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SionnachRuadh · 12/09/2025 18:41

Ereshkigalangcleg · 12/09/2025 18:34

Yes, I don’t know what the answer is. I find it deeply disturbing how desensitised people are to violence.

Maybe growing up in Northern Ireland makes me particularly sensitive to glorification of violence.

Also, I think lots of people, maybe lots of young people especially, only ever experience violence as pixels on a screen.

I hear young people saying things like "punch nazis" and it's painfully obvious they've never been in a fight or maybe even seen one in real life. My memory of fights at school was that the fat kid usually won because they could use their weight against you. But lots of these antifa types seem to imagine violence like they're in a Spider-Man movie where you punch a bad guy on the jaw and he goes flying across the room.

They'll get quite a shock if they ever encouter real violence.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 12/09/2025 18:41

Yes, and video gaming where you can restart if you die.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 12/09/2025 18:43

Obviously having a gun when others don’t gives you an advantage, with a knife you have to get close and exert considerable physical effort.

LadyBracknellsHandbagg · 12/09/2025 19:06

FuckOffWithYourEllipses · 12/09/2025 17:57

You’ve misunderstood (or chosen to).

White feminism doesn’t mean “all white women” or that I know your race.

It means centring feminism around the issues that affect white women most, while treating racism as secondary.

That’s what your comment illustrated.

You misunderstood my comment (or chose to).

You know absolutely nothing about me or my personal circumstance, but have chosen to parade your progressive credentials in order to belittle those of us who don’t slavishly support what you consider to be important. I’m at a loss to understand why you believe that you are the moral arbiter in this scenario.

That is what your comment illustrated.

LadyBracknellsHandbagg · 12/09/2025 19:08

I’m finding it incredible that so many of us are ‘misunderstanding’ @FuckOffWithYourEllipses it’s obviously because of all our ‘white feminism’.

LadyBracknellsHandbagg · 12/09/2025 19:12

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Wow, absolutely breathtakingly offensive from you yet again.

LadyBracknellsHandbagg · 12/09/2025 19:14

FuckOffWithYourEllipses · 12/09/2025 18:08

Just seen your edit.

I can see this has been twisted into claims I never made. I won’t keep engaging on bad-faith straw men. My point was simply that feminism that minimises racism while centring only one issue is White Feminism. I stand by that.

You won’t keep engaging because several posters have called you out for being offensive and racist.

TempestTost · 12/09/2025 19:15

Ereshkigalangcleg · 12/09/2025 16:48

People have praised his debating and engaging. No one has praised him for gun views, anti abortion or racism, have they?

People have had a variety of views about a varieties of his opinions, from my reading.

And why shouldn't they? He thought differernt things about differernt subjects.

I suspect a lot of people would agree with him about pornography, for example. He had strong views that men should take care of their kids. Surrogacy, prostitution.

Most of the stuff people have posted where he spoke about race were about critical race theory types of things, which people in the UK are typically less into already.

Probably less so on abortion and some gun related stuff but even there it is not like MN is a hive mind. Most people in the UK accept the types of abortion limits the UK has, or even other parts of Europe, which are more conservative than the American left's view.

TheJoyOfWriting · 12/09/2025 19:20

TempestTost · 12/09/2025 19:15

People have had a variety of views about a varieties of his opinions, from my reading.

And why shouldn't they? He thought differernt things about differernt subjects.

I suspect a lot of people would agree with him about pornography, for example. He had strong views that men should take care of their kids. Surrogacy, prostitution.

Most of the stuff people have posted where he spoke about race were about critical race theory types of things, which people in the UK are typically less into already.

Probably less so on abortion and some gun related stuff but even there it is not like MN is a hive mind. Most people in the UK accept the types of abortion limits the UK has, or even other parts of Europe, which are more conservative than the American left's view.

Yes, I mean I think his opinion re rape was horribly extreme. I strongly support abortion rights up to 6 months. But otoh I also think the 'Up to birth' attitude in some blue states is horrible.

TempestTost · 12/09/2025 19:22

OrangePieHigh · 12/09/2025 17:35

Charlie Kirk supported gun violence. Felt the annual gun deaths were worth it, in order to uphold the second amendment.

That's a funny way to put it though, isn't it?

Would you say that deaths from car accidents are worth it, in order to allow people to whiz around all over the place?

Or would you say the occasional crime by an immigrant is worth it, in order to have movement of people between countries?

If I said these things meant you thought it was good that people were victims of crime from foreign pickpockets, say, or that it was just acceptable collateral damage that people die in car accidents, would you feel that was a fair way to characterise your views?

EmeraldShamrock000 · 12/09/2025 19:22

SionnachRuadh · 12/09/2025 17:58

We still know very little about the Pennsylvania shooter from a year ago. His online activity seems to have been politically all over the place, and kids who were his contemporaries at school barely remembered him. All the indications are that he was just a depressive incel who hated his life and saw the opportunity to make himself famous with a Grand Gesture, even if he got killed doing it.

I'm surprised there wasn't more about him, documentaries, talk shows, the anniversary of the shooting passed by quietly.
I find that strange.

TheJoyOfWriting · 12/09/2025 19:23

SionnachRuadh · 12/09/2025 18:24

There are a bunch of online spaces that are like this. Someone - Helen Joyce probably - was saying that there's an element of kids raising kids online and their parents not knowing what's happening.

For girls I think it's certain Tumblr or Reddit communities, since they've cracked down on the anorexia ones it's been trans and more recently spoonie communities.

For boys it seems to be porn, gaming or weird political subcultures, and with the political/cultural side it's a random throw of the dice whether they become wannabe fascists or wannabe communists or Andrew Tate followers or they pretend to convert to Greek Orthodoxy and start banging on about reconquering Constantinople. Any ideology will do if you can make it edgy enough.

This was one of the issues with Rudakabana, wasn't it, he'd been referred to Prevent multiple times but they couldn't deal with him because he didn't have a consistent ideology. In today's online world, trying to clamp down on specific ideologies starts to look like a very Tony Blair era analogue solution.

I think focusing on transgenderism & antifa solely is too narrow. The threats are all mixing together online.

In a way it's not new- Eric Hoffer in The True Believer noted that an extremism is often more important to an extremist than a particular cause.

TheJoyOfWriting · 12/09/2025 19:26

RayonSunrise · 12/09/2025 17:24

Helen Pluckrose, who is always consistent when others fold to tribalism, has pointed out that if you insist on free speech absolutism for one group you have to support it for the other. Which means that the Reform party wife should be able to say she wants to see migrant hotels burned down without fearing arrest or losing her career, and Abaraonye should be able to say something equally gross about Charlie Kirk.

Personally I believe free speech should stop at actively inciting or celebrating violence, but I believe that should apply to everyone.

Technically I would argue he wasn't inciting violence to happen so much as applauding violence that had already happened. Still vile.

 Otoh I think that Labour man who spoke about cutting Tory throats should be in jail.

Kneecap maybe too? It was more of an artistic performance- but is that an excuse?

ArabellaSaurus · 12/09/2025 19:26

TheJoyOfWriting · 12/09/2025 19:23

I think focusing on transgenderism & antifa solely is too narrow. The threats are all mixing together online.

In a way it's not new- Eric Hoffer in The True Believer noted that an extremism is often more important to an extremist than a particular cause.

Yes. Echoes of the recent 'trans' mass shooter - just hugely disordered in so many ways.

All I'd say is that the gender stuff doesn't help by sometimes collapsing all issues into 'dysphoria' and then potentially overlooking comorbidities that may need treatment.

TheJoyOfWriting · 12/09/2025 19:27

ThatBlackCat · 12/09/2025 17:42

The only people calling for the deaths of people are trans activists.

Which is no surprise.

That's not true I have seen right wingers calling for trans deaths.

TheJoyOfWriting · 12/09/2025 19:30

LadyBracknellsHandbagg · 12/09/2025 17:18

‘George Abaraonye, 20, reportedly posted on WhatsApp: 'Charlie Kirk got shot, let's f*ing go' and added a praying hands 'thanks' emoji’

This is from the newly elected Oxford Union president. What are these universities teaching these young people?

‘After his reaction went viral Abaraonye issued an apology, telling The Times that he had 'reacted impulsively' and made comments that he quickly deleted. Abaraonye said: 'Those words did not reflect my values. To be clear: nobody deserves to be the victim of political violence’

Can someone explain how those words don’t reflect his values, given that HE posted them?

He should ve expelled.

TempestTost · 12/09/2025 19:30

SionnachRuadh · 12/09/2025 18:41

Maybe growing up in Northern Ireland makes me particularly sensitive to glorification of violence.

Also, I think lots of people, maybe lots of young people especially, only ever experience violence as pixels on a screen.

I hear young people saying things like "punch nazis" and it's painfully obvious they've never been in a fight or maybe even seen one in real life. My memory of fights at school was that the fat kid usually won because they could use their weight against you. But lots of these antifa types seem to imagine violence like they're in a Spider-Man movie where you punch a bad guy on the jaw and he goes flying across the room.

They'll get quite a shock if they ever encouter real violence.

Quite a lot of kids don't get in fights now, they are too supervised at the age when that might have happened in the past. Fake violence is all they know.

TheJoyOfWriting · 12/09/2025 19:31

SionnachRuadh · 12/09/2025 18:41

Maybe growing up in Northern Ireland makes me particularly sensitive to glorification of violence.

Also, I think lots of people, maybe lots of young people especially, only ever experience violence as pixels on a screen.

I hear young people saying things like "punch nazis" and it's painfully obvious they've never been in a fight or maybe even seen one in real life. My memory of fights at school was that the fat kid usually won because they could use their weight against you. But lots of these antifa types seem to imagine violence like they're in a Spider-Man movie where you punch a bad guy on the jaw and he goes flying across the room.

They'll get quite a shock if they ever encouter real violence.

Gore videos & video games have desensitised a generation (more men but also women) to what violence is.

SionnachRuadh · 12/09/2025 19:32

TheJoyOfWriting · 12/09/2025 19:26

Technically I would argue he wasn't inciting violence to happen so much as applauding violence that had already happened. Still vile.

 Otoh I think that Labour man who spoke about cutting Tory throats should be in jail.

Kneecap maybe too? It was more of an artistic performance- but is that an excuse?

Well the thing about Kneecap is that they're middle class theatre kids posing as chavs, so their whole thing is "safe edgy".

You can see that in the way they use the Jon Stewart tactic of retreating to "we're just being satirical" when they say something that gets them in trouble.

I'm not a fan of them hanging out with the SWP either, but it's consistent with their pseudo-revolutionary shtick.

TheJoyOfWriting · 12/09/2025 19:32

TempestTost · 12/09/2025 19:30

Quite a lot of kids don't get in fights now, they are too supervised at the age when that might have happened in the past. Fake violence is all they know.

Unless you do boxing or wrestling another contact sport.

I think we should promote those more, esp to teen boys who otherwise might work out their aggression in another more negative way.

TheJoyOfWriting · 12/09/2025 19:33

SionnachRuadh · 12/09/2025 19:32

Well the thing about Kneecap is that they're middle class theatre kids posing as chavs, so their whole thing is "safe edgy".

You can see that in the way they use the Jon Stewart tactic of retreating to "we're just being satirical" when they say something that gets them in trouble.

I'm not a fan of them hanging out with the SWP either, but it's consistent with their pseudo-revolutionary shtick.

I guess no one really takes them seriously ...I hope...

OneAmberFinch · 12/09/2025 19:34

TheJoyOfWriting · 12/09/2025 19:23

I think focusing on transgenderism & antifa solely is too narrow. The threats are all mixing together online.

In a way it's not new- Eric Hoffer in The True Believer noted that an extremism is often more important to an extremist than a particular cause.

Agree about the mixed/incoherent ideologies, but transgenderism is interesting in that it doesn't get you a Prevent referral (and maybe even protects you from it?). "My son is hanging out on these weird trans discord channels" probably gets you and your son sent down a gender dysphoria helpline pathway which ignores or dismisses the extremist content. "Ah, they are just talking about killing terfs as a cry for help" or something. At most the system probably acknowledges that "some murderers happen to be trans, coincidentally" without acknowledging that the trans community was the radicalisation pathway.

nomas · 12/09/2025 19:36

Merrymouse · 12/09/2025 17:52

I’ve criticised the way White Feminism focuses on the trans thing to the exclusion of virtually everything else.

And in doing so displaying a rather patronising attitude to all the non-white women who also quite like to have words to defend women's rights.

I don’t think @FuckOffWithYourEllipses is being patronising at all. Feminist doesn’t automatically mean non-racist, as show by the Sandie Peggie case.

ArabellaSaurus · 12/09/2025 19:38

SionnachRuadh · 12/09/2025 19:32

Well the thing about Kneecap is that they're middle class theatre kids posing as chavs, so their whole thing is "safe edgy".

You can see that in the way they use the Jon Stewart tactic of retreating to "we're just being satirical" when they say something that gets them in trouble.

I'm not a fan of them hanging out with the SWP either, but it's consistent with their pseudo-revolutionary shtick.

They're also of a generation that didn't experience the Troubles or the horrific violence- I recall being viscerally horrified at kneecapping, but to these lads it's all a bit of a laugh.

Still, teenagers shocking their parents is nothing new.

nomas · 12/09/2025 19:39

ThatBlackCat · 12/09/2025 17:56

For many of us black rape survivors, it IS the most fundamental issue. So you can take your 'White' Feminism slur and your racism and go away.

Single sex places are an absolute necessity but black women are dealing with much worse challenges than that, like institutional racism.

The thread is being derailed, btw, this should be moved to a separate thread.

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