s women most of society just turns a blind eye to it because it’s easier than being called a racist. a lot of women may not agree with their community but the pressure to conform is immense. Sometimes you need someone from outside your community to apply pressure and frankly shame. People should be embarrassed of regressive behaviour, I don’t care about the colour of the woman pointing out that other women are being treated badly and that it’s not on. I feel immense disgust and feminists who hide behind anti-racism to ignore the plight of ethnic minority women. I don’t consider that being a white saviour, I consider that to be female solidarity. We are all women.

Holluschickie · 20/10/2025 21:15

Bringemout · 20/10/2025 21:11

The Daily express is running headlines about Sadiq Khan knowing about grooming gangs in London and denying it. Survivors are quitting the Grooming gang enquiry because they feel it’s going to basically be a whitewash. I really think any move towards restricting speech in a way that would criminalise any discussion of these particular issues will tip the public over the edge. If the Maccabie and Villa game goes ahead I’m pretty sure there will be violence aimed at Israelis at this point.

We live in pretty fragile times atm and I think we need to put our hard hats on and just be very direct about what should and should not be acceptable in the UK. The reality is extremists terrorise their own people first, always hassle women first “no you can’t run in public, it’s indecent” it’s extremism and should be called out, for the sake every single muslim woman who just wants to go for a bloody jog. I feel utterly depressed that this kind of thing happens in the UK.

I’m a non muslim asian woman and in my experience when a community wants to oppress it’s women most of society just turns a blind eye to it because it’s easier than being called a racist. a lot of women may not agree with their community but the pressure to conform is immense. Sometimes you need someone from outside your community to apply pressure and frankly shame. People should be embarrassed of regressive behaviour, I don’t care about the colour of the woman pointing out that other women are being treated badly and that it’s not on. I feel immense disgust and feminists who hide behind anti-racism to ignore the plight of ethnic minority women. I don’t consider that being a white saviour, I consider that to be female solidarity. We are all women.

I agree that there should be complete freedom of speech to criticise any and all religions.

Bringemout · 20/10/2025 21:31

Holluschickie · 20/10/2025 21:15

I agree that there should be complete freedom of speech to criticise any and all religions.

Yup, it’s of course uncomfortable for believers, but we have to put to bed the idea that you can’t discuss ideas and beliefs because offending people has to be avoided at all costs, regardless of what those are. Especially if those beliefs result in real world impacts that curtail the lives and freedoms of half the population or endorse violence and prejudice against others. I think the reality is that people genuinely fear that someone going to get killed for saying stuff. Look at that guy who wasn’t convicted for trying to stab the guy who burned a koran outside the turkish embassy. Even the original cps statement saying he was being charged for “offending islam” was ridiculous, thats not even a crime. He clearly launched a violent attack on someone and nothing happened to him.

We’ve allowed people to behave appallingly as long as we deem them to be offended enough. See this with the TRA’s as well, just ignoring death threats, rape threats, intimidation etc etc.

I fucking despair.

BundleBoogie · 20/10/2025 21:55

Bringemout · 20/10/2025 21:11

The Daily express is running headlines about Sadiq Khan knowing about grooming gangs in London and denying it. Survivors are quitting the Grooming gang enquiry because they feel it’s going to basically be a whitewash. I really think any move towards restricting speech in a way that would criminalise any discussion of these particular issues will tip the public over the edge. If the Maccabie and Villa game goes ahead I’m pretty sure there will be violence aimed at Israelis at this point.

We live in pretty fragile times atm and I think we need to put our hard hats on and just be very direct about what should and should not be acceptable in the UK. The reality is extremists terrorise their own people first, always hassle women first “no you can’t run in public, it’s indecent” it’s extremism and should be called out, for the sake every single muslim woman who just wants to go for a bloody jog. I feel utterly depressed that this kind of thing happens in the UK.

I’m a non muslim asian woman and in my experience when a community wants to oppress it’s women most of society just turns a blind eye to it because it’s easier than being called a racist. a lot of women may not agree with their community but the pressure to conform is immense. Sometimes you need someone from outside your community to apply pressure and frankly shame. People should be embarrassed of regressive behaviour, I don’t care about the colour of the woman pointing out that other women are being treated badly and that it’s not on. I feel immense disgust and feminists who hide behind anti-racism to ignore the plight of ethnic minority women. I don’t consider that being a white saviour, I consider that to be female solidarity. We are all women.

Well said. Every woman here deserves the protection of the law. We shouldn’t be turning a blind eye to bad treatment of any woman.

My now former Muslim friend chose to live with more freedom than allowed by her family and community. Her family now don’t speak to her at all - she is dead to them. It’s so sad.

RainbowBagels · 22/10/2025 07:50

Bringemout · 20/10/2025 21:11

The Daily express is running headlines about Sadiq Khan knowing about grooming gangs in London and denying it. Survivors are quitting the Grooming gang enquiry because they feel it’s going to basically be a whitewash. I really think any move towards restricting speech in a way that would criminalise any discussion of these particular issues will tip the public over the edge. If the Maccabie and Villa game goes ahead I’m pretty sure there will be violence aimed at Israelis at this point.

We live in pretty fragile times atm and I think we need to put our hard hats on and just be very direct about what should and should not be acceptable in the UK. The reality is extremists terrorise their own people first, always hassle women first “no you can’t run in public, it’s indecent” it’s extremism and should be called out, for the sake every single muslim woman who just wants to go for a bloody jog. I feel utterly depressed that this kind of thing happens in the UK.

I’m a non muslim asian woman and in my experience when a community wants to oppress it’s women most of society just turns a blind eye to it because it’s easier than being called a racist. a lot of women may not agree with their community but the pressure to conform is immense. Sometimes you need someone from outside your community to apply pressure and frankly shame. People should be embarrassed of regressive behaviour, I don’t care about the colour of the woman pointing out that other women are being treated badly and that it’s not on. I feel immense disgust and feminists who hide behind anti-racism to ignore the plight of ethnic minority women. I don’t consider that being a white saviour, I consider that to be female solidarity. We are all women.

Absolutely well said. I am a non muslim Asian woman too. All women suffer when society turns a blind eye to intolerant beliefs. Mostly by people who have a poor understanding of religion, culture and race in the Indian subcontinent and ME.

Bringemout · 22/10/2025 09:35

I also think people don’t understand how much shame is weaponised against women. It’s bad enough generally, women of all cultures are shamed to keep them in line. But if you have been brought up to believe your entire families honour rests on womens shoulders and not mens then you will most likely claim to be fine with whatever oppression you are experiencing.

Imnobody4 · 22/10/2025 11:31

EHRC wades in with criticism of Islamophobia definition. It looks like a high risk strategy to just push ahead.

https://www.thetimes.com/article/c12ed203-45df-4984-a1aa-c9ed54e82875?shareToken=68c0d134383b9455290c6aa14a89899d

It said that it is “unclear what role a new definition would play” in addressing abuse targeted at Muslims, given that legal protections against discrimination and hate crime already exist.

It said that it is “unclear what role a new definition would play” in addressing abuse targeted at Muslims, given that legal protections against discrimination and hate crime already exist.

The equalities watchdog also warned that the government’s approach of considering a government working group’s proposed definition risked being unlawful because it had bypassed the EHRC’s statutory duty to advise on religious discrimination.

The EHRC has urged the government to launch a full consultation on the definition in order to avoid the legal risks posed by adopting an official definition.

Islamophobia definition risks breaking the law, watchdog says

EHRC warns definition could obstruct courts and have a chilling effect on free speech

https://www.thetimes.com/article/c12ed203-45df-4984-a1aa-c9ed54e82875?shareToken=68c0d134383b9455290c6aa14a89899d

BundleBoogie · 22/10/2025 18:01

Imnobody4 · 22/10/2025 11:31

EHRC wades in with criticism of Islamophobia definition. It looks like a high risk strategy to just push ahead.

https://www.thetimes.com/article/c12ed203-45df-4984-a1aa-c9ed54e82875?shareToken=68c0d134383b9455290c6aa14a89899d

It said that it is “unclear what role a new definition would play” in addressing abuse targeted at Muslims, given that legal protections against discrimination and hate crime already exist.

It said that it is “unclear what role a new definition would play” in addressing abuse targeted at Muslims, given that legal protections against discrimination and hate crime already exist.

The equalities watchdog also warned that the government’s approach of considering a government working group’s proposed definition risked being unlawful because it had bypassed the EHRC’s statutory duty to advise on religious discrimination.

The EHRC has urged the government to launch a full consultation on the definition in order to avoid the legal risks posed by adopting an official definition.

Ooh that is promising!! Thanks for the share.

DrBlackbird · 22/10/2025 20:59

Imnobody4 · 22/10/2025 11:31

EHRC wades in with criticism of Islamophobia definition. It looks like a high risk strategy to just push ahead.

https://www.thetimes.com/article/c12ed203-45df-4984-a1aa-c9ed54e82875?shareToken=68c0d134383b9455290c6aa14a89899d

It said that it is “unclear what role a new definition would play” in addressing abuse targeted at Muslims, given that legal protections against discrimination and hate crime already exist.

It said that it is “unclear what role a new definition would play” in addressing abuse targeted at Muslims, given that legal protections against discrimination and hate crime already exist.

The equalities watchdog also warned that the government’s approach of considering a government working group’s proposed definition risked being unlawful because it had bypassed the EHRC’s statutory duty to advise on religious discrimination.

The EHRC has urged the government to launch a full consultation on the definition in order to avoid the legal risks posed by adopting an official definition.

The definition was so broad surely it was unworkable. Plus, it is British culture to take mickey out of everybody isn’t it.

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